Thanks for the feedback OP.
Quote: (01-28-2017 05:49 PM)h5757 Wrote:
I haven’t seen a change in conversion to dates yet. I think the main reason might be because I have a habit of messaging back and forth for too long and I’ve read that women lose interest after a while.
Yes, exchange a couple of light & funny messages, then ask them out.
It shows confidence, and that you know what you want : real pussy, not internet talk.
Quote: (01-28-2017 05:49 PM)h5757 Wrote:
I also feel like I have to establish some comfort before I ask for their number, so I’m not sure when the ideal time to ask is.
In my experience, you don't have to ask for the number every time.
I propose to have a drink (Must be in the same day / following day, so she won't have the time to lose interest), then if she wants to switch numbers I agree.
Most of the time, I don't even have her number, as I'm confident my online messages were interesting enough to make her come.
It also prevent (some) from flaking at the last minute, as she doesn't have my number.
(I still get flaked on, but that's the number game)
Quote: (01-28-2017 05:49 PM)h5757 Wrote:
I also want to find out whether I have any chemistry with them before making an effort to go out on a date with them because I don’t want to risk going on an awkward date. Although I might just be coming up with excuses because of my anxiety.
Don't see these meet ups as "dates".
Don't come with anything in mind : maybe she'll be unattractive, maybe she'll smell, maybe she doesn't shave, maybe she's a cunt, maybe she doesn't know how to talk in person, maybe she's crazy, ...
You can't know if you'll enjoy her company before you see her in person, and no amount of online messaging will change that.
Meet with her as soon as possible, see if you click in person.
Many girls know how to chat online, but can't hold a simple conversation.
Quote: (01-28-2017 05:49 PM)h5757 Wrote:
Another reason might be that most of the women I’ve been recently messaging live up to 40 miles away (there aren’t any women who I’m interested in who are close by that I haven’t messaged already).
Do you live in a little city? Then can't help you, as I don't have any experience with this situation.
If not, you could use different websites : if OKC doesn't work for you try their competition.
Lots of girls are on every main dating websites anyway.