[PoetryOfEros]

Some of you might remember my 'Starting Roosh Program' thread from the other week. Just hitting you all up with progress. Since it was Christmas and I spent it with loved ones I didn't do any game. However, I've been working on my boundary function and this took some toll over Christmas.

I will explain some thoughts I've had over the last week:

1. When I attempt to behave differently and communicate from my new understandings of things (I've been reading on related topics) I find that the people who know me are accustomed to the 'old me'. I'm struggling to bridge 'new me' with 'old me' in this regard. I read the part about 'Compensation' in The Rational Male which really helped me to organise this problem into a way I could explain it here. I need some advice with how I can effect change without people thinking I'm just being funny with them

2. Monk Mode: I've entered a somewhat Monk Mode (as described by IllimitableMan) whereby I'm working on some important aspects of life. I've already started working out (albeit not much but better than nothing) which is helping me to feel more confidence in wanting to accomplish more. I have a question though, organising time seems to be important now more than ever, as I incorporate new parts of life I'm having to rearrange. How often should I be doing weights for the recovery to happen?

3. Since committing (in thought) to the Roosh Program I'm feeling even more Anxiety over the 100 Approaches which is doing the opposite and making me NOT want to do them. I set myself a goal of starting them come new year's Monday (2nd Jan 2017). Advice on motivation is needed with this.

4. I've been reading 'Bang' and don't feel like using canned lines. Of course, come Monday I'll just pick a line if I can't think of an opener (for back up).

5. I realised that I probably won't take a girl home after approaching her (let's face it I'm not that good yet) so 'Limit Masturbation to once a week' will continue but does doing approaches increase sexual thoughts?

6. I realised I can set my own time frame on this and don't want to be too ambitious so what is a rounded number of approaches I should aim for in a week?

7 Do I really have to watch an episode of Seinfeld everyday? I mean, I barely watch television as it is.

I know some of these seem really simple but these are my current thoughts. Besides this I'm going to stick to my plan of doing the Roosh Program come the 2nd.

I guess I just need some motivation really for the approaches.

[Latan]

1- If you want people to stop expecting you to act in a certain way, you must stop constantly sharing your personnal history with them.
Create a mystery cloud around you, not opening your mouth to say all your thoughts, what you did, and with whom.
Select what you share, so that if you change that habit, people won't even notice.
This way, when you change your way of doing / thinking, people won't try to lower you back to your former self, as they won't know for sure who this guy was.
I'm not saying to stay silent, just to be selective about what you share.

2- Three Lifting sessions a week works for me, try to see what works for you, experiment and see how your body reacts.

3- Stop fapping, continue Lifting, your motivation will skyrocket.

4- In Bang (or Day Bang...don't remember), Roosh advises to use the Elderly approach (indirect, simply talking about random stuff, not to scare the cat). Do you see this as canned lines?

5- Interacting with young sexy girls does that, yes.

[PoetryOfEros]

(12-30-2016 10:57 PM)Latan Wrote:  

1- If you want people to stop expecting you to act in a certain way, you must stop constantly sharing your personnal history with them.
Create a mystery cloud around you, not opening your mouth to say all your thoughts, what you did, and with whom.
Select what you share, so that if you change that habit, people won't even notice.
This way, when you change your way of doing / thinking, people won't try to lower you back to your former self, as they won't know for sure who this guy was.
I'm not saying to stay silent, just to be selective about what you share.

2- Three Lifting sessions a week works for me, try to see what works for you, experiment and see how your body reacts.

3- Stop fapping, continue Lifting, your motivation will skyrocket.

4- In Bang (or Day Bang...don't remember), Roosh advises to use the Elderly approach (indirect, simply talking about random stuff, not to scare the cat). Do you see this as canned lines?

5- Interacting with young sexy girls does that, yes.

Thanks for the dynamite!! I will aim for 3 weight sessions a week.

stopping Fapping is something I've never done so it will have to be done from now.

I've not remembered or read that part of the book yet. Will have to seek it out before I start approaching.

5. That was a given.

[realologist]

1. All your real friends will be behind the change you want to make. Keep them in your life as you make those changes.

The people that already have a preconceived notion about you but are just acquaintances, just make yourself scarce to them for a while. Once you have made a significant change come back around. I'm sure they'll notice and be very interested.

2. Depends on what your fitness goals are. If it's lifting standard 3 times a week HARD. If it's body weight exercises, 5 times a week HARD.

3. Start Now! Action leads to more action. More action leads to success. Success leads to motivation.

4. The purpose of canned lines is to build you confidence and social skills up until you have the ability to ditch them and go based on intuition and feel.

5. Yes.

6. As many as you have opportunity for.

7. No. Create your own episode in real life.

[Randy Antilles Mk2]

This is going to sound stupid, but keep a discrete fap journal and try to document yourself fapping. Just so you can be aware to certian things that potentially make you fap. Again this sounds dumb but I have no idea if this might be useful in your quest to stop fapping.

[Rhyme or Reason]

1. To your first point about people not "buying" that your improving yourself, listen to this podcast by QC> It's right up your ally:

Also check out this Roosh article, it's one of my favorites:


http://www.rooshv.com/everyone-is-hoping...youll-fail

Stop worrying what people think about your path to success because most people want you to fail and stay being a loser so they can feel better by comparison. Once you trim down your friends to only those who truly want the best for you, you will feel a weight lifted. Good luck and keep at it.

Also, fuck that monk mode bullshit. It's nothing but an excuse to put off the work of the approaches, and what you need is practice approaching.