Modern day Brazil
09-09-2017, 11:07 AM
I am Brazilian, lived my whole life in São Paulo and recently moved to Rio de Janeiro because of my job. I have also lived in the UK some years ago.
I’ve been lurking around for a long time but decided to register just for this post. But I want to continue participating and giving my opinion and tips about Brazil.
I must say that, unfortunately, those forum members with negative opinions about flirting women in Rio de Janeiro and, to some extent, Brazil, are correct.
However, one thing we have to keep in mind is that Brazil is a continental country, with different culture and customs in its various regions. The culture and customs in Rio de Janeiro are very different from São Paulo, which are very different from the North and South Region, which are very different from... you get my point. Each region has its peculiarities.
Is Brazil good for gaming women? It depends on where we’re talking about. Rio is not.
Although I now live in Rio de Janeiro, I travel often to São Paulo. The difference in quality and attitude of the girls are astounding.
Regarding attractiveness of girls:
I live in a low/medium middle class neighborhood. Most women here in my neighborhood, all ages, I would rate their SMV values between 2-5. It’s very hard during my daily commute (yes, 5 min walk), going to the supermarket, running errands, etc in my neighborhood, to find a girl that catches my attention. To use the example a poster above gave, if you took a random girl working at Selfridges in the UK and put her in my neighborhood she would be considered a supermodel.
Honestly, sometimes when I see pictures of British girls my breath is taken away because I find them very pretty. Yes, British girls are ugly compared to Eastern European or Scandinavian girls, but they are angels compared to most girls I see in my daily life. To put this in a numeric estimation, if you go downtown in London or Birmingham, for instance, you will see maybe 10-20 bangable girls in a block (HB7+). Here, if you go downtown, you will see 1 bangable girl (HB7+) per 3 blocks.
Also, I have to note that most of them don’t care about their appearance. Most of them are overweight, don’t wear makeup, wear random clothes.
However, if we go to a rich neighborhood (for instance, Leblon, Barra, Ipanema), the situation starts to change. We start to see more fit and slim girls, girls wearing makeup, etc. So my math of 1 HB7+ per 3 blocks would increase to 3-5 HB7+ per 1 block. It’s a lot better, it’s like we’re in another city. But it is still a lot worse than the UK.
In São Paulo, you see a lot more pretty girls around. They pay more attention to their appearance and their body (yes, I know, Rio has a beach and São Paulo, go figure, I don’t get it like you). Comparing girls from Rio and São Paulo is like comparing girls of different countries. In São Paulo you will see a lot more of HB7+, less fat, more fit girls.
Regarding fat acceptance:
It’s arrived in Brazil. The media, newspapers and mainstream culture keeps repeating “beautiful at all sizes”, “real women have curves”, etc. And judging by the ratio of fit:fat girls I see in my daily life (and online dating), I am sorry to say that women have already adopted fat acceptance. They have let themselves go, and what’s funny is that they think they are the hottest shit, behaving orders of magnitude more arrogantly than fit and hot women. Brazil is becoming an obese country, and health authorities are starting to panic. But, with “nutrition experts” that go on TV and say fatlogic like “if you eat less you will get fat because of starvation mode”, I think the problem will get a lot worse. The nutrition advice most people are given by the mainstream estabilishment is pure pseudoscience, and worse, incorrect. Even doctors are guilty of this. I used to be fat some years ago. I started dieting. Now I am hot with less than 15% body fat. But my doctor tried to diagnose me with anorexia because I dropped from 33% body fat to 18%. I’ve also heard similar comments by family and friends. Yes, in Brazilian mainstream culture nowadays, if you’re not overweight, you’re an holocaust victim about to die of hunger.
Regarding feminism:
I am also very sad to say that third wave feminism (aka men-hating feminism) has arrived and is in full motion in Brazilian culture. Do you want to find a lovely and submissive woman? Well, good luck then. Go to Thailand, not Brazil. Women here are arrogant, confrontational, think they are the hottest shit ever (even though they are hamplanets with moustaches and their bodies stink), are bitter, troublemakers. They look very manly if we look at their behavior. I mean, worse than manly, because they are a caricature of men’s worst behavior, with a vagina attached. Yes, she will get offended if you ask her to wash the plate where she ate. Yes, she will get offended and call you a “chauvinistic pig” if you suggest doing anything for you, not for her. This specially applies to women who go to public universities (whatever the field of study) and/or women below SMV 8 (go figure). We’re on that level where women are starting to say that if a men says “hi” to her and she is not attract to him, that is the same thing as rape.
Of course, SOME women are not like that. But most of them are.
I would say that São Paulo feminism and women arrogance is the baseline. You encounter die-hard feminists there, but also down-to-earth girls (although not that easily). Rio is worse. Rio women are very difficult to deal bitches. Northeast region is somewhat (but not that much) better.
Women in São Paulo are a lot more pleasant to flirt and talk to than women in Rio. They act nicer, less arrogant and more interested.
Regarding attitude: see above (“regarding feminism”).
Regarding dating dynamics:
The ugliness situation in Rio is so bad that even those ugly female trolls get catcalled (usually by low value men). I wonder if that contributes to their arrogance?
At the same time, Brazilian men are usually manginas when flirting. But very dominating when in a relationship.
Day game, in some situations, is frowned upon because of the violence levels in the country. If you approach a girl on the streets or a park there’s a high chance of she thinking you’re going to rob her. However, in shopping malls, social events, closed spaces, safe spaces (safe in the context of security from criminals), it can happen normally.
Rio de Janeiro attracts a lot of tourists but it’s not a city where people all over the country go to “make it”, like NYC or London. That city would be São Paulo, not Rio. This means that most people in Rio lived all their lifes in the city and their social circles date back to the elementary school and neighbors from where they lived since they were a toddler (and probably still live at the same place). It’s hard to go to a social event and see girls alone, even at lunch time on business days, they will probably be with their posse. You are an outsider (to these girls social circles, which are huge). That puts you in a big disadvantage. The Red Pill teaches us that girls project their on way of thinking on us. So some of them must think that since they have a large social circle and you don’t, you’re some kind of weirdo nobody wants. You can approach women outside of your social circle, aka cold approach, but that will be a very strange situation for her. She will not be used to it. Most guys in Rio don’t cold approach. Rio is too much social circles. Too much for my taste and my lifestyle. It’s a society that doesn’t understand and/or accepts well the “lone wolf”.
São Paulo is completely different. Since a good portion of the city’s population comes from other places, they won’t have social circles so large and will be more open to meeting “strangers”. From what I hear it must be similar to NYC. And my experience shows me it’s similar to London.
For solo flirting, São Paulo is a lot better than Rio.
Nightlife: In Rio, it’s the only place you will see men approaching strange women. But it is expensive (VERY expensive, A LOT more expensive than it was in the UK).
Most types of nightlife places are, both in Rio and São Paulo, with the exception of the beach:
- The beach: Since I have very white skin and want to keep it that way, I don’t go to the beach to avoid the sun. I could go during the night but it’s dangerous. So I can’t give an opinion about that.
- Baile Funk: cheap, shitty music, but usually in dangerous places, run by shady businessmen (not to say criminals) and loud music that you won’t be able to talk to your girl. WARNING: If you’re a white guy that looks that has a little financial success, you can be mugged, kidnapped or even shot at one of those places.
- Forró: cheap, shitty music that will torture your ears, loud music that you won’t be able to talk to your girl
- Samba/Pagode: middle-range prices, shitty music that all songs sound the same, loud music that you won’t be able to talk to your girl
- Electronic Dance Music Nightclub: expensive, loud music that you won’t be able to talk to your girl, but if they have a lounge playing music on a lower volume, that might be nice - but will not be easy to find one of them
- Concert: middle-range prices, loud music that you won’t be able to talk to your girl
- Bars: You might be thinking a place where you can have a drink and talk to strangers. Maybe standing up or on a sofa. You’re wrong. In Brazil they are simply normal restaurants, where you sit in a small table with your friends. They have a more informal atmosphere but they are still normal restaurants, in my view. Terrible place to approach strangers. Unless you want to sit on an empty seat on a table with a group of girls that you don’t know, and that will be seen as very invasive by them.
- Pub: In Brazil they are bars. The same thing. Don’t get fooled by the name. If you want a real pub, you want a “lounge”.
- Lounge: It would be similar to a British pub. A place that has drinks, sometimes food, tables to sit, but also stools, you can stand up and talk to people or sit in a couch with strangers and interact with them. I usually see them in hotels. Oh, and there’s background music, but in a volume where it doesn’t hinder conversation. They are very rare in Brazil. I don’t know any place like that in Rio.
So you can see that using nightgame in Brazil sucks. In UK it was a lot easier because there were more quality in the venues and some of them were design to allow socialization (like pubs, lounges and some bars). I am the opinion for nightgame, a British pub/lounge atmosphere is the best place. But they are almost non existent in Brazil.
One interesting thing is that even though both men and women in Rio are ugly, the ratio is still in favor of women. I would say that for every HB7+ girl, there would be 3 SMV 7+ chads. Very few men take care of themselves, but this small population that do is enough to give the few pretty women (which are too few) too many options. In São Paulo, I would say that for every hot man, there would be 3 hot girls.
Regarding the “foreigner advantage/foreigner exotic factor”: It could be an advantage with the upper class white girls, and it could be an disadvantage with lower class black girls. I have no idea why. I would love to understand it too. But that has been my experience and I have also heard other men saying the same thing.
Conclusion: Don’t go to Rio. If you REALLY want to know Brazil for some reason, go to São Paulo or the Northeast region instead. I also hear very good comments from Belo Horizonte (Minas Gerais) girls (if you like olive skin white girls). But if all you do is bang white girls, Northern Europe is a lot better. If you like black girls, go to Africa. If you like Asians, go to Thailand. If you want to bang latins, from what I hear Colombia would be a paradise. Honestly, the best city that I’ve been for single men who are lone wolves is London. Great atmosphere, great venues, beautiful girls of all types, colors and sizes, and very receptive girls. I wonder if London will keep that way because of the Brexit, but I digress.