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I keep catching oneitis
02-20-2017, 12:25 PM
I am a 24 year old man and I still keep getting crushes. I don't like it one bit because it's emasculating. I've been like this since I was a young boy.
I suspect that there is a psychological reason behind it because I also suffer from anxiety disorder and depression. I addition to that my brain just chooses a girl that shows IOIs to obsess about without me having a say in it.
I currently have a total of 4 crushes.
Can I simply fix this with game? Or do I need to tell my therapist about this as it may have a deeper psychological reason?
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I keep catching oneitis
02-20-2017, 12:36 PM
These are girls you're not banging / dating? When I read the title, I assumed you meant you catch feelings for chicks you've been seeing for awhile, which is common. Happens to me too. It sounds like a notch count problem to me. Go out and bang a bunch of chicks if that's the case. It helps take them off the pedestal.
"Does PUA say that I just need to get to f-close base first here and some weird chemicals will be released in her brain to make her a better person?"
-Wonitis
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I keep catching oneitis
02-20-2017, 12:43 PM
OP, how many women have you been with, in your life?
To me, having a "crush" is a combination of thinking a woman is special + scarcity mentality.
After nailing a couple dozen of them, you begin to see patterns, see they're all the same, wether it shows clearly or not.
When you don't get your dick wet enough, you obsess about women, creating a thirst obscuring your vision.
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I keep catching oneitis
02-20-2017, 12:45 PM
It's ok to get strong feelings for girls so long as you don't let it cloud your decisions. I don't see it as a bad thing. You are a romantic. Stay grounded in reality is all. Whenever I've had crushes on girls it's because there is something about that girl that resonates with a part of me. It's like you see a missing piece of yourself in someone else.
There is a lot of energy in that. You can take that energy and turn it into something positive. The more girls you interact with, the more you will realize that the special quality you are attributing to those crushes you mentioned aren't that rare. Most girls more similar than they are different.
Go approach more girls, and get a more variety of experiences under your belt. It will increase your sense of abundance and give you more perspective on what you are experiencing. Also, it's completely normal for a lot of guys to get those feelings. It's not a psychological disorder so much as it's just you being new to the game.
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I keep catching oneitis
02-20-2017, 12:52 PM
It's because you're emotionally needy. I see that you mentioned anxiety and depression. You need to have a fulfilled life yourself, be your own happiness, be your own emotional support. Pick up a hobby, hit the gym, get involved in boxing, mma, or any combat sport and raise your self confidence and testosterone. You're putting these women on pedestals because you see them as more than what they are. Get your self confidence up and go talk to these girls that you're interested and get to know them. Doing this you'll see that, spoiler alert, girls aren't something to be preoccupied with and obsessing in thought over. With the right mindset you'll start to see that they aren't nearly as perfect as you've been fantasizing about them in your head.