[The Alpha Virgin]

The only time I've fucked it up was when I met a chick at the night club in a city an hour away from mine. No trains were going back in the morning, so I sat and waited with her the whole night for several hours at a train station for the hotels to open and allow guests to check in.

We finally got a hotel but the lack of sleep made it impossible to get it up even though she was hot. She was frustrated too and I just went to sleep after trying for a while. Then when I woke up like an hour afterwards, still tired as fuck and my dick just couldn't get hard but only just enough so I could jerk off and I came on her back. Soon she got dressed up and all because she had to catch a train and go back to her own city which was about 3h away.

Might have lost a bang but never an ejaculation. Don't underestimate what severe lack of sleep can do to your friend.

[Kapanda]

MDMA-induced ED is definitely a thing

[torridon747]

I can honestly say no. There was one time I couldn't get it up with a girl and had a half chub because I was so drunk I could barely talk. Got it in for about 2 seconds. Took her back to my moms pad back in the day and fucked her in the morning. Ended up dating for 3 months actually oh to be 18 again.

Lighten up on the masturbation and cut porn out. The yay and mols is for the girls, not you if you want to get laid

[Putin Closes]

Whiskey Dick for sure. Some friends of mine said to take Viagra, not sure if it works while sloshed.

[ShuaiGe]

Years ago, I had this problem in the past and overcame it. If you're like me and you're young, not getting it up is a mind thing. I don't have this problem anymore.

I asked a doctor about this issue and he asked me only one question:
"Do you get erections the morning when you wake up?"
"Yes"
"You're 22, it's all in your head"
"But I was with this girl and it didn't happen"
"Trust me, there's nothing wrong with you, go home"

He was right. But it wasn't until later that I understood why. Now that I understand myself I know the reason.

All the effort that went into getting her in bed. Trying to say the right thing all the time, the time and money for dates, wanting to perform really well and the fear of disappointing her and fear of judgement. The pressure to get it up is a real thing.

But none of that is arousing. I looked inside myself and found out that I just wanted to have sex at that time to complete the mission, it was a task to accomplish.

The prescription you need to remedy this situation is a healthy dose of selfishness, to fulfill your own sexual desires, that pleasing this girl is not important, and even if you didn't get it up you still have value and are not a broken man, and there will be very many other girls and you will succeed.

When you fuck a girl, fuck her to fuck her, don't fuck her to have fucked her.

[Heightcel]

Yep once,

Popped viagra on this hot moroccan girl, but it didn't work, i was too anxious / stressed. I had to hold a fart in for so long (her bathroom was close to the bedroom). In the end I didnt even undress her, we just fell asleep, where she told me to leave in the middle of the night, cringy AF.

[Chinoqio]

(01-03-2018 05:15 PM)Heightcel Wrote:  

Yep once,

Popped viagra on this hot moroccan girl, but it didn't work, i was too anxious / stressed. I had to hold a fart in for so long (her bathroom was close to the bedroom). In the end I didnt even undress her, we just fell asleep, where she told me to leave in the middle of the night, cringy AF.

HAHa this is too real, it's so bad when you have to let one loose while she is going down on you, and you have to stop the blowjob so you don't fart in her face

[JackinMelbourne]

(01-02-2018 07:34 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  

Question here, I have a lead which I haven't yet banged. She is one of my 2 leads and I have already been on dates with her and also fingered her. The truth is she doesn't get me hard when dancing with her at the club or even that excited when I see her. Compare that to a couple of days ago when I also fingered a French girl but didn't bang her, I got hard automatically just by touching her and looking at her. If a girl doesn't get me hard but I think she's still good looking should I cut her off and pursue women who I really crave instead? When I was with this chick I thought I had an ED problem but now I realise it's not me, it's her.

Pheromones and the boner test my friend. Just because a chick is hot doesn't mean she's compatible or will get you hard. Focus energy on the ones that do get you HARD.

For the others, don't just cut them right off but keep a viagra on reserve because it could be a timing/vibe/location/energy thing. They might get you hard in the future because the first (assisted) round was so good that you bar up just thinking about her...

[Sandstorm]

I was with a Thai girl in Bangkok, she was a virgin and reluctant but I finally managed to pursued her it was best to give it up! She agreed. Then I got total floppy dick... Absolute fucking nightmare! Trying to thumb a limp cock in, is hard at the best of times, but when it's a virgin who is ready to pull the plug at a seconds notice if it's painful or uncomfortable........ thanks dick! Thanks God!

Now I always have some blues around, just in case. Yeah, it can be "all in your head" but just knowing that doesn't stop it happening.

[Mikestar]

Guys need quick advice asap. 2 days ago I went on a big porn binge and tomorrow a dtf chick wants to meet me, I am sure I will have sex with her but I am scared that due to that binge I wont perform as well. Should I just go for it or reschedule in a few days?

[Tiger Man]

(05-02-2018 01:42 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  

Guys need quick advice asap. 2 days ago I went on a big porn binge and tomorrow a dtf chick wants to meet me, I am sure I will have sex with her but I am scared that due to that binge I wont perform as well. Should I just go for it or reschedule in a few days?

Just get some sleep and go for it. Has this been a major problem in the past? And cut back on the porn in the future.

As to the general theme of the thread... If you are getting regular erections outside of interactions with women (while sleeping, in the morning, those random ones that pop up for no discernible reason), it probably isn't physical.

However, if you have noticed the general quality falling, go see a doctor! Heart disease, diabetes, MS, ALS, etc, etc. Many things can cause ED issues, outside of porn (PIED), alcohol/drugs, and age. And if it is physical, those are issues you want to address sooner rather than later. Sorry to be a downer.

[eradicator]

Quit porn completely. Take Viagra. It works

[Incubus]

Quitting porn helps...but maybe it won't help...which I will go into detail below

A issue not mentioned here...I saw a chick (tall blonde 9) with shorty shorts so tiny that even some chicks standing at the light waiting for it to change where "disgusted by her". I enjoyed every fuckin step this chick took and her ass cheeks as she walked away.

Wait a minute! I enjoyed it? Where was my I wanna fuck that? I see chicks practically naked all day every day. I counted 3 chicks with with skirts so short that the thong was showing. Vee tops you would think had glue or something to stop the nipples from popping out (nope ..no glue)....dental floss only in the ass crack for swimwear

Guys are just walking by the chicks now...they don't whistle....they barely acknowledge a half naked girl who is literally screaming for attention.

So you find yourself with a chick later "normal dressed" and your not seeing a boob or a thong from her and to get interested/turned on/motivated to pursue the chick your with...you start looking around for a half naked chicks to look at.

Somebody wrote above blame the chick if she can't get a guy hard. I say blame the chicks for getting me hard so many times the brain had to shut the dick down for self preservation.

I am pretty sure chicks have desensitized me , solely by being around them half naked out in public! I like fantasy, challenge. I want to get the chick undressed, I like the chase ..the suspense.....but what if she's already showed me all she's got?

I was at the gym the other day...yeah all the chick like the yoga pants, anyways...I glanced over between sets at a girl that was just finishing working on her upper body she had straddled the seat and when she got up the yoga pants were in her crack (the front one)
She didn't give a fuck about it. I thought nice ....then went back to my sets. (chicks showing crack more and more I got use to it for fuk sakes!)

If the mind is connected to my hot dog.....and the mind needs stimuli to get the hot dog to work, and too much of a good thing is a bad thing...then I am going to likely have problems with my hot dog.

I saw a TV program on "getting women turned on" basically the experiment was a guy sits in a room hooked up to a heart/temperature monitor the shrinks then send in a female to sit beside the guy and chat.....result of interaction..guys heart rate went from 125 beats per minute to over 145 BPM...the shrinks did this with multiple men... same result.

Now roles are reversed.. the women one at a time...had a male model come in sit down and chat. ..on average the women had no change in heart rate or 2 beats extra a minute. TWO BEATS EXTRA!

The point is ..those guys were alone in a room when a hot chick walked in meaning no stimuli........but what if the experiment was done with lots of chicks around half naked or while a guy was watching porn....or at a strip club.....I bet the heart rate barely moves.

The other curious thing is the girls not having a response, I know they think of themselves as non sexual but WTF!

I was I guess sexually repressed in the 80's (always a boner) because there was little visual stimulation. Now I'm not sexually repressed because of over visual stimulation actually girls have blown away even my own fantasies and it's a real downer for the next girl if she can't match what the last 5 girls did.

I am pretty sure ED will become huge as time goes along for all male age groups.(in the west). Baring of course any health issues. The women are trying to get our attention by sexual suggestion and over exposure but by doing so it is having the opposite effect and guys dicks are going limp just when needed to work...FOR REAL!

[HungJohnson69]

I have never really lost a bang due to erection problems, but I have had some sub-par sessions because of it. I guess all men have.

Now I play it safe and take the "blue pill" (ha!) every time. Why risk it, my sex-life is not so plentiful that I really can afford to be "sloppy"(!) about it... Besides, I have the excuse of being in my 40s and having a pretty serious chronic disease.

But, I COULD have sex without help, the pill just guarantees that everything will be rock hard for hours and helps me to concentrate more on her and not on ME. And I literally can have sex for hours. Very few women can keep up with me...