Quick backstory, and there's a TLDR at the end..
I play in a traveling dart league. Been playing in it for well over 15 years.
Met a lot of people during that time, one couple in particular I've always gotten along with.
I've known them both more than ten years, and known them since they've been married. I've always known them as husband and wife. Friends on FB with both the husband and wife, we've always all gotten along at any dart matches, all know a little bit about each other, etc. We all know each other in a social setting, I actually played on a dart team with the husband one season, but never really socialized with either of them other than the dart league or banquets.
They are in the process of a divorce.
The rumor mill (through the dart league) is that the husband found a new piece. The wife, as of last week, doesn't seem to want the marriage to end. She's been posting the typical "I want him back" meme stuff on FB. I've run into her a couple of times during dart league (they both play for different bars, and there may be more than one match at any given bar). Usually she'll gab with the one woman on my dart team (they're sort of close), and she "can't understand why (husband) would do this".
The other day the girls got into a light conversation, and I couldn't help but over hear. So I asked the wife how their daughter was handling the whole thing (I went through a divorce myself a couple years ago, and it's important that the kids realize that they have nothing to do with the reason for the divorce).
Her: "You know, it's tough sometimes, she wonders if she did anything.."
Me: "Then you need to make it absolutely clear to her that she didn't do anything to cause this."
Her: "Yeah, I know. I'm pretty sure she knows that.."
Me: "There's no 'pretty sure'. You need to make it 100% clear that it's not her fault. I remember when I got divorced a couple of years.."
Her: "You're divorced ?"
Me: "Yeah, a couple of years ago."
Her: "Oh, I didn't know that."
(Which kind of eludes to how well I know either of them).
Her: "How are they doing ?"
Me: "It was tough at first, they always asked what they'd done, or questioned if they'd done anything. What I did was sit them all down, and told them flat out that their mother and I simply don't get along anymore, and it has nothing to do with them."
Her: "Maybe that's what I should do with my daughter."
Me: "Yes, you should. Make it abundantly clear that it has nothing to do with her."
At this point I removed myself from the conversation and stepped to the restroom. I didn't want to get into a conversation where I would have been asked to form an opinion on the situation surrounding the circumstances of their divorce.
Since then, she's sent me a couple of messages via FB the past few days. Along the vein of "It was good seeing you the other night.", and "Thanks for the other night, I talked to my daughter and she understands, so thank you.".
My gut (and the girl's conversation from the other night) says that she's about at the end of her "I want him back" rope, and she'll hit the market shortly.
I'd put her at about a 7.5-8.
If I pushed, there's a very good chance I could get a meet, and most likely at my place ("I have a dartboard at home, let's hang out there.").
Could I see myself in an LTR with her ? Maybe down the road.
But I also think I could get the bang/notch with minimal LMR.
TLDR: A couple that's getting a divorce, I know both of them in social circles. The wife seems to be throwing me signals.
My opinion, I'm confident that I could close.
My question is, should I ?
I play in a traveling dart league. Been playing in it for well over 15 years.
Met a lot of people during that time, one couple in particular I've always gotten along with.
I've known them both more than ten years, and known them since they've been married. I've always known them as husband and wife. Friends on FB with both the husband and wife, we've always all gotten along at any dart matches, all know a little bit about each other, etc. We all know each other in a social setting, I actually played on a dart team with the husband one season, but never really socialized with either of them other than the dart league or banquets.
They are in the process of a divorce.
The rumor mill (through the dart league) is that the husband found a new piece. The wife, as of last week, doesn't seem to want the marriage to end. She's been posting the typical "I want him back" meme stuff on FB. I've run into her a couple of times during dart league (they both play for different bars, and there may be more than one match at any given bar). Usually she'll gab with the one woman on my dart team (they're sort of close), and she "can't understand why (husband) would do this".
The other day the girls got into a light conversation, and I couldn't help but over hear. So I asked the wife how their daughter was handling the whole thing (I went through a divorce myself a couple years ago, and it's important that the kids realize that they have nothing to do with the reason for the divorce).
Her: "You know, it's tough sometimes, she wonders if she did anything.."
Me: "Then you need to make it absolutely clear to her that she didn't do anything to cause this."
Her: "Yeah, I know. I'm pretty sure she knows that.."
Me: "There's no 'pretty sure'. You need to make it 100% clear that it's not her fault. I remember when I got divorced a couple of years.."
Her: "You're divorced ?"
Me: "Yeah, a couple of years ago."
Her: "Oh, I didn't know that."
(Which kind of eludes to how well I know either of them).
Her: "How are they doing ?"
Me: "It was tough at first, they always asked what they'd done, or questioned if they'd done anything. What I did was sit them all down, and told them flat out that their mother and I simply don't get along anymore, and it has nothing to do with them."
Her: "Maybe that's what I should do with my daughter."
Me: "Yes, you should. Make it abundantly clear that it has nothing to do with her."
At this point I removed myself from the conversation and stepped to the restroom. I didn't want to get into a conversation where I would have been asked to form an opinion on the situation surrounding the circumstances of their divorce.
Since then, she's sent me a couple of messages via FB the past few days. Along the vein of "It was good seeing you the other night.", and "Thanks for the other night, I talked to my daughter and she understands, so thank you.".
My gut (and the girl's conversation from the other night) says that she's about at the end of her "I want him back" rope, and she'll hit the market shortly.
I'd put her at about a 7.5-8.
If I pushed, there's a very good chance I could get a meet, and most likely at my place ("I have a dartboard at home, let's hang out there.").
Could I see myself in an LTR with her ? Maybe down the road.
But I also think I could get the bang/notch with minimal LMR.
TLDR: A couple that's getting a divorce, I know both of them in social circles. The wife seems to be throwing me signals.
My opinion, I'm confident that I could close.
My question is, should I ?
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