Quote: (02-14-2017 02:53 AM)John Michael Kane Wrote:
Why were you trying to flirt with other girls if you wanted her to be your LTR? If you think she's relationship material, then stop flirting with other girls and commit to her. Don't tell her straight up not to flirt with other guys. See if she stops that behavior after you started it. If she keeps it up, correct her and tell you were originally just wanting to see if she's interested. If you're going to be in a relationship, the point isn't to instill fear and jealousy in the other person. Both parties need to only flirt with each other, otherwise you aren't called for a relationship. Nip your own flirting in the bud, ask if she wants to date you exclusively and move on.
I disagree - I see this as a tactical advantage - dread game.
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Instill dread
Women respond viscerally in their vagina area to unpredictability, mixed signals, danger, and drama in spite of their best efforts to convince themselves otherwise. Managing your relationship in such a way that she is left with a constant, gnawing feeling of impending doom will do more for your cause than all the Valentine’s Day cards and expertly performed tongue love in the world. Like it or not, the threat of a looming breakup, whether the facts justify it or not, will spin her into a paranoid estrogen-fueled tizzy, and she’ll spend every waking second thinking about you, thinking about the relationship, thinking about how to fix it. Her love for you will blossom under these conditions. Result: she works harder to please you.
The key for the man is to adopt a posture of blase emotional distance alternated with loving tenderness. Too much of either and she’ll run off.