[RatInTheWoods]

How the fuck is your forgiving LTR not going to be keeping a secure eye on you and bust you trying to bang the other one again?

Is she stupid or just not care?

You are going to lose both here, that's my prediction.

[su24]

(02-08-2017 04:39 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

How the fuck is your forgiving LTR not going to be keeping a secure eye on you and bust you trying to bang the other one again?

Is she stupid or just not care?

You are going to lose both here, that's my prediction.

Well she's much calmer and not as much of a hothead as the younger chick.. Plus we've been together almost three years so we have a lot of history together. And I already mentioned it but she seems to accept me along with all my faults, and accepts me for the cheating scumbag and rascal that I am. But yeah now the older girl texts me every two hours. She has been over to my place like 4 or 5 nights a week. I have managed to keep her away from my place for three straight days now, and this is the longest i have managed to keep her away for like 3 weeks since d day when this all broke.

She calls me every night. And she has left like 5 bags of her stuff at my place.

But still, she's handling this a lot better than I thought she would. Certainly a lot better than I would have. Somehow, this other woman calling her has led to some kind of weird competitive spirit to come out of her. Almost like she's fighting for me.

A lot of my friends tell me to drop the younger chick, she's too much drama. She's fvcked up. That the older chick is hotter than her. I feel like a fvcked up hot chick.. i want the girl that's bad for me even though i have a better hotter girl that treats me well. But the younger girl is much more exciting both sexually and otherwise than the older one. And I can't help but think i want the younger one so much more precisely because I can't have her.

I remember the older chick told me about the conversation she had with the other girl. They were both sh*t talking me but at the same time telling each other all the nice things i did for them, as if they were both trying to get the other one to leave me. The fvcked up part was when they both got out their calendars and started comparing times, dates, and events. Suddenly all the times I avoided calls, made excuses, wasn't available, or didn't respond right away made sense. One of the things the younger chick told the older one was "he picked you.."

This is probably in reference to when the younger chick found out about my babe text to my ex girlfriend, and she told me to message her and tell her the younger chick is my gf. I refused.

Anyways guys this situation has me real upset and feeling depressed. I keep thinking about this damn younger chick, I know she's coming back from her trip today. I invited some freaky girl I banged over tonight so I'm gonna pound her real good, but I keep thinking about this other girl. I hope she doesn't call me tonight, and I'm not really expecting her to.

I have no idea how this is gonna turn out. Wish me luck, i'm gonna need it.

[Sam Malone]

(02-08-2017 09:36 AM)blck Wrote:  

Relevant:

[su24]

Sam, I did deny, deny, deny. I had been doing that for ages. I was careful, but would still slip up once in a while. I got comfortable, and a little careless.

But when the two girls are calling each other on the phone, telling each other they're both in love with me, comparing dates on their calendars with each other to determine when each girl was with me, and then they even talked about what the patterns on my sheets and my pillowcases in my bedroom were like, there was nothing I could do. I had to admit it.

[birthday cat]

It sounds like 26yo girl is trying to claim you and quickly get to exclusive girlfriend status. I suggest slowing her down if you don't plan to make her exclusive. You don't want her thinking you will be exclusive if you won't be.

Tell her this situation has been difficult for you and you need a little space and some time to focus on yourself or your hobbies. It would probably be good for you to take a few days off from girls to chill out anyway.

[lavidaloca]

This sounds like it happened in a Latin Country. I had the same thing happen to me in just kept my long term girlfriend. I don't regret that decision one bit.

If these girls both know your fucking around theres a reasonably good chance they have or will too.

Your in a lose lose scenario. If you stay with the LTR she's going to be all over your ass to make sure you aren't cheating or she herself will subtlely get revenge.

With the short term girlfriend you probably had hardly built up her trust at this point and any trust you had was shattered. That would be a big uphill battle.

[Splord]

(02-08-2017 05:34 PM)su24 Wrote:  

]I remember the older chick told me about the conversation she had with the other girl.

Wait, the girls are talking to each other? This is either very good or very bad.

(02-08-2017 05:34 PM)su24 Wrote:  

]Well she's much calmer and not as much of a hothead as the younger chick.

As in "calm before the storm"?

The fact that the two girls are talking to each other and complimenting you is not impossible, in which case hats off to you.

However the 26yo might be staying with you for any number of reasons.
Maybe she wants to get revenge, I mean latinas are known to be passionate and revenge does come from passion. Or you are her best option at the time. Or some other hamstery reason.

If you have to overanalyze your decisions, your actions, the whole situation you are in, there isn't much sentiment in the relationship is there?

I think that the glass is broken with both girls and I'm afraid that, sooner or later, our friend below will prove right.

(02-08-2017 04:39 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

You are going to lose both here, that's my prediction.

It is a difficult situation you are in, friend, and there are no easy solutions so I think that, as you said, you are going to need all the luck you can get.

[jamaicabound]

Dude drop them both, this is going to be an ongoing insecurity with either one you choose, they have each others contact info now so if you pick one the other is done for sure and honestly they are both again eitehr one you choose will be constantly checking up on you. I'ts not worth the headaches.

[su24]

Gentlemen, I thank you all for your expertise and words of wisdom. This entire thread should be stickied, so my mistakes here can be read by others as good lessons in life for an eternity of future generations.

I called the younger girl today. The conversation did not go well. To make a long story short, she wanted us to take a break so she could recover from the trauma. Some words were exchanged, and I realized I had fallen in love with a whore with mental problems. Sometimes in life, this happens.

I finished the conversation by telling her that I had no regrets for what I did, and that I was making the choice to move on. I will bring my long time girlfriend over tonight, and focus on her. For me, it will be a long road to recovery, but let the journey begin today.

Again, I thank everyone for their amazing advice and exceptional insight. My decision to come here and reveal my story - as crazy as it was - was the right one. Revealing myself to you guys like this, even anonymously, was not easy.

[vettel96]

Was in a similar situation about 5 months ago myself so it was very interesting to read your experiences. Any updates?

[Jetset]

"I realized I had fallen in love with a whore with mental problems."

RVF in one sentence.

[The Beast1]

(10-19-2017 09:32 PM)Jetset Wrote:  

"I realized I had fallen in love with a whore with mental problems."

RVF in one sentence.

Tell me about it.

Juggling multiple women is difficult and time consuming. My limit was three.

Damn full time job and the drama is just not worth it.

[Guile]

Three words: "It wasn't me".

[DamienCasanova]

(10-19-2017 09:32 PM)Jetset Wrote:  

"I realized I had fallen in love with a whore with mental problems."

RVF in one sentence.

[Pheonix]

Hmmmmm, my experience/observation has always been that the person who takes the cheater back is always at a disadvantage. The cheater has the upper hand if he knows how to play it. Sure, there will be some ass kissing and test taking for a while. But whomever “accepts” the cheating is essentially admitting that they just can’t live without him and can’t do any better. This unspoken truth is power if you know how to wield it.