Biggest positive surprise: the USA
Biggest negative surprise: the USA
For reference: I'd already visited 16 countries when I was a kid. Born to Indian parents, grew up outside of the US (not in India though) and then moved to America for college. By the time I was 18, I already had more travel and language experience than most people can dream of.
Ha, I still remember the day I landed in the Midwest and took the shuttle to my university. There I was, with one luggage bag and a backpack. First few nights I slept on my bed with nothing but the pillow I packed. Meanwhile, some people came with their car, their mom's car, their dad's car and a U-Haul
What can I say. I fell in love with the US. I'll be honest and admit I actually came because I loved American television and movies. And damn, the Midwest took my heart away, as cheesy as it sounds.
College football.
Joining a fraternity.
Learning about how exams are graded on a curve (seeing my grades at the end of my first semester was a huge, positive surprise).
American food.
Taco Bell! God I love Taco Bell.
Bagels.
Unlimited soda refills at restaurants.
Met my best friends for life in the US. Almost all of my closest friends are Americans.
And the fucking optimism. I love American optimism. Even if it something borders supreme irrational confidence.
People in the US have (had?) such a positive outlook on life. It was night and day from the country I left (a country that seemed resigned to its status).
Kissed a girl for the first time in the US. Fell in love for the first time in the US. Fucked a girl for the first time in the US.
The US...well, really the Midwest...is where I feel like I belong. It's the first time I ever felt truly at home. Found my people.
I went home a while back. By happenstance I happened to be there during my 10 year high school anniversary, so I went.
All my high schools remarked how Americanized I'd become. In fact, even people in the US can't pick up that I didn't spend the first 18 years of my life outside the US. Everyone assumes I grew up here. (I picked up an almost perfect American accent on the way).
This is me now:
I eventually ended up attending grad school at an Ivy. Met Nobel prize winning professors, Fortune 500 CEOs and billionaires.
Opportunities I wouldn't have had in any other nation.
I feel tremendously privileged to have studied in the US.
The world revolves around America.
It really does.
We live in the age of the American empire, where either through military bases, American culture (Hollywood, music, comedy) or American products (computers, cellphones, the internet) the entire world is an empire. And the US is modern day Rome.
I talk to my friends back home, and some in India. And I don't think they really understand the world we live in. The US is and will be for a while the focal point of the world, the one nation that dictates what direction all of mankind moves in.
And I don't know if you truly can understand the US unless you've lived in the US.
America's exceeded all of my expectations. It's been one hell of a ride.
That's the positive.
The negative:
The US bears the curse of all seats of empires. As it has propelled itself to magnificent heights and dragged the world up with it, it's also diving down into the abyss and dragging the world down with it.
America - ground zero for feminism.
America - ground zero for gay marriage.
America's produced some of the greatest ideas in mankind's history, and some of the absolute worst ideas.
America's produced some of the most amazingly powerful technology (automobile and computer technology for example) and some of the most havoc-wrecking technology (cue smartphones and their effects on women).
My experiences with women in the US have been...well, there's a reason I'm on this forum.
I look at my Indian friends in India. Normal relationships.
I look at my Indian friends at home. Normal relationships.
I look at my non-Indian friends at home. Normal relationships.
I look at my Indian friends in the US. Disaster.
I look at my non-Indian friends in the Us. Disaster.
The poor food quality.
The amount of toxins in the environment.
The onslaught on traditional values and insane focus on sex in society.
The emphasis on status above all else.
In America, I came eye-to-eye with the ugly side of humanity. And I'm not talking about just the land whale feminists.
I believe everything in life has trade-offs, always. And I experienced them in the US. In some ways, the US has surprised me positively like no country had. And in other ways, it also surprised negatively like no country had.
And it's with sadness that I've made the decision to leave the US.
In a different era (the 70s and 80s), I might've gone on the same path I did, but with much better results relationship wise. I might've stayed here, become an American citizenship, voting Republican consistently, and waving the American flag on 4th of July, every single year. Fulfilled the American dream - house, two cars, white fence picket.
But I don't think it's meant to be.
You know, a lot of non-Americans talk shit about the US. The evil imperialists. Ah, and don't even get them started on Trump.
But nah, the US has earned its rightful place as one of the greatest societies of mankind. It's right up there, with the Egyptians, the Babylonians, the Chinese, the Indians, the Greek and the Romans. Its impact will be felt for centuries to come and in due time historians will study the grandness of the US the way they study the grandness of Rome today.
Even though I'm not American, and probably never will - in terms of countries, the US will always have a special place in my heart.