[Gmac]

(04-19-2017 01:47 PM)soup Wrote:  

I never refer to any of my girls as "my partner."

If your girl sees you as a god, she won't be flirting with other men in any real way.

Take of note of it and step things up on your end to elicit more devotion from her.

holy shit it's soup...

Also agree.

[Giovonny]

The question was NOT how to make her stop doing it, the question was "how would I approach" the situation....

That said, I will address these questions...

(04-19-2017 05:38 AM)Valentine Wrote:  

My problem with advice such as Gio's is that you're essentially conditioning her to keep doing it

NOT if I tie her up and spank her ass while making her say -- "I will not look at other men"

Plus, fuck her in the ass hard while making her say -- "I will never look at another man"

Then, I would show her my whip:



Then, after cumming all over her face, I would simply tell her that she is not to look at other men.

In fact, when we are in in public, she is not to look up, she should keep her eyes down.

I forgot to include these verbal cues in my last post.

(04-19-2017 05:38 AM)Valentine Wrote:  

One thing I'm still not sure on is the effect of prolonged teasing as punishment

Teasing is how women punish women.. Not how men punish women

(04-19-2017 05:38 AM)Valentine Wrote:  

It's positive reinforcement.

Not the way I would do it.

I would have her begging for mercy.

She would never want to upset me again.

(04-19-2017 07:44 AM)Sensei Creation Wrote:  

I was planning when to implent Gio's play

Again, you didn't ask how to make her stop doing it...

You asked "how would I approach the situation..."

I explained how I would approach it.

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Now, about that 2nd question of how to make her stop doing it...

I would tell her that I don't like it and to stop doing it.

If she stops doing it, after you asked her to stop, she is a good girl.

If she continues to do it, she doesn't respect you, she is a whore, or she is testing you to see if you have the balls to really discipline her.

[LastKing]

"gurl bye"

[Sensei Creation]

Right so there's a lot in here to address which I will tonight but I just wanted to update you on what I've decided my play will be.

I let my main know that we need to have a talk in person after work tonight.

I intend to let her know exactly what's been bothering me and that I find it disrespectful and then after that let her know that I'm not breaking up with her over this but I do need some space for some time in order to reset as her actions have let me to not want to hang out with her.

After that I plan on going no contact for a week.

This way, she will associate disloyalty with a sharp drop attention received from me. Some here suggested to not being it up but I somewhat disagree. Girls are like children. They do things and forget them the next day. If I just go no contact without letting her k ow why, I don't expect her to put two and two together and undwrstand that it's because of an action she did that shedoesnt even remember at this point.

I to ensure that she associates a particular action with the immediate loss of my time and affection and I think this is the best way to do this

I will report here on what I said during the talk and answer all of the things that have been posted here later.

[Rocha]

(04-20-2017 10:57 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  

The question was NOT how to make her stop doing it, the question was "how would I approach" the situation....

That said, I will address these questions...

(04-19-2017 05:38 AM)Valentine Wrote:  

My problem with advice such as Gio's is that you're essentially conditioning her to keep doing it

NOT if I tie her up and spank her ass while making her say -- "I will not look at other men"

Plus, fuck her in the ass hard while making her say -- "I will never look at another man"

Then, I would show her my whip:



Then, after cumming all over her face, I would simply tell her that she is not to look at other men.

In fact, when we are in in public, she is not to look up, she should keep her eyes down.

Hey Gio, considering that in fact privately all or almost women like to be treated as whores, don't you think that this can be perceived by them as a reward for bad behaviour and therefore next time she wants to be fucked like a porn star all she has to do is giving IOIs to some guy?

I do things differently, I don't verbalize or explain why I am treating her like a whore in bed. Next day when she complains that her face hurts because I slapped her hard, I say that I got overwhelmed by the heat of the moment and end of talk.

[Truth Tiger]

Leonard's advice is the best of all. It's very deep and worth consideration. Before you "have a talk" with her and give away your power and overplay your hand, I'd highly recommend really digesting what he's saying. A subtle but dominant approach would provide far better results. Regardless of the outcome, you'll learn something.

[Sensei Creation]

(04-21-2017 10:34 AM)Truth Tiger Wrote:  

Leonard's advice is the best of all. It's very deep and worth consideration. Before you "have a talk" with her and give away your power and overplay your hand, I'd highly recommend really digesting what he's saying. A subtle but dominant approach would provide far better results. Regardless of the outcome, you'll learn something.

Leonard's advice is good. My only issue with it is it leaves it up to her to connect the dots and realise the connection between IOI = Withdrawal of attention from me.

She may not understand why im suddenly acting aloof and may just think I'm just having an off day or may not be in a chatty mood.

I want to ensure that she realizes that connection.

I'm genuinely curious as to how this is cliassifed as over playing my hand ?

[Mufasa]

"Two can play this game"

Some might say I'm petty for that...I would agree

[Ironbutt62]

Since the girl is your main, that is a very specific dynamic. I assume from your OP that you have feelings for her and want to work within that context while maintaining your dominance over her and marketing clear boundaries. This can be tricky-- especially if you have not had to draw a line with her before.
I don't think looking at other men should normally be a big deal. In fact, I want my wife to see others clearly because I am very confident with how I compare to them in her eyes. There is no contest. But that has been established over many years.
On the other hand, when I am away from home and out with a side dish, I would actually be very likely to slap it down. It rarely happens because I keep the girl's attention if I take her out. Iif we are walking together, for example, I keep her hand tucked in my arm, or I hold her elbow as we cross the street. I make sure to keep physical contact/control over her (I guess I really do that bit with the wife too, come to think of it). This would eliminate what you experienced as you strolled with your girl. If she's always touching you, her mind is on you, not mr gorgeous on the sidewalk.
It does happen sometimes though. I remember once, in a bar in Berlin, a girl I'd been spending a week with was making eyes at a young buck at the next table. She was trying to be sneaky about it too. I went to the men's and when I came back, she was twirling her hair and smiling over at him. She didn't see me return, so I leaned down and whispered, "like what you see?" Her eyes went huge. I smiled, grabbed her hair tightly and leaned in close, still whispering in her ear. "Up. Now. Smile. Let's go"
We walked back to my hotel with me gripping her arm "protectively ". Once we got home, it went similarly to what Giovanni describes. She was very contrite.
Hope your conversation with your girl goes as you want it to.

[Giovonny]

(04-21-2017 07:52 AM)Rocha Wrote:  

Hey Gio, considering that in fact privately all or almost women like to be treated as whores, don't you think that this can be perceived by them as a reward for bad behaviour

Not the way I do it.

The way I do it, she will KNOW THAT SHE IS BEING PUNISHED.

The way I do it, I make sure that she doesn't feel like she is being rewarded.

Other guys may punish her in such a way that she feels like the punishment is a reward but not me... When I punish her she will know that she has been punished and she will know exactly why she was punished.

I'm not concerned about her thinking that she is being rewarded. I'm concerned with making sure I have enough power in the battery of my camera to ensure that I can properly videotape the entire episode, not leaving too many bruises on her neck, and making sure that she verbalizes her consent repeatedly on the video.

"Reward" issues are the least of my concerns. I will remove any feeling of "reward" very quickly.

If she does repeat the behavior again, I would just leave her out in the street where it happened and not call her again... (Of course she would likely come begging back to me)

I dont care if I lose her, she is a fuck toy to me, nothing more.

She is replaceable.

I know other guys are envisioning this scenario as a serious girlfriend and I admit that does change things..

(04-21-2017 07:52 AM)Rocha Wrote:  

I don't verbalize or explain

How does she know what she did wrong?

How does she know what behaviors to avoid in the future?

If she repeats the behavior, do you again NOT say anything to her about it and just hope she figures it out?

What if she repeats the behavior a 3rd and 4th time, do you ever explain it to her or do you just let her keep doing it?

There is really no right or wrong answers here.. We all have our own methods...

[LeoneVolpe]

With all due respect to Giovonny, and as someone else already mentioned, I wouldn't give positive reinforcement (or anything that could be construed as such) to a behavior I deemed negative. I think fucking her in the way Giovonny describes is a great idea, I just disagree on her giving an IOI to another man being a good setup for that kind of fucking.

Leonard D Neubache, as usual, offers up some gold. I like the idea of snapping your fingers at her, or calling her out in some other indirect, plausibly deniable way. The startling aspect of the sound and the fear of having been caught in the act will no doubt stir up some dread.

[blck]

Gio and LDN play on the same field, they got the same frame:

(04-19-2017 08:58 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

Most importantly you will have done it without being dragged into her petty little game of "chase me"...

You don't get in hers, you don't chase, a punishment can't be taken as a reward, any BDSM afficionado/Dom will tell you, she's going to get fucked hard and angrily, the point to her is not to get pleasure but to endure the pain.
Getting tied, throatfucked, teased and denied orgasm then fucked in her ass hard can't be taken for a reward on her side and if it is then... You got yourself a serious masochist, enjoy!

[Valentine]

[realologist]

There are a lot of different ways to play this.

Gio way.
Ignore.
Game other chicks in front of her.

Another one that hasn't been touched on is try to pimp her out. Say anther guy hollers at her, thinks you have no game, or you were in the bathroom. Interrupt the conversation say "Hey, I know you're looking we can make this happen. Name your price. She has some good pussy. If you fuck her right she might suck her cum off your dick. Give her a couple drinks you can fuck her in the ass. How does that sound?"

Turn to girl "I see this guy likes you. Might as well make some money from it."

Dude will probably walk away. Chick will be offended but will do all those things you mentioned when you get home.

Probably won't do it again.

[Giovonny]

I must apologize! I was wrong!

I didn't read the thread title well enough and I didn't realize that we were talking about a serious girlfriend doing this!

I treated it like it was just a casual fuck buddy doing it.. A girl that I was NOT deeply involved with... I don't often get deeply involved with women..

So, ignore my previous responses...

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If a serious girlfriend did this.. I would NOT say anything!

I might look at her but I wouldn't make a big deal about it.

I would just take a mental note of it and start to become aware of how often she does it.. I might also hack into her phone to see what data I can discover...

But, like others have said, I certainly would not reward her with rough sex.

I was operating under a different assumption!

My answers would not apply in this case.

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Edit: I forgot to mention... When a girl is with her man in public and she looks at me.. I CALL HER ON IT!

I SAY, "DON'T LOOK AT ME, YOU ARE WITH YOUR MAN!"

They always look away and pretend that they were not looking.

[torridon747]

You really do that Gio? Please record it it

While you're at it just record parts of your life too, seems pretty entertaining