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How to deal with an AMOG big brother
07-20-2017, 01:22 PM
Quote: (07-20-2017 11:55 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:
Quote: (07-20-2017 11:01 AM)Gas Wrote:
Anyway I told the girl I have no problem if he comes with her for our next coffee date and she seemed surprised I wasn't scared of him.
She then said she cannot bring him with her, she's too afraid he's going to make a scene or start something, and she's too scared to come and meet me alone in case he follows her/finds out. So we're somewhat in limbo right now. I may just need to let her go.
Id call the brother and tell him to meet you somewhere then. Tell him to bring the sister if he's a man truly looking out for her so she can see and hear the truth for herself
Might be more trouble than its worth but personally I wouldnt be able to let this go on principle
Whether its truly a "respect" thing regarding asking permission or there's some weird incestuous dynamic at play having them both in front of you together will likely help you see it clearly pretty quick
Just my 2 cents
I wouldn't let it go on principal too.
Sounds like the guy needs a kicking.
The sister might be normal... OR she might be a weirdo.
All this "looking out for my sister" is bullshit. He has no respect for her, or anyone. He's only encouraging people to say "fuck it I WILL mistreat her".
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How to deal with an AMOG big brother
07-20-2017, 11:15 PM
Sometimes they just want to look you in the eye and not see you flinch.
It's worth a try, for the experience/story alone.
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How to deal with an AMOG big brother
07-21-2017, 06:19 AM
I'm up for it. I've already asked her twice - just let me meet him. She's terrified. How to play it?
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How to deal with an AMOG big brother
07-21-2017, 12:28 PM
Just brainstorming here but is there some way to use social proof to calm the brother down? He's probably creeping your social media so maybe you can "communicate" via presenting a dominating or diffusing image of yourself by posting stuff with that in mind.
I guess that'd just be more of an experiment in dealing with weirdly difficult people.
Also, as a guy with sisters, his behavior does seem a little odd to me.
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How to deal with an AMOG big brother
07-24-2017, 04:51 AM
Well here is her plan - Her brother is moving to London next month so let's just snoop around until he leaves.
Quite the anti climax, but what's a man to do.
I feel like if I keep pushing and pushing to meet her brother I'm the one who is going to start sounding odd.
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How to deal with an AMOG big brother
07-24-2017, 05:11 AM
How about this option: Tell the girl you guys should meet on a double date. If he shows up without a date, whenever he tries to AMOG, gently remind him that it's a bit loserish to show up without a date on a double date. If he shows up with his gf/date he'll tone it down (if he doesn't, remind him he's acting weird for a double date).
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How to deal with an AMOG big brother
07-24-2017, 06:56 AM
As said before just reassure him you're a solid guy who's not just in it for the pussy.
Don't come across as aggressive or weak just chilled and relaxed if you do meet him.
If you belong to a different race or religion... RUN!
Seriously...