Still haven't used Tinder. Went out last night, the write-up below is about the night out.
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I'm really happy with last night. I learned a lot, had fun and made out with a girl who I met at a cafe.
So, let's re-cap the day. I was stuck in my head early on. Very much stuck in my head, I felt like the whole world was watching me and the antennas on my body were going wild. I had to reign in that energy, which is why I went on a hike. Hikes always help me focus my energy.
The first girl I approached I asked for directions to a certain hike spot. I didn't realize how pretty was though until she took her hood off, she had effortless beauty to her. I should have told her "wow, you're cute. I want to go on my hike but let me get your number and I can figure out why I'm attracted to you." but I was too stuck in my own head to do that.
After being told where the hike was and that I was in the wrong area, a fence separated the forest from the student houses. A fence which I jumped. I didn't have to but I love adventure, jumping the fence is a lot more fun than walking around it.
I went for the walk, it was fucking freezing and the area felt like a desolate frozen wasteland. I imagined I was an explorer from back in Columbus days, the wind that was gusting was freezing my face but I kept trudging along.
I brought binoculars on the walk, hoping to find some birds or some other form of life that I can watch and gain inspiration from. On the walk I heard chirping in the bushes, I slowed my step down and followed the noise. As I got closer, I realized that it wasn't just 1 or 2 birds, it was more like 8 - 10 Robins huddled together hiding from the cold and keeping warm. I was the only one stupid enough to be outside wandering the wasteland in these temperatures.
I began a dialogue with them, asking what they were up to. Asking if they could help me get out of my head while I observed with my binoculars their behaviour. I talked to them for a bit longer and left them to continue doing their bird things.
On my way back to civilization, I felt my awareness steadily increasing, my thoughts that were clouding my brain were drifting away and my body was becoming one with the frozen wasteland. Each breath I felt like I was inhaling the wilderness spirit, I thanked the birds for helping me.
After the walk I went to a Coffee Shop to warm up my frozen face. When I was ordering my hot water, I noticed a cute girl steadily in the corner. I sat next to her and asked her why she's studying so early in the semester. She told me she had a physics test and she's been studying all day. I told her to take a break with me, so she did.
This conversation went well I was focusing on being in the moment and my energy was much more focused this time. I felt grounded.
Something I did notice during this conversation was that I was apologetic at times in the conversation. I would tease her or say something and then try to downplay what I said. I need to stop doing this.
After 15 minutes I told her she should get back to work and that she should give me her number.
That was yesterday and she still hasn't responded.
I want to work on getting into girls heads more, instead of just running charming game. There's 10000's of charming guys, what makes me different? I actually enjoy the psychology behind game, I also really wanted to say to her
"I want to figure out why I'm attracted to you. " But I didn't. I was kind of scared (lol).
I left the Coffee Shop and made my way to a cafe downtown that was hosting their Open Mic Thursdays.
Upon entering the cafe, I noticed a cute girl sitting at a table by herself with her instrument. Easy open.
"Are you performing for the open mic?"
She told me how she wasn't and was actually part of an orchestra. This conversation I was fully present, I had my energy grounded and I was focusing all of my energy towards her. I find as an introvert, this is a powerful move if it's done right. I have so much energy inside me and when I focus it all on a girl I'm speaking to her, she definitely feels it. I know this because when I did this, she sort of "wiggled" in her chair which a good sign she was into me.
I went for the number and told her we have to grab a drink. She agreed and said she's only in town until Sunday. Perfect. Her name was Sarah.
After this interaction I grabbed a chair and started to write and work on my stuff.
Side note: If you're an artist type, working on your work at a cafe is a very easy way to get female attention.
After my writing, 6 girls with UK accents came in and got a table. Some of them were quite good looking, I had to approach.
With game, it's important to be aware of the right and wrong time to approach. There's an element of timing, you want to get the girls when their gossip conversation has fizzled out. Once this happens, swoop in, they're bored and will be much more receptive to your approach.
Also, I want to mention that you shouldn't be approaching all cute girls you see. As you work on the game, you're going to figure out what type of girls you're into and which ones you aren't. You will also realize that some sets are just not going to be receptive to an approach, if the girl is in a serious conversation with her friends then you should wait until that conversation dies and if it doesn't leave her be.
As an introvert, you have limited energy you can't waste it on random girls that you either have no interest in or girls that are busy and not open to being approached. Spend your time wisely.
Once the group of 6 girls were bored, I swooped in. It didn't really go well, I'm terrible in group situations I don't know how to charm large groups, I think in the future I should focus on talking to the girl that is quiet and isn't completely included in the conversation. Instead of trying to address the entire group because with the entire group, there will be conversations you can't be apart of because you don't know the person or event that's being discussed. Another idea could be to ask the group questions, turn yourself into the centre of attention by getting everyone talking.
I could have done this with the UK girls by asking them if they miss their homelands or something. Addressing all of the girls and then creating a discussion between them about the question I asked.
I felt the vibe dropping, and I bid them farewell and made my way to another room in the cafe. Saw 2 girls playing Monopoly, another easy approach.
"Are you ladies part of the open mic?"
"Who's winning?"
The conversation started off solid, good energy and I was jibing at the girls for being too shy to perform
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. I asked them if I could play and they said sure but they wanted to finish the game first. I thought it wouldn't be long so I grabbed a seat.
It was really hard to get their attention while they were playing, I didn't really know if I should be serious or flirty or what. I had no idea what to say for most of the time so I sat there, watching the performers on the stage and their game. I occasionally made fun of their poor money management and stealing from the bank but I didn't want to force conversation so I basked in the silences.
An hour later they finished and now they had another girlfriend showup. We started playing all 4 of us, and thats when I got a text from Sara.
"Want to grab a beer?"
Game on darling.
I told my Monopoly girls I had to meet with a friend and told them bye.
Before I left, one of the girls tells me I look like the guy from Spider Man.
My response is a good example of being "apologetic". When she told me I looked like Spider Man, I said "Were you the girl who took my mask off?" she told me she was and then I said something stupid "Sorry to disappoint, I can't shoot webs and I'm not Spider Man" <- What a dumb thing to say.
I met up with Sarah and started to seduce her. We start chatting and she tells me that her friends call her "The Tinder Queen" - oh god. That turned me off a bit. She told me this right after I said "Isn't this better than Tinder?" I told her I quit the app.
During a good vibe in the conversation, I went to touch her leg and she jerks away "That's weird." Sigh.
Looking back on this interaction, I talk too fucking much. Less is more with girls, I don't need to spill my bloody guts with every fucking girl. I don't ramble but I need to play up the mystery, I don't need to respond to her questions with direct, well thought out answers. She should fill in the gaps.
I want to get into her mind, I can't do that by talking like a fool. Shut the fuck up.
I think this was almost a sure thing and I fucked it up.
I went for the kiss and she turned away, back to square one. Then I went for the kiss again after 30 or so minutes. Turned away, but she didn't move away just turned her head.
After 2 hours in the bar, I told her I'll drive her home and show her a few cool spots in the area. I took her to a cool hangout spot outside the city and a hidden lake.
In the parking lot, I went for the kiss again. She did the same thing. Then at the lake I tried again, same thing.
Now I had to call this out. I said
"Are you shy?"
"Is there something on your mind"
She tells me she's good, okay...
I was kind of rattled, I wanted to make out for fucks sake.
I drove her to her uncles place, we hugged bye and she kissed me on my neck, below my jaw on the right side of my face. Okay...
I touched her face and went for the kiss and she turned away slightly, this time I told myself "fuck this" and grabbed her face and we made out. Fuck. Soon as we kissed, I could feel her melt I knew she wanted it but blocked herself.
Bloody hell. Why would a girl do this?
I stopped the kiss and told her I'll see you before you leave maybe.
We texted, she wanted to know I got home safe. Then I told her we should go on an adventure today.
She responds "What were you thinking?"
This is where I fucked up...
"Hike and a surprise at the end."
No response. That was a stupid fucking text.
I wanted to take her to a really cool spot with a waterfall and I wanted the waterfall to be the surprise but I think I came across like a try hard with saying a "surprise" at the end. I should have said "find out tomorrow 2pm" but alas I fucked up.
She hasn't responded and then I started beating myself up. Calling myself names like "Loser" "idiot" but then I realized I did something most dudes couldn't do. I put my balls on the table, approaching a group of 6, getting myself out of my head and not letting that ruin my day, I made out with a girl I met a cafe and she paid for my drinks at the bar as well.
I can't get to down on myself, I'm putting myself out there. I'm learning game with no online crutches and I already after a month of working on my game got a make-out on the same day. I have to give myself credit.
Today, I'm going to to go out again. I'm going to put the things I learned into practice and I really want to go for a dip in the lake. I know it's freezing but something is drawing me to go for a 30 second swim. I feel like it's going to be a rewarding feeling and experience.
