What's up, folks!
It's time for a change. After hitting 100+ notches and travelling to 10+ countries for the past two years, it's time for something new.
I quit drinking, started rising early and planting the seeds to expand my business. In addition, I want a girlfriend.
I have never had a relationship that I consider successful. During college, I dated a few women for periods longer then 6 months but it didn't go anywhere. After the last failed attempt, I went celibate for 8 months and then started cold approaching. 100+ notches later, here we are.
You may ask: "asdfk, if you have banged 100+ chicks in 3 years, why didn't you end up with at least one in a relationship?"
Well:
1. I travelled to 10+ countries during the same period. I tried with one girl for 9 months, but the travel killed it. Lesson learned.
2. Most of the time, I tried very hard to not be boyfriend material. Being attractive is something else then being a good boyfriend.
Instead of going for the bang, I want to learn how to create a great relationship. I know that being attractive isn't my problem. Learning how to create connection and when to give is.
I focused on banging girls, and never paid much attention to how to get into a relationship with them. Combined with my constant travelling and very flirty way of hitting on girls, I'm setting myself up to have 1000 notches in 15 years and no wife / LTR whatsoever.
So this is my current plan:
0. Committing to stay in one place for at least one year for at least 8 months.
1. Plan 50 first dates.
2. Meet girls that aren't unbearable to be around me 2 more times.
3. If those 3 bangs don't bore me, I'll keep dating them. Out of the remaining candidates I will probably have some cool girls around me. If I don't, I will go back to step 1.
4. Doing the effort that comes with dating / working towards a relationship. Giving them romantic sex besides the animalistic variety, texting them, giving them nice experiences (besides the one in my pants).
Now my question to you:
What should I give the girls I'm seeing to create a good potential LTR? I'm talking everything that is in THEIR interest.
How do I create a strong connection? Everything that's in OUR interest, so in the interest of the relationship.
I'm explicitly not mentioning MY interest, since over the past years I have become a little bit too selfish and self-reliant. I therefore commit to not nexting a girl the first chance I get before I banged her at least 3 times. And also to be cautious nexting her when this happens after those 3 times. But if you have advice for other rules that are in my best interest, please share.
Let's go!
It's time for a change. After hitting 100+ notches and travelling to 10+ countries for the past two years, it's time for something new.
I quit drinking, started rising early and planting the seeds to expand my business. In addition, I want a girlfriend.
I have never had a relationship that I consider successful. During college, I dated a few women for periods longer then 6 months but it didn't go anywhere. After the last failed attempt, I went celibate for 8 months and then started cold approaching. 100+ notches later, here we are.
You may ask: "asdfk, if you have banged 100+ chicks in 3 years, why didn't you end up with at least one in a relationship?"
Well:
1. I travelled to 10+ countries during the same period. I tried with one girl for 9 months, but the travel killed it. Lesson learned.
2. Most of the time, I tried very hard to not be boyfriend material. Being attractive is something else then being a good boyfriend.
Instead of going for the bang, I want to learn how to create a great relationship. I know that being attractive isn't my problem. Learning how to create connection and when to give is.
I focused on banging girls, and never paid much attention to how to get into a relationship with them. Combined with my constant travelling and very flirty way of hitting on girls, I'm setting myself up to have 1000 notches in 15 years and no wife / LTR whatsoever.
So this is my current plan:
0. Committing to stay in one place for at least one year for at least 8 months.
1. Plan 50 first dates.
2. Meet girls that aren't unbearable to be around me 2 more times.
3. If those 3 bangs don't bore me, I'll keep dating them. Out of the remaining candidates I will probably have some cool girls around me. If I don't, I will go back to step 1.
4. Doing the effort that comes with dating / working towards a relationship. Giving them romantic sex besides the animalistic variety, texting them, giving them nice experiences (besides the one in my pants).
Now my question to you:
What should I give the girls I'm seeing to create a good potential LTR? I'm talking everything that is in THEIR interest.
How do I create a strong connection? Everything that's in OUR interest, so in the interest of the relationship.
I'm explicitly not mentioning MY interest, since over the past years I have become a little bit too selfish and self-reliant. I therefore commit to not nexting a girl the first chance I get before I banged her at least 3 times. And also to be cautious nexting her when this happens after those 3 times. But if you have advice for other rules that are in my best interest, please share.
Let's go!