[mcgooie]

If you had agreed to meet someone who cancelled at last minute and they did it a 2nd time as well (on both occasions I had a backup plan so no great loss), what would you do if they just messaged to say they are free this week?
I was literally seconds away from blocking them anyway

[Iso]

You don't. You should respect your time.

[Uhondo]

I've had a serial flaker, in bed fully undressed begging me to phuck her.
But the thing is that i really had things going on that kept me busy. At the time her flakes barely flashed on my radar. And let me tell you that my nonchalance about hanging out with her caused her to come up with all sorts of fantasies in her head about the kind of guy i am.
With time It got her chasing real aggressively; begging me to come over etc. It was a relatively easy score.

The mantra is to be genuinely busy.

Whether she flakes or not will not move you.

[Sam Malone]

First thought:


Second thought, if you're really into meeting this chick, and she's free this week as she says:

Don't message back immediately. Let the hamster spin.

Follow up in a few hours, tell her that you've got a lot going on this week..

You: "When are you available ?"
Her: "(Gives a night she can hang.)"
You: "Any other night work for you ?"
Her; "I can do ______ night, too."
You: "Cool, I'll be at X around X time. Come through."

Whatever night she throws out first, you can't make it (no reason to tell her why). Let her offer up a second night, that will help give you an idea of interest.

While I'm not advocating trying to 'figure her out' or anything close to that, some situations take precedence over meeting up with someone (think sick or dying relative). Her being available/free all week might be her way of saying she knows she flaked. Those flakes could have very well been legitimate and out of her control. But she still wants to meet up.

I had a situation myself, had a sick parent that (of course) took priority over a potential bang. I'm sure a few women in the pipeline figured I was nothing more than a message/text guy, a few more were cool with meeting up a week or so later. Once we met up, the inevitable "I thought you were one of those guys that just wants to message" conversation comes up, and I'll tell them about the sick parent.

All that said, have a backup plan, as always. If she shows, great. If not, no loss.

After that, if she doesn't show, next her.

[General Stalin]

(08-14-2017 11:25 AM)mcgooie Wrote:  

If you had agreed to meet someone who cancelled at last minute and they did it a 2nd time as well (on both occasions I had a backup plan so no great loss), what would you do if they just messaged to say they are free this week?
I was literally seconds away from blocking them anyway

Invite them straight over to your place. Do not agree to leave the house/go out of your way for their flakey ass. That way if she bails again then you are home chillin' like nothing even happened anyway, but if she actually pulls through then she is already at your place. Make some food with her/have some drinks and play ball.

EDIT: Most guys will say NEXT but I've actually had luck giving a girl a third chance after 2 flakes. Anded up banging her a couple of times and it was great.

The third time I made plans with her I just told her to come chill at my place. I had a friend over and we were jamming music together as I fully expected her to no-show. To my surprise she came up and chilled with me and my buddy for a bit, then he left and we ate burritos and banged.

[Palo_alto]

Delete the number and move on. Why waste anymore time, you already give 2 chances.

As a sales guy myself, I can be persistent but never a begger.

Now, I have an exception. If she is an 8 or above. I would not delete the number and let some days pass and invite her over to something you are going to do anyway. If she flakes you still have your fun, if not, her loss.

¨Babe, just got ticket for a comedy show tomorrow at X bar. Let´s finish this bottle of Malbec I got in Argentina last week and bounce to the club.

Make sure you have friends over there. Worst case scenario, you have a glass of wine reading RVF and then have some fun with your lads.

[Alpharius]

Don't even bother to block the number. Just ignore it and move on with life. They've already wasted enough of your time.

[Rocha]

Flakes are part and parcel of the 21st century dating scene. Just have other options and never be dependant on the outcome of whether she will flake or not. Have a plan b,c and d. No need to next or erase number. Re engage next time you feel like.

[PuppetMaster]

Why are you dealing with a serial flaker in the first place?

[DimeBait]

1. Always double-book and 2. Don't respond to the flake message, and 3. If they re-engage later, agree then flake.

[Clyde]

You don't.

[giama]

had 1 of these recently,

just put her on the bottom of the list although she is one of the best ones of 2017, i have to much chics around to take flakes from a single mother even if she is fine.

She needs to come with 110% co operation otherwise next.

A girl that cant take instruction is no good to me in 2017 and onwards, i have access to millions of woman, i know i can go to a lot of clubs and get 2 or 3 more.

[Alpharius]

(08-14-2017 01:36 PM)giama Wrote:  

had 1 of these recently,

just put her on the bottom of the list although she is one of the best ones of 2017, i have to much chics around to take flakes from a single mother even if she is fine.

She needs to come with 110% co operation otherwise next.

A girl that cant take instruction is no good to me in 2017 and onwards, i have access to millions of woman, i know i can go to a lot of clubs and get 2 or 3 more.

Single mother shouldn't even be on the list.

[XXL]

I'd tell that person where to meet up at the specific time and place (my pick) and warn that this is the last chance as I have no time to waste for flakes.

[Kid Twist]

I had one of these that would meet up and show interest, but it was groups or with a gf to come out and have a few drinks. Then I realized she was huge into instagram, not originally from here, let's says eastern/central europe. Now approaching 29, still fit but I saw pics at 23 body-wise a smoke show back then. Artsy and serious at the same time, hard to figure anything but maybe the only thing that's important is that IG or fb provided major attention whoring and brain buzzes.

I always wonder what the deal is, do they think they're gonna be truly successful and still think the clock isn't running out approaching 30? They must get enough thirst posts to keep ruining their not-so-distant and mediocre future. Perhaps the big 3-0 will finally send a wake-up call. Haha, naaaah