Quote: (01-12-2017 12:18 PM)vinman Wrote:
Physical standards have dropped. The hotter the woman the more bullshit I anticipate, and I no longer have the patience for it. I'll take a 6 that's trying to please over a 9 that's a pain in the ass.
I completely understand where you're coming from. The thing is, at least for me, no matter how many other positive traits she may have, I can't be fully satisfied with a "6" when I see "9s" out and about. Conversely, as much as having a "9" on your arm makes you feel like Mr. Big Swingin' Dick, the drama and sense of entitlement that inevitably come with having such top-tier T&A makes a guy long for the effort a "6" will put in just to keep him around.
When it comes to dating/relationships, people generally present the best versions of themselves in the beginning. Once the "honeymoon phase" is over and the transition into the "comfort zone" is complete, that's when you truly find out who you're dealing with. The longer you're in "the game," the more effective you'll become at screening, but some girls are truly gifted actresses and will appear, at least initally, to be everything you're looking for -- until they've gotten a commitment from you, or a ring on their finger. Once that happens, all bets are off.
There's really only two ways I've found for a guy to, effectively, "have his cake and eat it, too":
. "Spinning plates" as a bachelor
. Cheating on a LTR
Of the two options, it's much easier to spin plates. If you've never entered into an agreement of exclusivity with a woman, she can't really be too upset if you're seeing other women. Well she
can, but she doesn't really have a right to. I think the best situation a man can find himself in, is going from one woman to the next the moment the "honeymoon phase" is over. By then, you've already had them at their best -- I don't give a fuck what Marilyn Monroe says, I have no interest in handling a woman at her worst.