[Alpha_Romeo]

If I were him I'd make an offer: he keeps the house (i.e., she forfeits any claim of ownership, house is put in his name only) in exchange for his non-pursuit of alimony payments.

[BoiBoi]

(01-30-2018 08:01 PM)Sam Malone Wrote:  

Seconded.

And depending on how much time/overnights your father has the kid, she could end up paying child support as well.

That said, it’s a negotiating point. The last thing any woman wants is to have to pay a man alimony and/or child support.

Keep in mind that there’s a lot of leeway in negotiations prior to court. Hell, he can have written in the decree that she has to bring a pepperoni pizza when she drops the daughter off every Sunday, as long as his soon to be ex agrees to it.

Have your dad run the numbers. If her half of the home’s equity is equal to or relatively close to what she’d pay out in alimony over time, he could forgo alimony in exchange for keeping the home and the equity (versus a judge ordering it to be sold).

Be creative, and hammer out the best deal possible.

They have joint custody but their daughter lives with him full time. He's kind of a single Dad at this point, so yeah, child support is also looming over her. I guess that she's aware of this, too.

(01-30-2018 09:01 PM)RoastBeefCurtains4Me Wrote:  

As I understand it, your Dad didn't want the divorce. I assume the wife want to go Eat Pray Love, thinking a billionaire playboy was waiting to sweep her off her feet if she got back on the market. I bet she' s found her options are not as attractive as she thought.
Is she banging someone else? If not, once she wakes up to reality, I'd think she'd find it more attractive to get back with your dad and live as an intact family. How does your dad look at this now? How do you see it?

True, my Dad didn't want to split up and was flabbergasted when he got the news. Also true is that his wife wanted to Eat, Pray, Love because, according to her, she'd never done anything just for herself in her life. I guess she forgot that my Dad was doing the heavy lifting (professionally and financially) during their marriage and that she reaped the fruits. Without him, she would have never had the lifestyle she was enjoying the last 15 years.

I haven't spoken to her since they split up, but on her whatsapp profile she appears smiling with some other dude, so she seems to be banging somebody else. I'm not sure how my Dad would handle her trying to get him back. I'll see him next week and will talk to him about it. As for me, I sure as hell wouldn't want him to take her back. She's proven to be disloyal once and should not be trusted again. Instead he should look for other options. He is smart, reasonably fit for his age and has some money to his name. He's not the kind of guy who'd book a flight to the Phills, though.