[StackGsMan]

(07-22-2017 08:10 AM)bacon Wrote:  

Shrimp scampi is a great option.

I have a few weeks before I make the move to California. One of the reasons I mentioned earlier in the thread that I am thinking about learning different varieties of dishes and that many chicks tend to be overly picky is because I can imagine this being an issue in California. With enough volume of dinner dates at my place (which I hope is the case), I think I'm bound to run into many broads that are going to mention something about no gluten, no carbs, no seafood.

That being said, Bacon, I watched the video and that Shrimp Scampi looks absolutely perfect as one of the things I want to learn. You have your Italian dish that can be made in no more than 15 minutes for a beginner like myself and I don't think it will come out to much more than $10-15.

I have a bit of time on my hands before moving and in the coming weeks I want to see if I can make this happen as my first dish. The dish itself isn't allowed on my diet, but I will try a couple of bites but mainly cook for people I know and get their feedback.

+1 from me.


To the rest of you, it seems like you all have your cooking game on lock. Thumbs up to everyone's suggestions.


If I am not just talking out of my ass and actually do learn to make some good dishes and get girls over on these dinner dates I'm planning, I will give feedback in this thread in the future as to how things go. For now I'm going to make it a goal to try to make this Shrimp Scampi dish at least once by the end of this week.


On a more theoretical and simultaneously practical level though, how would you guys factor in the process of shopping for the ingredients. I ask because in my situation I will be sharing an apartment and won't be able to stock up too heavily on foods at least for this year. Even if I did have my own place I could still run out of ingredients so this question would apply then as well.

Have any of you taken the chick with you to the grocery store to shop? This might be overdoing it but would this factor into the whole time distortion/memory creation psychology behind the bouncing to different venues idea? Or am I over thinking it and I should just run to the store before hand and grab the stuff and focus the date on her being at my place?

[mickeyd]

keep it really simple. If you go too fancy, you could fuck up or spend hours upon hours in the preparation. Its also seems simpish to me to make something that you wouldnt make for yourself. A meat, a vegetable, and a carb on the plate.

easy meats:
grilled steak
anything in the slow cooker
breaded pork chop
coq au vin

easy veges:
roasted bell pepper
roasted asparagus
roasted carrots
steamed broccoli

easy carbs
seasoned basmati rice
creamy mashed potatoes
couscous
mashed sweet potato

mix and match any of those. and of course small portion sizes for the obvious.

[NordicTom]

I'm a quite good cook myself, which generally is a turn-on for girls. But everyone can fake being a good cook. Just remember not to make any dish for the first time when you've got the girl over. You need to have practised it at least once before the date, or you risk failure and the girl will be less than impressed...

The whole idea of cooking at home and inviting her for dinner works best if you've weaved it into conversation during your first date. Talk about food! If she's from another country ask her about the kitchen of her native country. If she can't cook you can make fun of that. If you travel you can talk about something you picked up when you traveled and now you make it yourself. All hooks to make it natural to invite her over to cook together on your second date. And together is a key word here - give her a glass of wine and put her to work. Something simple like chopping vegetables. Tell her she's now the chef's assistant, and jokingly that she should answer "yes chef" when you ask her to do something. You lead, she follows.

As mentioned before, don't make anything too heavy, light on the carbs, think about breath afterwards...

Pizza - can absolutely work if you do it right! Dough is key. Go to your local pizza guy and buy to portions from him. Second, your oven at home never gets as warm as at the pizzeria, that's why home made pizza is never as good. What you do is you put ONLY tomato sauce and cheese on the pizza, then in the oven. Rest of the ingredients like prosciutto, ruccula salad, fresh tomato, you put on when it's out of the oven. Let her "decorate" her own pizza.

Other things I can recommend:
- charcuterie and cheese plate, with olives, good tomatoes, fresh bread. Great for nibbling and not heavy.
- ceviche, the classic Peruvian version. Check recipes online. Simple but comes across as complicated.
- any kind of barbecued fish - remember to practise before
- veg option: roasted beetroot, chèvre cheese, honey, pine nuts, halloumi cheese, ruccula (rocket salad for you Americans )

Hit me up with questions - this is a favorite topic of mine!

[NordicTom]

StackGsMan - on your shopping question - I've taken girls to food markets, to buy fish for example. It's an exciting environment, I can show off a bit talking about the different fishes and when I speak to the fish guy it's obvious I know what I'm talking about. At some food markets you can stop for a glass of cava/champagne while you're shopping . Many girls, especially young ones, have never done that in their lives.

Or go to WholeFoods, also a nice experience. Becomes like an event in itself. But you need to come across as confident. And I would go only to buy a couple of key ingredients - not to stock up on basics.

Going to the local supermarket to run around looking for stuff you don't know where it's placed is not something I'd recommend. Better to do that on your own beforehand.

[JWLZG]

(07-24-2017 01:30 AM)StackGsMan Wrote:  

On a more theoretical and simultaneously practical level though, how would you guys factor in the process of shopping for the ingredients. I ask because in my situation I will be sharing an apartment and won't be able to stock up too heavily on foods at least for this year. Even if I did have my own place I could still run out of ingredients so this question would apply then as well.

Oh wowee, I've got this down pat.

I'm in much the same situation, in fact — fridge and pantry space shared between 6 housemateswe have our rooms to ourselves though).

It actually teaches you to shop sparingly; the immediate perishables (meat, cream, etc.) for the meal will be all you're shopping for as you're going to be drawing on drygoods and such that you'll probably already have in the fridge. If your flatmates and yourself share common things like milk, pepper, etc., that makes more convenient.

(07-24-2017 01:30 AM)StackGsMan Wrote:  

Have any of you taken the chick with you to the grocery store to shop? This might be overdoing it but would this factor into the whole time distortion/memory creation psychology behind the bouncing to different venues idea? Or am I over thinking it and I should just run to the store before hand and grab the stuff and focus the date on her being at my place?

Not really over-thinking it. I've done it a handful of times, half of which had been unintentional. With my link, I'd used to work at that supermarket and the chick worked at a luxury one that I'd shopped at, so I could spiel away with what I was au fait with. Like you said, it provides an organic venue-change, and it helps with the flirtation process of debating over what veggies to get etc.
I like NordicTom's idea. You can take her to a farmer's market and pitch away at what you're into. This might be tricky given that they usually only go until midday. You can connect a bit more if you take her to a wholefoods organic shop, most 20-something girls lap up that shit even if they're not hipsters. They usually have everything from soap to craft beer to supplements. The one near my house even has a café with attached with great soups.

If your city is big enough, there'll be ethnic groceries and you can play worldly game if her background's Italian or whatever. There are Lebanese groceries, Chinese ones, Italian delis up the road from where I live. Invariably, this is a tandem chore with wine/beer selection and leading by getting her to choose (and DHV-ing if you have an alcohol background).

[Hypno]

The key with pizza is the pizza parlors make the dough 1-3 days ahead of time. They measure it out and then stick it back in the fridge and allow the yeast to work. They call it proofing.

[goncalo999]

(07-23-2017 10:05 PM)realologist Wrote:  

(07-23-2017 06:58 PM)goncalo999 Wrote:  

How do you guys deal with the poop time after dinner during a date?

How I feel with poops in general.

Candle in the bathroom. Light it. Don't blow it out until as your stepping out of it.

It could appear a troll / stupid question but I actually struggle a bit with my bowel movements.. I guess I have a weak intestine.
When I go on dates or plan to spend the night with a girl, i usually avoid strong foods or drinks. Since I began my Intermittent Fasting this problems is smaller though

[Jagnum]

Long time ago, must have been three years now, I read about a guy doing a "cook to bang". That might even be the name of his website/brand. I remember about "coconut chicken". It's easy to make, you can't mess it up, it tastes good.

The central idea behind a cook-to-bang is:

- Choose a dish with a 30 - 40 minute baking time.
- Buy wine
- Might have her join you at the grocery store, if she's hesitant to come straight over
- Put her to work in the kitchen chopping things
- Get close to her physically, touching her hands, arms

These days I don't do a second date of "cooking dinner" for reason I'll explain later, but I'll do it in a couple situations:

- If there's a girl I've already banged once and I'm getting tired of the usual "drinks" dates and want something different.
- A girl who I've been on three dates with and still haven't banged, I'll do a "let's cook up a meal date".

I'll invite her over at 7, which usually means she comes closer to 8.

The entire purpose of a cooking date is that after she drinks wine on an empty stomach, and after you've chopped things up, you put whatever you cooked in the oven for 30 - 40 minutes. You have 30 or 40 minutes to ... fill in the blank.

After the meal is in the oven, you invite her upstairs. And reminder, choose something that bakes in the oven, because you don't want to have to "watch" something on the stove. You need 30 - 40 minutes of unattended time.

You invite her upstairs.

It's fun for her because she'll be turned on from cooking with you, and you'll be turned on, and usually it just escalates quickly.





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What do I cook?
Again, as mentioned, there's that cook to bang advice about a "coconut chicken recipe", which I'm sure you could find on Google.

I do a Mediterranean vegetable dish with feta. It's kind of like a pizza, but looks and tastes better.

http://eatinmykitchen.meikepeters.com/me...casserole/

I might text her one afternoon with, "Hey do you like Mediterannean food?". After she says yes, and then I follow with "Cool. I'm going to cook up this dish and serve it with wine, want to help out on Friday." Save Friday to actually hammer out a time.

On Friday, might text her around noon, with "hey how's 7 pm?"

Like BlurredSevens suggests, if you haven't slept with her yet, don't text her your address until she's heading out. So day of:

"Text me when you're heading out and I'll send you my address."

(Or you can meet her at the grocery store. Whatever you think makes sense for the particular girl and situation.)



I like this dish because it's easy to prepare, it's healthy, you can find all the ingredients at any grocery store, and all you need for cookware is a glass casserole dish.

I also like it because it only takes about 20 minutes to prepare in total, the girl is doing the chopping for you, and it has the 40 minute cook time where you head upstairs...

I once had a girl tell me once we got upstairs and started fooling around, "Oh let's wait for 'this' after we eat."

DON'T DO THIS.

Nobody wants to have sex right after they eat. I didn't give in, and we smashed 10 minutes later.

Once it's been about 40 minutes, go check on the dish, get two plates ready, toast some bread, and serve. Voila.

This dish is extremely tasty, and visually looks really good. The aforementioned girl took about a dozen pictures once we went outside to eat on the porch with our glasses of wine. It also stores well as leftovers. It's basically a perfect dish.

Bon Appetit.

Addendum:
The cook-to-bang works well on a (3rd) date with a younger girl 18 to 20 years old, if you didn't bang the first date. These girls can't go to a bar, so it's a good way to drink and have fun.

I put 3rd in parenthesis because:

a) if she's 18 - 20 she's usually down to hook up on the first date
b) Sometimes you can do dinner and bang on a 2nd date, sometimes you should wait for a 3rd. You have to calibrate around her interest level.

P.S. I don't recommend you invite a girl on a first date to your place to cook. More generally, I don't recommend any first or second date that originates at the house. It's just as easy to meet in public, go to one or two venues, and end up at your house. It doesn't scare the cat that way. BlurredSevens, if he was still active, would disagree. However, he's leveraging top 1% of guys in terms of photos on an online profile, and great text game over a few weeks. Some chick you exchange numbers with at the bar on Saturday night isn't on a first date going to come directly to your house.

[dirty_old]

Stir fry or tacos...

Sure you can put a lot of thought into this. And an impressive sounding dish might be the right choice for some girls. For those girls you can use to some slight variations like squid enchiladas or Thai cashew whatever stir fry!

But you want something
-Quick..about 30min max cook time
-Adaptable to vegetarian or meat
-Many girls I've found to be very picky/bad eaters, so something they are used to can be a bonus.

Of course they dont have to be basic tacos or stir fry, if you're a good cook or have found a unique recipe, by all means do it.



I am a pretty healthy eater so these are good for me & my style and always appreciated. A light pasta or seafood dish or grilling something are also all good options. Local fish is one of my favorites, something girls either love or hate. Bacon & eggs is another of my favorites to suggest to girls. even if they are vegetarian,as mentioned earlier in this thread,it can transition into some other fun light breakfast food if they are vegetarian or vegan.

I can see the logic in baking something & creating a logical gap for escalating. It depends on your apartment or living situation..and that tour or logical gap could also be created naturally in some other way. But if it were me and I wanted to bake something for a girl I might consider "fancy pizza" of some sort, a meat dish, sweet potato dish, or quiche.. Or just desert/ sweets. A lot of girls have a sweet tooth

[Cr33pin]

[lex the impaler]

Have a bag of trader Joe's stir fry frozen packs in your freezer. Prepare 10 minutes before she arrives. Profit.

[weambulance]

(07-24-2017 04:50 AM)Hypno Wrote:  

The key with pizza is the pizza parlors make the dough 1-3 days ahead of time. They measure it out and then stick it back in the fridge and allow the yeast to work. They call it proofing.

Yep, pizza dough overnight in the fridge makes a huge difference. It can still be really good fresh though, if you're not trying to make a thin crust pizza.

Contrary to the pizza downers upthread, I've had good luck making pizza at home with girls. I usually cook it on a stone on the grill. It can be fun getting them involved with putting toppings on the pizza and stuff.

I don't have time right now but I'll put up my go-to fancy non-pizza meal recipe later.