Quote: (09-09-2011 09:45 PM)CupCake Wrote:
I've been in a bad mood lately and I'm finding myself falling into the old habit of isolating myself and doing nothing but passive activities. I've been doing this stuff for years and I gotta kill this before it ruins me.
Any ideas on how to make friends and get myself more active?
You don't really become friends with people purely out of compatibility. You become friends with someone when:
1. Circumstances put you two together, such as your house, gym or job.
2. You have something valuable to offer, such as connections.
3. Neither of you have many friends.
4. You share a harrowing/bonding experience.
5. You are extremely similar - rare in my experience.
6. You share uncommon interests that require other people.
I've made friends without any of these, but they're much more likely to peter out.
The more similar you dress to a man, the easier it is to befriend him. Not recommending you change your style, just stating a fact.
Joining a class is a good way, but you may not meet the quality of people you want, it's very hit or miss. People who already have a good set of friends will rarely make the effort to make more. Look for the transients, those new to the area.
Like Dash recommended, becoming a waiter in some spots can be great. Honestly, in my area, there's a ton of cool people who work at restaurants, and hang with each other as a result.
I rarely want to be friends with girls, and it's hurting my ability to meet more girls via social circle. If I try it haphazardly, the chick figures out I just want to bang her friends (he seems bored of me yet he keeps asking what my "friends" are doing...).