[XPQ22]

When one of your plates starts behaving in a way you find unpleasant, but not significant enough to necessarily warrant dropping her forever, what sort of in person/text game do you use to indicate that she needs to get back with the program if she wants to keep seeing you?

Hypothetical: She's being more flakey of late. You make what you think are solid plans to meet up (bang) her at hers, then she hits you with something like:

"Hey, I don't know if I can do it tonight. Been uh, real busy with work. Maybe tomorrow? Or Friday? idk yet"

(she ain't busy with work)

Then later "Oh, but there's this concert coming up this weekend. I don't think anyone else would want to go, though. Take me?"

What are some ways to break contact for a while that don't seem needy/butthurt or leave her severely miffed, but still indicate your displeasure while leaving the door open should she want to get back with it?

[Adonis]

Sometimes she or I can just not feel like it that day, and thats no big deal it happens but if thats the case she better set up an alternate date/time. Best thing for me is to just get a little distant on her. Not quite the same situation as yours but if they start getting too close or acting like you say I just go to the mountains and I usually keep it pretty simple because I really am going to the mountains. Maybe by myself or maybe with another girl. It works even better if you usually hang out on a certain day that you both have off and you make other plans.

"nah going to yosemite"

[XPQ22]

^ Thanks. As you might have guessed, this is a sitch I'm actually dealing with. I'm thinking that in these cases the fewer words said the better.

"Sorry, can't make it, but I'll see you soon"

[Drix]

Good question. From my experience, I follow two important things that i learned from game. One is that chicks can be replaced, It doesn't matter how hot is she and Second, Be direct and express when you don't like something.

Your girl can be flakey Few times and you won't care and act mormal, But if she has been flakey most of the time, I would make clear my position.

Recently, I have had two chicks who fix your description. Both of them started to be so flakey and I just said Something Like this: I have no time for flakey girls, Return when You really deserve my time. After that, i started to do plans with other girls and didn't answer the messages of the flakey girls for 1 week.

The result was that Both girls apologized a lot and They behave more lovely and interested. I am not an expert, But The message is That We control the frame and be sure to have many options, then things are not a big deal.

[RatInTheWoods]

Don't answer for 4-5 days or a week, ignore the request to take you to the concert.

After its passed text her to set up a bang date again.

You don't have to respond to every message, call or request.