[DonnyGately]

She's not interested.

I often go with "I'll be at XYZ bar at 10, come join me."

You'll get
a) radio silence
b) she texts back but some excuse not to meet, proceed as normal
c) she counterproposes a future date
d) she's interested/she agrees to come

[Hazaer]

(10-17-2017 05:50 PM)DonnyGately Wrote:  

She's not interested.

I often go with "I'll be at XYZ bar at 10, come join me."

You'll get

b) she texts back but some excuse not to meet, proceed as normal

So, when you say you are at the bar, are you alone or with friends? Being alone might convey a low value while being with friends might make her nervous as she doesn't know your friends.

Also, for the excuse not to meet, how do you proceed?

[Jetset]

(10-17-2017 08:18 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

So, when you say you are at the bar, are you alone or with friends? Being alone might convey a low value while being with friends might make her nervous as she doesn't know your friends.

Also, for the excuse not to meet, how do you proceed?

In other situations, I usually bumper meetups with a hard stop. "I've got a dinner meeting at 7:00, but meet me at the Big Black Pussycat after at 9:00."

Use it strategically. Mention something after if you think you'll need to bail, but not so important you can't plausibly "decide to skip it" if it turns out she's ready for dick.

Also can be used to signal her relative importance. Big difference between leaving her for a meeting with the Polish team and leaving her for ukulele practice.

[xmlenigma]

Can we have good restart funny Memes broadcast thread for the dormant pipeline?

[bgbusiness]

How about "I need some space."
without any emojis or anything.

This is obviously supposed to be dark humor where you haven't seen the chick for like 1~3months and you try to re engage with the chick.
The girl will know that it's a humor and if she laughs, she will engage, etc.

I also like the group invitation text.
Ex. "Hey guys, I will be at xxx (a club) on Saturday night, if anybody wants to come, please let me know."
Ex2. "Hey guys, I will be having a group dinner on Thursday night at xxx, if you are interested, shoot me a text. There will be girls and guys, you can also bring your friend too."

^- Of course, if she says that she can't make it, at least she is talking to you now and if she does make it, she can see you with hot chicks and a lot of social proof with high value guys.

[DonnyGately]

(10-17-2017 08:18 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(10-17-2017 05:50 PM)DonnyGately Wrote:  

She's not interested.

I often go with "I'll be at XYZ bar at 10, come join me."

You'll get

b) she texts back but some excuse not to meet, proceed as normal

So, when you say you are at the bar, are you alone or with friends? Being alone might convey a low value while being with friends might make her nervous as she doesn't know your friends.

Also, for the excuse not to meet, how do you proceed?

It doesn't matter whether I'm alone or not, and vagueness keeps her hamster spinning. I am the prize, not her. If she wants the prize, she has to come out.

My reply if she can't make it depends a little on her reply, but I'm likely to ignore it until the next day. I'm a busy man with shit to do.

Now if I get a lengthy email apologizing that she wants to come out but has her biology final in the morning and she's pre-med, that's an acceptable excuse and I'll send her a short reply. Or I might tell her next week she's meeting me in stiletto heels and her shortest micro-mini.

There's no perfect text, no perfect method to get her out. You have to be an interesting, congruent man she wants to spend time with or get fucked by when shes's horny. There's a million ways to skin a pussy.

[Hazaer]

(10-15-2017 11:56 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(10-13-2017 09:01 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Bringing back this thread to life.. Cool examples of re-start texts above but the question of when to send it remains disputed. A girl doesn't reply or cancels a date, how long do you guys wait before sending the re-start?

Roosh writes that 'how was your weekend' just the Monday after that weekend is good: http://www.rooshv.com/the-restart-text while some others reckon it should be several weeks after.

What have been your experiences?

(10-11-2017 11:53 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(10-11-2017 07:25 PM)Mig Picante Wrote:  

(10-11-2017 06:32 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(10-10-2017 08:50 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

hey guys, am in a sticky situation. There is this girl who I approached and got the number a couple days back. I kind of accidentally called her and then hung up but I didn't mean to call her. Then I texted her that I called her by mistake and I am still getting used to this phone and 'how are you?'

Really kind of screwed up, should have just talked to her. What do you guys suggest I do?
I was thinking of letting her reply (now I doubt that is going to happen) and then call her up to ask her out for a drink, was thinking of texting her before this mess but now that I backed out of this call, don't want her thinking that it was because I am too scared to call or something.

Thoughts?

(10-10-2017 09:09 PM)fitness2569 Wrote:  

You are thinking too much. Do the simplest thing

Got a message later saying 'Hi how are you?'
Called her up much later (not immediately after the message) to set a date to hangout, got the voice machine, left a simple call me back message. Looks like a no reply.
Did she change her mind or was it a flake all along?

Frankly, at the moment you are both just fucking around with your phones. You've haven't even been able to speak to one another yet or suggested a solid time to meet and been turned down.

^ True. Too much messing with the phone. Lesson learnt.

I have not suggested a time to meet. My intention was to text her to meet but accidentally called her before the text time that I was planning for.

Anyway, no reply after my second call (when i was going to ask her to hang out). I was thinking that I should have texted her the second time instead of calling her, not sure if she felt more weird about it.

But I am not going to contact her again till she replies. Damn.. This was such a fiasco. She seemed to be interested at the time of the approach and I think she gave me another chance after the accidental call but I am not sure if the second call creeped her out too much.

So, I sent a restart text after the weekend (about 5days) after the call I made. It was the 'you know I had a dream about you' text from one of the posters above. But I have yet to receive a reply. It looks like a lost cause but the puzzling thing is she kind of knows where I usually hang out to study/work and after that call and this restart text she comes over and talks to some people there always close to where I am sitting and working. Is this some kind of attention seeking behavior?

A bit of background, I actually approached her a few months ago but she asked to hang out as a group to which I went radio silent over text and didn't talk to her till now. So, in the most recent approach when I got her number again, it went better than the last time, she asked me if I drink. Also, she asked why I didn't respond to her invitation to hang out as a group during the earlier approach months ago to which I replied that she has got a good memory (I think this was a shit test).

So, how do you think I should proceed and how would you gauge her interest level now? I plan to ask her out if she responds to the re-start but it looks unlikely she will respond. Also, she doesn't look like the shy type, she is in her later 20s.

(10-20-2017 05:00 PM)DonnyGately Wrote:  

(10-17-2017 08:18 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(10-17-2017 05:50 PM)DonnyGately Wrote:  

She's not interested.

I often go with "I'll be at XYZ bar at 10, come join me."

You'll get

b) she texts back but some excuse not to meet, proceed as normal

So, when you say you are at the bar, are you alone or with friends? Being alone might convey a low value while being with friends might make her nervous as she doesn't know your friends.

Also, for the excuse not to meet, how do you proceed?

It doesn't matter whether I'm alone or not, and vagueness keeps her hamster spinning. I am the prize, not her. If she wants the prize, she has to come out.

My reply if she can't make it depends a little on her reply, but I'm likely to ignore it until the next day. I'm a busy man with shit to do.

Now if I get a lengthy email apologizing that she wants to come out but has her biology final in the morning and she's pre-med, that's an acceptable excuse and I'll send her a short reply. Or I might tell her next week she's meeting me in stiletto heels and her shortest micro-mini.

There's no perfect text, no perfect method to get her out. You have to be an interesting, congruent man she wants to spend time with or get fucked by when shes's horny. There's a million ways to skin a pussy.

That part about the heels and the dress is a nice touch but ultimately it feels like she has already decided whether she wants to meet you or not.

About that girl, you might be right about her not being interested. She kind of ran into me on campus, my back was turned to her as I was entering a room on campus and she was coming down a the stairs, kind of heard footsteps stop behind me so I turned back, there she was in the middle of the flight of stairs looking away at something, frozen. I assume this was a pretense but it looked kind of funny. I just ignored her and went my way. What do you think made her do an awkward thing like that when she could have turned back?

Now that I think about it, all this hanging around me/IOIs was a bunch of BS from her that was going on for months, the real test to see if a girl is interested is to approach her, express attraction and see how she reacts on a one-on-one situation.