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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-20-2017, 04:19 AM
Agree totally with Dukes assessment of what works and what doesn't and at his path forward.
Older guys with family connections (States or Canada) have choices to make on leaving that behind (for SEA)
The web suks for real human contact
Direct flights 6 or 7 hours best....don't write off EE or Europe Duke
Building or integrating into a countries social fabricate is great and it works
Try to avoid marriage...having another family...at all costs..lmao... (yet stil have deep meaningful connections with women being the goal)
Duke I'm certain by your 60's (the new 40's?) or 70's your going to have built something up that fits your plans
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-20-2017, 08:20 AM
Step 1 is change your age to 46 or so and see ow things change. Changes in increments.
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-20-2017, 11:40 PM
Tinder sux for older dudes, get on a "serious" online dating platform (like RSVP in Oz) and definately get photos of you in the pilot's seat of a plane.
Man you will slay with a job like that and good looks etc.
Of course if your target market is 18 year olds, that's not going to work. But you should have them lined up 10-15 years younger than you!
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-21-2017, 12:47 AM
You are a pilot and you are "online dating"? Why?
Why shoot your own foot?
Just walk arounf in your uniform.
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-29-2017, 12:03 AM
OP I have had the same experience......I am 50 and I still get quite good interest from younger girls in person but the internet dating is beyond useless (UK and Thailand both)......tinder is more of a game to play when these bitches are bored it seems......swipe left, swipe right, have a short chat and then thats it.
I created a new tinder profile that was 10 years younger (40) and it still didn't improve.
I can only echo what someone else said about it making you more negative.....I deleted the app.
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-29-2017, 12:04 PM
I posted this on another thread, but As you get older you will fall outside of a lot of women’s ‘preferences’, but that shouldn’t matter if you think of it as a sheer numbers game and do it in an alpha manner while being outcome independent. Don’t take it personal either. Message every girl that strikes your fancy and put them on their toes with your message, qualifying them. And don’t give a f if any respond to you at all, your toes are still tapping (fast times reference, lol).
A lot of older men approach it with a defeatist attitude instead of a game.
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-29-2017, 04:04 PM
There's a couple of guys on here who are really good at instgram and online dating profiles. I can't think of names but you might want to reach out to them. In countries that are lower socio-economically than the west, your age should not matter much. I would drop it down or be more realistic about the women you're looking for. A few years ago I met guys in their 60s doing well on Thai friendly and the Filipino version. Most did lie about their age though. In all reality the chick looking for a westerner probably doesn't care if you're 55 or 25 as long as she thinks you have what she wants (which in many cases is the potential to be a provider). I'd definitely say have someone take a look at your profiles.
Regarding where to live, it's tough to say without knowing more about you. How much do you make? What do you do? What kind of women are you REALLY looking for (if you want to date 30+ years younger than you it may limit your options)? Personally, I would probably spend more time in the foreign country and less time in the US as it will be harder to and take more work to break in socially outside of the US.
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-29-2017, 05:14 PM
Online dating is largely dependent on where you live.
If you live in a place with few single women, and marginal single women, your results will reflect that.
I didnt catch where you live, but I have been to many unpopulated or lower populated areas around the world and US, that offer abysmal results for the single man. In many of these areas, you will find many single moms, overweight and unattractive women, or lower quality women(uneducated, tattooed/pierced, low earning job, etc). If I were stuck in an area like this, I would plan frequent trips away to better areas. Since you're a pilot thats easy.
For your list, I would forget Orlando and Houston. No one is moving to either city and they are not seen as hot cities to live in now, so you are going to have an unimpressive pool of local women to choose from. Since you are completely free and can do what you want, I would look to live in one of the hottest cities in the US, where millenials and people in general are moving to. LV is a maybe, but there are a lot of trampy(tattooed/pierced/partier) women there, that have the legs and track record to stay out partying all night in the clubs. That may be what you want, but not for me. I know from experience.
For a guy like you, I would strongly consider living in; Miami South Beach, Austin, Chicago Downtown/Gold Coast, Boston, LA Marina Del Rey/Manhattan Beach, Manhattan NYC, Salt Lake City(if you ski), Denver, Atlanta.
For your profile, a lot has been said, but good pics are the key. I would also put your profession in your bio. I would cap the upper age limit to 40. I would target college educated girls, no single moms, no tats, no party girls. I would also try Bumble, its been way more successful for me than Tinder. Tinder sucks now.
I recently deleted all my online/app dating accounts, after a successful stretch over the last six months of dating several women 10-15 years younger simultaneously. And having much success. But none I want to stay with. From here until Jan 1 I want to focus on work, the gym, volunteering, and resetting to go out and find some more to play with, or to find an LTR. I actually need to get some sleep too....
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-29-2017, 07:34 PM
Quote: (10-29-2017 05:14 PM)Vaun Wrote:
I would cap the upper age limit to 40. I would target college educated girls, no single moms, no tats, no party girls. I would also try Bumble, its been way more successful for me than Tinder. Tinder sucks now.
Age bracket to 40 with no single moms? OP is in his 50s, so other than gold diggers, (or amazing fortune) the vast majority of quality 20-something women will not be interested (sorry OP, just keepin' it real). That in turn means the vast majority of childless women will be out of reach for the OP.
For an LTR it might be worthwhile to hold out for a woman without kids, but for some casual fun, if she's attractive, no drama and DTF, a single mom should be alright. Provided of course she's not a golddigger expecting him to foot the kid's bills.
The other thing I'd suggest, OP, is to really broaden the geographical net to include the entire country. You fly a whole lot anyway, so even if a woman happens to live a flight away that shouldn't be as much of a barrier for you.
Pussy ain't for pussies...
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
10-29-2017, 08:05 PM
I agree that women who are childless past 30-35 should be viewed with extreme suspicion. However, there are some possible exceptions. Personally I've met some great older girls who married older men at an early age and then became widows after a few years. Then there's of course also women who are infertile for some reason but may otherwise be high quality. Let's not make it a false choice between skanky soon-to-be grannies and runaway Ursuline nuns.
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Older Guy Giving up on Online Dating
11-01-2017, 02:34 AM
I agree. I noticed in the States when my profile hit 49 my online traffic dropped about 80% overnight. I deleted my profile and after about 30 days, as an experiment, created an identical profile, but rolled back my age 3 years, response rates returned to where it was when my actual age was 48. At 49 I was clearly being associated with fifty something's, a death sentence in the online world if still gong for under 40 women.
Advice to the pilot, if your physical attributes are as you say they are, just step up day gaming and leave most of the online stuff to the twenty-somethings.