Quote: (12-05-2016 09:34 PM)The_e_man Wrote:
Giovonny,
how do you feel when you see a conventionally very handsome man get the same or better results than you with a minuscule fraction of the effort?
I feel a variety of emotions..
Sometimes, I resentment and sadness.
I wish that I could have been born tall, handsome, powerful, and rich..
But, after a few moments.. I remind myself that I am very lucky.. I was born in North America in the late 20th century, after the major wars.. That alone makes me very lucky.. I was also born with a healthy body and mind.. And, I was born in an amazing location...And, with total freedom to do what I want...
So, I might be jealous for just a quick moment, but, then, I fall back on to a healthier perspective... I know anger and jealousy are unhealthy emotions that will have a negative effect on my well being... I don't allow myself to feel that way for very long..
Quickly, my resentment turns into appreciation. Appreciation for what I have..
I taught myself to do this..
I studied anger and happiness and I learned that being grateful and appreciative is a good way to fight off sadness and depression.
I count my blessings.
I could have been born into a better situation..
But, I ALSO COULD HAVE BEEN BORN INTO A MUCH WORSE SITUATION?
(I remind myself of that)
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Also, I feel like some people are just luckier than me.. They were born rich, good looking, tall, talented, etc.
Some people win the lottery.
I can't let that fact ruin my life..
I accept the fact that some people are luckier than me. That doesn't mean that I can't have a good life.
I don't dwell on those who are luckier, I focus on making my own luck..
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Sometimes, I feel inspired and motivated by these guys... I see their success and I say --
"shit, if he can do it, I can do it" or
"what can I learn from him to improve my results"
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Sometimes, I wonder about what problems these lucky guys might be facing..?? Predatory women, divorce rape, a wife, children, etc.
Are they are really happier than me?
I don't know?
I don't know what problems they have?
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I could write more but I will keep it short
(I have to go game at a university right now, winter break is coming)
I feel all the human emotions but in the end I settle on what I feel is the healthiest and most productive thoughts...
Being grateful for what I have.
Focusing on improving my life.
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But, I will admit... I live in San Francisco.. I AM SURROUNDED BY BILLIONAIRES!!!
I see them everyday.. I work with them.. I talk to them!
I know my life would be amazing if I had a billion dollars!
But, I don't dwell on fantasy.. I would rather focus on my reality.
Right now, I'm literally going to chase 19 year old girls, my life isn't that bad!
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So, to answer your question: I feel a bit of everything but in the end, I choose positive-productive thoughts over negative-unproductive thoughts. It's all a mind game..