Any advice on combining a career oriented life style with better social life style?
11-16-2016, 08:46 AM
Short ver
Any advice for a guy who wants to be more sociable (or, to have more social life) but also wants to spend a lot of time in studying, reading and exercising, all of which are better to be done by himself?
Long ver
I'm a programmer. I believe that this is a great job, not only because IT industry is profitable but also this job is (relatively) easier to find abroad.
So, I like to spend most of my free time in working on my applications and teaching myself programming technologies/mathematics.
I've spent these 4-5 years mostly in studying, and I'm basically satisfied with what I've done for myself.
However, recently I often feel that I'm socially disconnected, meaning that not only I'm getting poor at flirting women, but also getting poor at socialising overall.
I see myself as introvert. I'd rather read books, do weight lifting or programming than spend time with somebody I'm not interested in.
I spent my free time in the following things
Weight training
Programming
Mathematics
English (I'm Japanese and now live in Australia. I still need to improve it)
Maybe I could do another thing which can make me somewhat more sociable.... I've been considering doing a martial art or dancing. The whole purpose of it is to have better social life than now. I don't mean to be a great fighter/dancer. Now I most often think of doing Brazilian jiu jitsu. I have zero interest in dancing, but it may be a better option for meeting a woman.
Any advice will be appreciated.
Any advice for a guy who wants to be more sociable (or, to have more social life) but also wants to spend a lot of time in studying, reading and exercising, all of which are better to be done by himself?
Long ver
I'm a programmer. I believe that this is a great job, not only because IT industry is profitable but also this job is (relatively) easier to find abroad.
So, I like to spend most of my free time in working on my applications and teaching myself programming technologies/mathematics.
I've spent these 4-5 years mostly in studying, and I'm basically satisfied with what I've done for myself.
However, recently I often feel that I'm socially disconnected, meaning that not only I'm getting poor at flirting women, but also getting poor at socialising overall.
I see myself as introvert. I'd rather read books, do weight lifting or programming than spend time with somebody I'm not interested in.
I spent my free time in the following things
Weight training
Programming
Mathematics
English (I'm Japanese and now live in Australia. I still need to improve it)
Maybe I could do another thing which can make me somewhat more sociable.... I've been considering doing a martial art or dancing. The whole purpose of it is to have better social life than now. I don't mean to be a great fighter/dancer. Now I most often think of doing Brazilian jiu jitsu. I have zero interest in dancing, but it may be a better option for meeting a woman.
Any advice will be appreciated.