Hi Everyone,
I've been a lurker here since the beginning of the year. This forum has been refreshing in helping me get back into the dating scene again earlier this year after being out of it for over 15 years.
I'm not asking for any help or advice but just providing another story that could be seen as somewhat unique.
I'm 45yo and still married believe it or not with three kids and living at home. My wife is letting me relive my 20's again as part of my mid-life crisis. You can tell our situation is not very typical at all and I thank my wife for understanding and tolerating what I'm going through. Our relationship is still very much strong at this point. The more I read things here, the more fortunate I am to have her but this is something I need to do for myself and figure out where to go from here in life.
I don't want to write a book so here are the highlights:
- Luckily I married before the internet social media thing blew up. The only online dating back then was Match.com(year 2002). So you could say I lucked out.
- I've always naturally been mostly Alpha but didn't even realize it til I discovered the term here. So by that rationale, I guess I had it a bit more easy.
- I'm Asian but grew up in the states most of my life and dated mostly white girls. So I don't want to hear excuses on race although it is more difficult but not impossible.
- Not to sound cocky or anything but I might be classified in the top 25% of my looks, in my race at least. This I believe has helped me date one of the best looking girls in college and a few 9/10 gals afterwards.
- My wife is half Italian mixed with German/Polish and has held up very well. She could pass for early thirties like me. Even after 3 kids, she has been able to remain slim and is probably one of the most fit/slim girls in our suburb where I see most mom's all blown up or tired looking. I'm sure her European genes are helping in that dept.
- She is nothing of what everyone speaks of here. She lets me spend my money freely, go out any time, gets me a drink when I come home, have dinner ready by the time I get home, cooks, cleans, laundry, takes care of the kids, she lets me make the decisions and I am the boss in my household. She may not agree with everything or all of my opinions but she learns to coexist with them and not let it be the crutch of our relationship. For example, I voted for Trump. LOL. You can say I pretty much have it made.
So why am I here?
Well I always thought the mid-life crisis was a farce but I'm here to tell you it can be real for some people.
I realized at this age, I'm not getting any younger and I felt there was a huge hole left in me as I didn't get to date around very often in my 20's as much as I wanted to due to several long term relationships one after another and a career that kept me busy.
Essentially I didn't want to be 70,80yo and look back and regret not having done something. I realized that although I couldn't turn back time, I could put my self in a situation to date while I was still relatively young looking, making myself that much more marketable.
I don't tell others as I realize societal programming and such will have them scratching their heads on our unique situation. I don't know how long this will last but I'm glad to have done it with no regrets.
I've been a lurker here since the beginning of the year. This forum has been refreshing in helping me get back into the dating scene again earlier this year after being out of it for over 15 years.
I'm not asking for any help or advice but just providing another story that could be seen as somewhat unique.
I'm 45yo and still married believe it or not with three kids and living at home. My wife is letting me relive my 20's again as part of my mid-life crisis. You can tell our situation is not very typical at all and I thank my wife for understanding and tolerating what I'm going through. Our relationship is still very much strong at this point. The more I read things here, the more fortunate I am to have her but this is something I need to do for myself and figure out where to go from here in life.
I don't want to write a book so here are the highlights:
- Luckily I married before the internet social media thing blew up. The only online dating back then was Match.com(year 2002). So you could say I lucked out.
- I've always naturally been mostly Alpha but didn't even realize it til I discovered the term here. So by that rationale, I guess I had it a bit more easy.
- I'm Asian but grew up in the states most of my life and dated mostly white girls. So I don't want to hear excuses on race although it is more difficult but not impossible.
- Not to sound cocky or anything but I might be classified in the top 25% of my looks, in my race at least. This I believe has helped me date one of the best looking girls in college and a few 9/10 gals afterwards.
- My wife is half Italian mixed with German/Polish and has held up very well. She could pass for early thirties like me. Even after 3 kids, she has been able to remain slim and is probably one of the most fit/slim girls in our suburb where I see most mom's all blown up or tired looking. I'm sure her European genes are helping in that dept.
- She is nothing of what everyone speaks of here. She lets me spend my money freely, go out any time, gets me a drink when I come home, have dinner ready by the time I get home, cooks, cleans, laundry, takes care of the kids, she lets me make the decisions and I am the boss in my household. She may not agree with everything or all of my opinions but she learns to coexist with them and not let it be the crutch of our relationship. For example, I voted for Trump. LOL. You can say I pretty much have it made.
So why am I here?
Well I always thought the mid-life crisis was a farce but I'm here to tell you it can be real for some people.
I realized at this age, I'm not getting any younger and I felt there was a huge hole left in me as I didn't get to date around very often in my 20's as much as I wanted to due to several long term relationships one after another and a career that kept me busy.
Essentially I didn't want to be 70,80yo and look back and regret not having done something. I realized that although I couldn't turn back time, I could put my self in a situation to date while I was still relatively young looking, making myself that much more marketable.
I don't tell others as I realize societal programming and such will have them scratching their heads on our unique situation. I don't know how long this will last but I'm glad to have done it with no regrets.