[thebassist]

Yeah sorry bud, this forum is not a safe space to get encouragement and justification for shitty life choices and an unwillingness to take pride in oneself. This is a forum for people looking to better themselves in all possible facets of life, so don't be surprised if you catch a lot of flak for the underlying defeatist nature of your posts (e.g. I'm unattractive and have no game, am unwilling to put in the work to change that, and choose to spend my time trolling camgirls online).

[Leonard D Neubache]

(03-19-2017 07:57 PM)questor70 Wrote:  

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My biggest problem, which goes above and beyond basic "thirst" is that my life in general is just boring. Taking a trip down a sleazy dark alley at least gives me a thrill that I can't experience in my day-to-day life as the doting single father.
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If you want some honest advice on how to treat loose women, ask the guys that are going to be nailing your daughter while she's desperate to find a strong man in her life.

I know I'm supposed to be nice to the new kids, but this thread makes me more than a little sick. You should start a new thread entitled "How to stop doting on my daughter and become the real man she needs to learn to look for."

That will kill two birds with one stone. It'll stop your daughter becoming a carousel veteran and will solve your issue re: attracting women.

[Cobra]

[Cobra]

OP, not to put more salt on the wound but your post fits well with the Gamma megathread.

[captain_shane]

[Cobra]

I just got a PM from the OP that he already received tough love so at this point I'm just bullying him. So my message to him:

Not my intention. I want you to succeed and so do many others who already posted here. So we gave you advice. Yet, you decided to not follow our advice and continue to seek validation through your own actions and a few PMs on the forum. I hope there aren't any guys that are providing alternate advice on PM and sympathizing with your actions. If they are, they are setting you up for failure. There is absolutely nothing healthy about what you are doing. Furthermore, a few of us believe that you will ruin your daughter's life. That is a travesty since she's a child and she deserves better. I have children; 3 of them. So, trust me, I know what will fail them. So, believe me, we care. You said you already received tough love. I know you did but it didn't have any effect on you so we're asking you to be a man and step it up a bit. If you don't, it does not do any damage to us. If you do, we are happy to help you and welcome you openly. This isn't bullying; it's men being men.

Let us know your thoughts.

[Mig Picante]

(03-28-2017 09:09 PM)Cobra Wrote:  

There is absolutely nothing healthy about what you are doing.

Second this.

[Latan]

OP, don't think we're trying to bully you.
See it like a punch to your shoulder from concerned friends : "Wake up dude, you can be better than this!" is all we're saying.

There is no destiny, the only limit is yourself.
Trust yourself, you CAN become a better man, you CAN attract young women who live near you.
Question is : do you WANT to become a better man?

[Gorgiass]

(03-28-2017 09:09 PM)Cobra Wrote:  

I hope there aren't any guys that are providing alternate advice on PM and sympathizing with your actions.

I had a PM back to him per my last post but I really just wanted the nudez

Doubt anyone's giving him sympathy but you have to admit it would be a pretty amusing story if he did end up banging her and didn't lose his house in the deal. I give it 73:1 odds against. In the meantime, I've got a gym to hit and some approaching to do, path of most resistance be damned.

[Leonard D Neubache]

Gunnery Sergeant: Give me another pushup, faggot! You think the enemy is going to give you a pussy pass!?!

OP: Stop bullying me!

Motherfucker please.

We've had female trolls with more genuine masculinity than this. If OP is not a troll then he's beyond redemption until he admits that his entire persona needs tossing in the bin so he can start from scratch.

Notice, however, that the odds of that are infinitesimal since the way he tells his story lends itself to the idea that he's cast himself as the lead role in a pathetic little soap opera.

Let me give him some spoilers. The whore-with-a-heart-of-gold doesn't sign for season two because the studio can't afford her. As such she phones it in for the last few episodes of season one and when the show is cancelled nobody gives a crap.

[PapayaTapper]

OP

Here is an example of what this forum is about and the opportunity you have.

Drix's new life

Change is never easy...but it's not impossible either. All you have to do is be ready to embrace it.

[Vill@in]

OP why do you think the friendship bonds between guys is stronger than the bonds between girls? Because we give it to each other real. We don't sugar coat shit and tell you what you want to hear. We tell the truth.

The truth can sting and hurt but it's the TRUTH. Every guy on here has better things to do with their time other than bully someone online (except for the trolls of course). We're giving you free advice because we want to succeed as a fellow man in this fucked up society. We're all in this fucking thing together.

So you can cry like a little bitch or you can take the advice and learn from it and be a better man.

[puckerman]

ORIGINAL POSTER:

You are basing all this based on your interactions with a cam girl. This is ridiculous. You don't know what is going on with her life. You don't even know if her pictures are real.

Hell, this could be a man pretending to be a woman. It could be one man pretending to be lots of cam women.

I once "met" a woman on a dating site. She asked me to go over to Yahoo Messenger. I got on Yahoo Messenger with her. I soon found out that I was chatting with a bot.

Have you ever engaged in a tech support chat with a company like Dell or HP? Do you realize they do multiple chats at once?

How many men do you think cam girl is gaming? She's probably doing this with dozens of thirsty men, just like you. All you know is what she tells you. Of course, she is going to give you a story so you can feel sorry for her. Of course, she is going to make herself as sympathetic as possible.

I don't know much about your life circumstances. If you are in a small town, you may not have many prospects. But you are just telling us a pathetic story about pathetic behavior and are wondering why everyone has slammed you. Have you noticed that nobody here has even liked your post, even though this thread currently has 3,312 views?

You aren't going to die wishing you had spent more time with cam girls. You are going to die wishing you had spent more time with actual women. You'd have more quality time with women over 60 than with some cam girl.

What do you want from this thread? Do you want someone to validate this behavior? Or are you hoping that you will be chastised enough that you will do something else?

[DeusVult]

I myself lost 140 lbs...

Why not improve yourself and pursue something real, rather than enjoy the fake steak in the Matrix? Clock is ticking man.

[questor70]

"What do you want from this thread?"

At this point, for it to disappear.

[frozen-ace]

^
No one likes to take a cold slap to the face, but you needed it. You said we could "nudge you for updates"....about what, you jerking off to a (s)cam girl?? You chatting her and eventually she asks you for money?? You can't save every stray cat, dog, and orphan so don't even try. This woman is so far beyond redemption you shouldn't even be talking to her, and you are polluting your own mind if you keep going back.

This should be your wake up call. You still have time.

Give us updates on this-
1) no porn challenge
2) exercise. What are you doing now? What can you do better? Start with something small, hell even do push ups and sit ups before bed. And what is your diet? Any junk food? Soda?

[Latan]

(04-01-2017 11:14 PM)frozen-ace Wrote:  

Give us updates on this-
1) no porn challenge
2) exercise. What are you doing now? What can you do better? Start with something small, hell even do push ups and sit ups before bed. And what is your diet? Any junk food? Soda?

+1
This is key to you right now, OP.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

There are millions of decent girls in Ukraine and billions in the world who would be happy to share your company even if you're a mid-40s single father... and out of all those you find a fucking camgirl to dote on? And you think she's great because "she rarely has more than 50 men in her chatroom" and "does degrading things with a look of innocence on her face"?

Man, this is not just plain stupid, but it's a huge insult to all those decent women who'd be glad to give you a chance despite your (whether real or self-perceived) shortcomings.

Instead of putting in at least a little bit of effort to fix your life and find one of them, you've chosen to latch onto one of the top 2% hoes in the world and are now rationalizing that it's not so bad because at least she's not in the top 1% of hoes in the world.

STOP! JUST STOP NOW!

Your life is not over just because you're divorced.

Your life is not over just because you're out of shape.

Your life is not over just because you're old.

However, your life will be over if you continue like this.

Stop chatting with camgirls, no matter their number of followers, and pursue real life instead. What you're doing at the moment is an addiction with no end and with destructive consequences.

For the love of God, just stop! You'll save your money, you'll save your family - you'll save your HEALTH! There are good women out there that you could have, but you have to abandon this dark path first.

[LionOfCA]

Here is my advice.

Step 1. Go into your bathroom.
Step 2. Splash some water on your face.
Step 3. Look at yourself in the mirror, real hard, deep into the eyes.
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Step 4. Slap the fuck out of yourself, because you're stupid .

[cascadecombo]

(03-25-2017 12:17 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  

(03-19-2017 11:20 AM)questor70 Wrote:  

She knows I'm old enough to be her father and that I have a teenaged daughter.

I find this simple fact very unnerving.

If your own daughter was 18 or older and you found out she was secretly doing the same exact thing this girl in Ukraine is doing - what course of action would you as a father take, to fix the situation ?

Does that mean when you are old enough to possibly have had an 18 year old daughter you will stop hitting on them?


Also,

[PapayaTapper]

Well OP

[questor70]

It would have been nice if people were cool to just follow along for sh*ts and giggles, but once it reached the point of posters vying to deliver the nastiest insult right up to the one where I have to "jettison my entire persona and start over again" there's really no incentive on my part to continue. I'm just not that much of a masochist.

I will start a dedicated self-improvement thread if and when I want that kind of tough-love, but this wasn't meant to be one.

[cascadecombo]

Op, in a forum the only thing you control, as in a discussion, is your own voice and words. Where people choose to take the discussion can only be influenced in a soft manner.

[LionOfCA]

(04-12-2017 07:42 PM)questor70 Wrote:  

It would have been nice if people were cool to just follow along for sh*ts and giggles, but once it reached the point of posters vying to deliver the nastiest insult right up to the one where I have to "jettison my entire persona and start over again" there's really no incentive on my part to continue. I'm just not that much of a masochist.

I will start a dedicated self-improvement thread if and when I want that kind of tough-love, but this wasn't meant to be one.

OP I still don't know if this thread is serious or not. Did you actually think this girl was interested in you without even knowing what you looked like? To make matters worse, she gave you a SOB story about her family life--this is pretty standard for scams of this nature--and you made it sound like you believed her. If anything interesting has happened since, I mean, please share. I suppose it's possible this could be a legit gig for you, after reading the OP I'd bet against it, however.

Additionally, you don't need to re-invite yourself on here, because at the end of the day no one on here is going to hold this blunder against you. I'd still get a drink with you, I mean, sure I'd laugh about this abit, but it's no biggie. The reason you join forums of this kind is to get the 'tough love' and reality check you received when you're doing something stupid pertaining to women, that you might not be able to receive elsewhere. The members of this forum performed their roles appropriately, I believe. You were acting blue pill (a lovestruck fool), and got some red pill love.

[Jack_Smith]

(04-12-2017 07:42 PM)questor70 Wrote:  

...it reached the point of posters vying to deliver the nastiest insult right up to the one where I have to "jettison my entire persona and start over again" ...

Seriously, brother?!?

That sounds like "the nastiest insult" to you???

You know what was astounding to me as I just read through this entire thread?

The lack of insult and indignation, which is what your behavior merits, and the incredible outpouring of concern, honest actionable feedback, and genuine support.

Your behavior is unworthy of it.

Wake. The. Fuck. Up.