Seven nights. That's how many nights I've been out in a row this past week, meeting girls, shooting the shit, making connections and exploring fucking life.
My mind is changing here's a few big realizations I've had about myself. I was at one of my favourite places in our area, a secluded beach with tall cliffs you have to navigate to get down to the beach and best of all there are no other people. It's the perfect place to bring a blanket, a nice cigar and a great book, allowing the waves to inspire your mind and give you focus.
I also tried to swim in the icy water, but I couldn't get past my ankles..too fucking cold.
So anyway, I laid the blanket out on the melting ice, lit up the cigar and started reading "Osho -" . The waves were crashing into my icy perch, splashing my cigar and book with vengeance.
There's something very magical about reading a book like "Osho" in these sort of places, you feel like you're reading wisdom from the earth itself and nature is accepting you with a warm embrace. True beauty.
While reading, I started to think about life and how we as humans should live more according to our nature, embracing nature instead of fighting it. I thought about my own nature and how when I'm out in the wilderness, I become like a child. Climbing shit, swimming in places I shouldn't, wandering around with a curiosity for everything. The wilderness is my playground.
Then I thought about "game" and how to live truer to myself and I came to the realization that the bars, clubs, nightlife and civilization is still the wilderness and that the child-like spirit I have in the forest shouldn't stay just in the forest.
The night-scene is your forest for you to fuck around with and have fun.
This makes complete sense to me.
After this realization, I sat there motionless, looking into the waves, watching them build and release their energy into the shore. Waves are seductive, you can't help but stare at them and want to join them. Then I came to another realization.
The energy of the whole entire scene. Reading, smoking the cigar, laying on an icy outcrop with the waves crashing into the shore and sun just peeking through the clouds is the energy and "feeling" I should try to manifest, I made a point to open up all of my senses and really feel the moment, feel it completely, then bottle up that moment and feeling to call upon later when I'm feeling anxious or stuck in my head.
This worked out wonders when I went out that night. Think of the waves.
Before I go into the night, I want to outline why it works.
You make the night the adventure, you are an explorer looking to find cool shit and interesting people, climb the trees, skip along the rocks. This makes you open to anything, you aren't just out to get laid but rather you want to experience everything and that includes fucking.
You don't worry about saying silly things to a group of girls, rejection or going to a venue and realizing you don't like the vibe. Move to the next one.
This mentality frees you because now you're not trying to impress people, or impress girls instead you just want to experience things. You want to have fun and it reflects in every word you say and action you make.
Onto my night out,
The first girls I talked to was 6 or 7 girls in a group, the opener I used is one of my favourite.. "how is your night?"
Asking "how's your night" is a good gauge of how open the girls are to strangers. The sign you want is if she asks how yours is as well. If they don't even bother to ask, it's usually a good sign to dip.
These girls were receptive but sort of closed off, I felt like I was intruding on something like they just wanted a night out with friends minus any guys.
I felt they were there for a reason, which was true because one of the loud girls said "she's getting engaged", I started talking to her about weddings, shared a few stories and wished the girls a good night.
The main part of this interaction was that it got me talking and vibing, energy which I carried over into the next approach at a different bar.
I left the first bar because it's vibe was off, it was some 40-year-old pigs birthday (she must have been 400 pounds) and her fat friends were celebrating.
I went to the bar across the street, it has a nice laid back vibe with pool tables in the back. Pool is a great way to meet other people, it's easy to ask someone for a game and if it's a girl you're playing with you can poke fun of her for sucking (most girls suck).
I played a few rounds by myself, played against one guy and then the bouncer at the place wanted to play. We played 3-4 times, I beat him each time and we started talking I was showing him some shots and he was a pretty cool dude.
During the 4th game I was waiting for him to make a shot and a few cute girls walked past me, I yelled "hey girls, hows your night?" and they stopped, said it was good and asked me how mine was. I said "good" smirked and they walked to the far corner.
I played a few more games of pool, finished my drink and went to the bar to order another. There was a cute girl there, which I opened while ordering my drink.
Can't remember what I said.
I think I just said "hows your night?" and then we started talking, I told her I finished work a few hours ago and the party is starting now. At one point, she told me she's a lot older than me...30 haha. I smiled and said you look damn good for your age darling. We talked some more and then I went and sat down in another area of the bar, there were two girls next to me and the one closest had her back turned.
I had a bit of anxiety but then I remembered that the bar is my forest. I opened this one with "hows your night?"
She turned around, looked at me and said "good yours".
I told her I was loving my night, the party is just starting for me and we started talking. This conversation was great, good vibe, I don't remember half the shit I said. I was too in the moment, I made fun of her school, she made fun of mine and we vibed for a good 20 minutes before I invited her to come with me to another bar.
She and her friend did.
I was completely in state, the world was my forest. I brought her to the bar, told her to sit down and grabbed a drink.
Girls can really pick up on your sub-conscious energy, I felt so in the zone and positive the girl behind the bar lit up soon as she saw me, big smiles, I told her I needed a drink.
She goes just one?
And at first, I said yea..then I figured I should probably order another.
I said "you know what, make that two. I got a cute girl back there who needs one."
She smiled.
After getting the drink, I walked over to the table and sat down next to the girl.
I told her I got her a present (put the drink in front of her), she asked what it was and I said taste it. She did, her eyes lit up.
This was a really fun girl, I told her she was a pile of giggles around me and that I liked it.
Her fat friend next to her was kind of bored though, I had a feeling she was gonna do some dumb shit.
I was vibing so well with this girl, I grabbed her thigh and looked at her eyes, then lips and leaned in. Her fat friend then says "Oh no." or something, this caused the girl to be self conscious and rejected the advance.
Then her friend said she has a boyfriend and all kinds of shit, I said I'm not looking to be her boyfriend, and they both laughed.
Didn't get any further with this girl.
We chilled for a bit more, I kept looking at her lips and she kept laughing (I didn't realize how girls can tell when you want to kiss them just by looking at where your eyes are looking.)
It was so fun, I told her "I bet I can make you laugh" and then I just looked at her eyes and lips, then she started giggling.
But after a while, I got bored. Told her to come with me to another bar.
She said maybe, and I left.
Never saw her again.
The next bar was a sort of club/bar with good electronic music playing.
I approached a few girls but couldn't hear shit.
I think in these kinds of venues, I want to try eye contact and non-vocal game. If girls can tell you want to kiss them, I wonder what else you can communicate just through the eyes and body language.
I ran into a co-worker here, she's really hot and we did a bunch of shots. She got shit faced and we hung out for a bit.
I went out for a smoke a few times, approached a few girls and one girl was interested but she wasn't that attractive.
I left the club venue at this time for some food, ended up at a pizza place and approached a group of four girls and a guy. My game was crap at this point, I was super tired and drunk. The one girl there was 100% my type but she was stone cold sober and not approving of my drunk game.
I left after this, drove to a field and got super high before passing out in the back of my car. Woke up and had left my damn lights on, had to call roadside to boost my car and tell them I was in the field because I went for a hike haha.
Then I went out last night and it was dead.
I brought some writing with me, wrote in my journal and when I finished I approached two girls at a table, they looked pretty interesting so that was my opener.
"hey girls, you two look interesting"
I sat down next to the one and asked if I was interrupting a serious conversation.
They told me I wasn't and we started talking, this conversation was okay they were heavy liberals and the one was super, super cute in a hipster sort of way.
We talked for probably 15 minutes and then I left, saying I'm going to another bar and they can come join.
I go to the bar, played some pool and guess who I see stroll in? The girls.
Now, I can't decide if there was interest or not. They came to the bar and they ran into friends, so they started talking to their friends. The one girl left leaving just the super cute one. I smiled at the cute girl and she sort of semi-smiled back.
I was intimidated a bit, I wanted to approach her in front of her friends but I didn't do it. I don't know if she came there for me or not. She never approached me, we did talk for a minute though.
I think she was into me, but I didn't notice it. The good thing is she lives in the city and frequents one of my favourite cafes. Should be very easy to approach her again, tell her that she's super fucking cute and that I want her number.
The rest of the night I played pool with this old guy, his daughter and her brother (?). I have no clue.
I flirted with the daughter of course, she was a good-looking blonde and couldn't stop telling me about how she likes my watch.
I said something to her like
"you look like you want to have fun"
I didn't realize this until after I said it but any girl would take the above comment as meaning "sex" , I think placing a statement like this when I approach a girl is a good way to gauge her openness/interest.
After seven nights out in a row I've learned a good amount about the types of girls that are out and the vibe the girls have when out.
I think I need to focus less on one night stands. I'm going to go out, and try to grab more numbers and then follow them up later in the week. I DO think the girls here want to have sex, but most of them do not want to fuck a random stranger in the same night. I think simple date game is going to get more mileage.
But I know some girls out are horny and want to fuck, I just have to learn how to notice these girls but girls are less open sexually here.
Overall though, the last two nights were a lot of fun, the mentality switch to
"I am the fucking party, the party doesn't start until I walk through that fucking door."
"The minute I walk through the door, girls get wet"
and
"The town is just like the forest, act like a child and have fun."
have been pivotal to these fun nights.
Also, I saw my Ex while out last night. I didn't even say anything to her, felt no need. I take one look at her and realize she's a HUGE step backward from the life I am living and working towards now. Part of me wishes that super cute hipster girl was on my arm though when I saw her, that would have been funny.
My mind is changing here's a few big realizations I've had about myself. I was at one of my favourite places in our area, a secluded beach with tall cliffs you have to navigate to get down to the beach and best of all there are no other people. It's the perfect place to bring a blanket, a nice cigar and a great book, allowing the waves to inspire your mind and give you focus.
I also tried to swim in the icy water, but I couldn't get past my ankles..too fucking cold.
So anyway, I laid the blanket out on the melting ice, lit up the cigar and started reading "Osho -" . The waves were crashing into my icy perch, splashing my cigar and book with vengeance.
There's something very magical about reading a book like "Osho" in these sort of places, you feel like you're reading wisdom from the earth itself and nature is accepting you with a warm embrace. True beauty.
While reading, I started to think about life and how we as humans should live more according to our nature, embracing nature instead of fighting it. I thought about my own nature and how when I'm out in the wilderness, I become like a child. Climbing shit, swimming in places I shouldn't, wandering around with a curiosity for everything. The wilderness is my playground.
Then I thought about "game" and how to live truer to myself and I came to the realization that the bars, clubs, nightlife and civilization is still the wilderness and that the child-like spirit I have in the forest shouldn't stay just in the forest.
The night-scene is your forest for you to fuck around with and have fun.
This makes complete sense to me.
After this realization, I sat there motionless, looking into the waves, watching them build and release their energy into the shore. Waves are seductive, you can't help but stare at them and want to join them. Then I came to another realization.
The energy of the whole entire scene. Reading, smoking the cigar, laying on an icy outcrop with the waves crashing into the shore and sun just peeking through the clouds is the energy and "feeling" I should try to manifest, I made a point to open up all of my senses and really feel the moment, feel it completely, then bottle up that moment and feeling to call upon later when I'm feeling anxious or stuck in my head.
This worked out wonders when I went out that night. Think of the waves.
Before I go into the night, I want to outline why it works.
You make the night the adventure, you are an explorer looking to find cool shit and interesting people, climb the trees, skip along the rocks. This makes you open to anything, you aren't just out to get laid but rather you want to experience everything and that includes fucking.
You don't worry about saying silly things to a group of girls, rejection or going to a venue and realizing you don't like the vibe. Move to the next one.
This mentality frees you because now you're not trying to impress people, or impress girls instead you just want to experience things. You want to have fun and it reflects in every word you say and action you make.
Onto my night out,
The first girls I talked to was 6 or 7 girls in a group, the opener I used is one of my favourite.. "how is your night?"
Asking "how's your night" is a good gauge of how open the girls are to strangers. The sign you want is if she asks how yours is as well. If they don't even bother to ask, it's usually a good sign to dip.
These girls were receptive but sort of closed off, I felt like I was intruding on something like they just wanted a night out with friends minus any guys.
I felt they were there for a reason, which was true because one of the loud girls said "she's getting engaged", I started talking to her about weddings, shared a few stories and wished the girls a good night.
The main part of this interaction was that it got me talking and vibing, energy which I carried over into the next approach at a different bar.
I left the first bar because it's vibe was off, it was some 40-year-old pigs birthday (she must have been 400 pounds) and her fat friends were celebrating.
I went to the bar across the street, it has a nice laid back vibe with pool tables in the back. Pool is a great way to meet other people, it's easy to ask someone for a game and if it's a girl you're playing with you can poke fun of her for sucking (most girls suck).
I played a few rounds by myself, played against one guy and then the bouncer at the place wanted to play. We played 3-4 times, I beat him each time and we started talking I was showing him some shots and he was a pretty cool dude.
During the 4th game I was waiting for him to make a shot and a few cute girls walked past me, I yelled "hey girls, hows your night?" and they stopped, said it was good and asked me how mine was. I said "good" smirked and they walked to the far corner.
I played a few more games of pool, finished my drink and went to the bar to order another. There was a cute girl there, which I opened while ordering my drink.
Can't remember what I said.
I think I just said "hows your night?" and then we started talking, I told her I finished work a few hours ago and the party is starting now. At one point, she told me she's a lot older than me...30 haha. I smiled and said you look damn good for your age darling. We talked some more and then I went and sat down in another area of the bar, there were two girls next to me and the one closest had her back turned.
I had a bit of anxiety but then I remembered that the bar is my forest. I opened this one with "hows your night?"
She turned around, looked at me and said "good yours".
I told her I was loving my night, the party is just starting for me and we started talking. This conversation was great, good vibe, I don't remember half the shit I said. I was too in the moment, I made fun of her school, she made fun of mine and we vibed for a good 20 minutes before I invited her to come with me to another bar.
She and her friend did.
I was completely in state, the world was my forest. I brought her to the bar, told her to sit down and grabbed a drink.
Girls can really pick up on your sub-conscious energy, I felt so in the zone and positive the girl behind the bar lit up soon as she saw me, big smiles, I told her I needed a drink.
She goes just one?
And at first, I said yea..then I figured I should probably order another.
I said "you know what, make that two. I got a cute girl back there who needs one."
She smiled.
After getting the drink, I walked over to the table and sat down next to the girl.
I told her I got her a present (put the drink in front of her), she asked what it was and I said taste it. She did, her eyes lit up.
This was a really fun girl, I told her she was a pile of giggles around me and that I liked it.
Her fat friend next to her was kind of bored though, I had a feeling she was gonna do some dumb shit.
I was vibing so well with this girl, I grabbed her thigh and looked at her eyes, then lips and leaned in. Her fat friend then says "Oh no." or something, this caused the girl to be self conscious and rejected the advance.
Then her friend said she has a boyfriend and all kinds of shit, I said I'm not looking to be her boyfriend, and they both laughed.
Didn't get any further with this girl.
We chilled for a bit more, I kept looking at her lips and she kept laughing (I didn't realize how girls can tell when you want to kiss them just by looking at where your eyes are looking.)
It was so fun, I told her "I bet I can make you laugh" and then I just looked at her eyes and lips, then she started giggling.
But after a while, I got bored. Told her to come with me to another bar.
She said maybe, and I left.
Never saw her again.
The next bar was a sort of club/bar with good electronic music playing.
I approached a few girls but couldn't hear shit.
I think in these kinds of venues, I want to try eye contact and non-vocal game. If girls can tell you want to kiss them, I wonder what else you can communicate just through the eyes and body language.
I ran into a co-worker here, she's really hot and we did a bunch of shots. She got shit faced and we hung out for a bit.
I went out for a smoke a few times, approached a few girls and one girl was interested but she wasn't that attractive.
I left the club venue at this time for some food, ended up at a pizza place and approached a group of four girls and a guy. My game was crap at this point, I was super tired and drunk. The one girl there was 100% my type but she was stone cold sober and not approving of my drunk game.
I left after this, drove to a field and got super high before passing out in the back of my car. Woke up and had left my damn lights on, had to call roadside to boost my car and tell them I was in the field because I went for a hike haha.
Then I went out last night and it was dead.
I brought some writing with me, wrote in my journal and when I finished I approached two girls at a table, they looked pretty interesting so that was my opener.
"hey girls, you two look interesting"
I sat down next to the one and asked if I was interrupting a serious conversation.
They told me I wasn't and we started talking, this conversation was okay they were heavy liberals and the one was super, super cute in a hipster sort of way.
We talked for probably 15 minutes and then I left, saying I'm going to another bar and they can come join.
I go to the bar, played some pool and guess who I see stroll in? The girls.
Now, I can't decide if there was interest or not. They came to the bar and they ran into friends, so they started talking to their friends. The one girl left leaving just the super cute one. I smiled at the cute girl and she sort of semi-smiled back.
I was intimidated a bit, I wanted to approach her in front of her friends but I didn't do it. I don't know if she came there for me or not. She never approached me, we did talk for a minute though.
I think she was into me, but I didn't notice it. The good thing is she lives in the city and frequents one of my favourite cafes. Should be very easy to approach her again, tell her that she's super fucking cute and that I want her number.
The rest of the night I played pool with this old guy, his daughter and her brother (?). I have no clue.
I flirted with the daughter of course, she was a good-looking blonde and couldn't stop telling me about how she likes my watch.
I said something to her like
"you look like you want to have fun"
I didn't realize this until after I said it but any girl would take the above comment as meaning "sex" , I think placing a statement like this when I approach a girl is a good way to gauge her openness/interest.
After seven nights out in a row I've learned a good amount about the types of girls that are out and the vibe the girls have when out.
I think I need to focus less on one night stands. I'm going to go out, and try to grab more numbers and then follow them up later in the week. I DO think the girls here want to have sex, but most of them do not want to fuck a random stranger in the same night. I think simple date game is going to get more mileage.
But I know some girls out are horny and want to fuck, I just have to learn how to notice these girls but girls are less open sexually here.
Overall though, the last two nights were a lot of fun, the mentality switch to
"I am the fucking party, the party doesn't start until I walk through that fucking door."
"The minute I walk through the door, girls get wet"
and
"The town is just like the forest, act like a child and have fun."
have been pivotal to these fun nights.
Also, I saw my Ex while out last night. I didn't even say anything to her, felt no need. I take one look at her and realize she's a HUGE step backward from the life I am living and working towards now. Part of me wishes that super cute hipster girl was on my arm though when I saw her, that would have been funny.
