When a girl is giving you IOIs and you know there is potential to score but she has a boyfriend how do you get her alone or on a date? Do you have to emphasize that you're just hanging out? I only ask because where I am at my options are limited because the girl to guy ratio skewed heavily and most of the more attractive girls are taken.
For example, a girl I have been working on for a few weeks has been giving me good IOIs and I have been escalating the best I can given the setting but I need to get her alone to go further. We have also hung out a few times at public events and she has invited me to several things. We both are in the same line of work and there is a temporary opening for a few weeks. We would be working together and alone. She was excited about it at first and made me promise to set it up, once I got everything together I asked her when she could come in and take care of the paperwork to finalize it. She said she had to ask somebody about something to make sure she had time to come in and do it. The next day she tells me she can't blow off her volunteering work she has to do for the half hour to do the paperwork and she is also having sound thoughts. When I pressed further she said that working with me would mean we would be spending too much time together.
What do I do in these types of situations? Is the boyfriend likely the problem and telling her to avoid me and I have to be more subtle or is the girl just feeling guilty and I have to work on her more before I try to get her alone?
For example, a girl I have been working on for a few weeks has been giving me good IOIs and I have been escalating the best I can given the setting but I need to get her alone to go further. We have also hung out a few times at public events and she has invited me to several things. We both are in the same line of work and there is a temporary opening for a few weeks. We would be working together and alone. She was excited about it at first and made me promise to set it up, once I got everything together I asked her when she could come in and take care of the paperwork to finalize it. She said she had to ask somebody about something to make sure she had time to come in and do it. The next day she tells me she can't blow off her volunteering work she has to do for the half hour to do the paperwork and she is also having sound thoughts. When I pressed further she said that working with me would mean we would be spending too much time together.
What do I do in these types of situations? Is the boyfriend likely the problem and telling her to avoid me and I have to be more subtle or is the girl just feeling guilty and I have to work on her more before I try to get her alone?