[F1l1pV]

Hey guys, I haven't used the forum in a while. Been busy with school and just been really tired. I decided to come back since I felt I was really getting worse socially when I wasn't casually reading for like 30 minutes a day.

Anyways, tomorrow ( or today, on friday ) I am going to be going to some bars and clubs with like 6 friends for the first time ever. It might be important to note I'm actually 17 but my friends have done it before and know certain bars and clubs we can get into. We are going to be travelling to another area an hour away or so where they arent as strict on checking for your age and stuff.

Now, I have never read any game regarding clubs and stuff. I am actually a bit nervous because I have no clue what to expect. I haven't really thought about clubs and bars that much since I didn't think I was going to go to one so soon. I'm wondering, how do you actually act in a bar and club setting? What is it like compared to say a house party? I always used to think of bars as these things I saw in wild western movies where people drank whiskey and ocasionally fought and all that jazz. I also thought bars were alot more party like. When I asked my friend what bars are like he said it's alot like a restaurant but instead of food you order liqour or beer and basically just chill out with your buds. Clubs are like one very big party with loud music and drinks and shit. Would this be correct?

And how do I act in clubs and bars respectively? For example, if I'm in a house party I will most likely be familiar with more than half the people there or atleast alot of people are going to be friends with my friends, so I will be going around talking to pretty much everyone and just get to know everyone. Is it the same in clubs and bars? Or do you usually keep to yourself? I don't wanna look like an idiot lol.

Lastly, how do you dance in clubs? I've read a couple of threads and they recommend salsa but I'm not sure that's what I'm looking for hehe. I don't want to be some master dancer but I want to know what the hell to do if someone invites me out to the dance floor.
Also, some very basic tips for game in clubs would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

[andy]

Don't do it. Wait until you are 21 to drink. You can get into alot of legal trouble. You want to not look like an idiot? Don't get yourself into situations, that can legally fuck you up. Improve yourself, and keep working.

[younggun]

(10-27-2016 11:14 PM)andy Wrote:  

Don't do it. Wait until you are 21 to drink. You can get into alot of legal trouble. You want to not look like an idiot? Don't get yourself into situations, that can legally fuck you up. Improve yourself, and keep working.

Worst case scenario you don't get let in. Who's arresting a 17 year old kid for trying to get in the bar? Jesus, lighten up

OP, while I shouldn't advocate doing anything illegal since we all know the police monitor this forum for teen drinking, pick a place that suits your game. Unless you're in really good shape or an excellent dancer, the club is probably your worst bet. Plus the loud music makes it hard to run game.

Grab a table with your buds. If you see a girl you wanna talk to, just excuse yourself and go mack. Bring a wingman if you want and game on.

Most importantly, loosen up and have a good time. The ladies can tell which guys are having fun and which guys go to the bar solely to pick up. Guess which one they'd rather talk to.

I know this sounds really simplistic and probably not the advice you're looking for, but I feel like as a new guy on the scene any PUA stuff you try is gonna come off awkward.

[sterling_archer]

(10-27-2016 11:40 PM)younggun Wrote:  

since we all know the police monitor this forum for teen drinking

We know that?

[ExploringReality]

My advice is: forget about gaming this time, get comfortable in this new environment first, so just focus on having a good time with your bros. It's like traveling to a new city, I like to walk a whole evening around it getting its "feel" before I work on building a circle.

[andy]

The best advice I could give you is this: don't be afraid to approach women, and never apologize for anything you say to a woman, ever (she will crucify you if you do). The only time you apologize, is when someone takes you to court, and you are forced to kiss ass, by virtue of the law; other than that, never say sorry for anything. Always ignore women who try to bring up shit you told them minutes or weeks ago that they still can't get over. Always be ready to walk away, always listen to your gut. Never, ever assume all women are innocent. It's always the innocent ones, that are fucking left and right. Good women don't like "good" guys, by the same token, you have to strike a balance, between being a lover and a cutthroat. Getting laid is important, but its not as important as a good career, that will provide you independence and income to go forth and fuck more women. Balance is key. The only time I felt like an idiot, was when I allowed myself to feel like one. Look to study the actions and body language of Putin or Trump, they are the only good examples of Alpha males, I have been able to look up to; Putin especially.

[Rhyme or Reason]

The key is, become someone's bitch, or kick someone's ass the first day.

[TornadoByProxy]

This belongs in the newbie thread.

You've got a long way to go. Just enjoy the ride. Guys in clubs are going to be very rude to you. Ignore them. Never get in a fight. Just try to have fun and not look like a tourist in Times Square.

Don't drink too much. Don't grope girls. Don't get depressed when the girls won't talk to you. You should have low expectations for picking a girl up and high expectations for having fun.

Don't offer to buy girls drinks. Don't let your guard down at the end of the night. Some drunk guys like to start fights. Don't lose your phone or wallet.

Don't get in the habit of criticizing your friends who approach and have a blow out. Don't sit around trying to build up the courage to approach. Don't think less of yourself if you don't approach. Don't start building bad mental habits. It should be fun, not stressful. You don't get shot if you don't pick up a girl. Relax and have fun.

Memorize where you parked at the beginning of the night. And once again, don't drink too much.

[XXL]

Dude, there's a plenty of stuff to read on internet about every question you have. You can't expect anybody to write one post about such broad topics.

[Laner]

I went to clubs when I was 17.

First things, using a fake ID will make you nervous. Use this to your advantage, so when you get in you will be FLYING!

Dont go too late, forget about pre drinking. Be at the club by 11 or 12, to match when the girls get there. They usually come earlier than guys by an hour.

Use your energy to talk to people all over the club at the VERY beginning. Make friends with people as if its your party and you just want to see people have a good time. You are using this High Energy you will have at the beginning.

Pay for drinks in cash. Have that cash in your hand and make it visible to the bartender. Order simple drinks and know what you want before the bartender gets to you- vodka soda is good or beer. BUT: be careful to not get too drunk. With vodka soda you can substitute out for a soda/lime and no one will tell the difference.

Do not stand around in a group of guys. If you see your guy friends do this, go for a lap and chat to a few people you met when you arrived. Your buddies are there for support and laughs only. They are not there as a social security blanket.

Other than that, clubs are for listening to music and dancing. Girls love to dance, so get some top club tracks off Spotify and loosen up. Watch some Justin Timberlake videos to see what chicks dig in guy dancers. Practice a bit at home before heading out.

Have fun.

[F1l1pV]

Hey guys, I appreciate all the responses! I thought I would do a mini update or whatever.

It actually went great. I really had a blast the entire night. What made it so good is that we were quite far away from our hometown which removed alot of approach anxiety and stuff.
Getting into bars was actually really easy, we went to one of those hookah bars at first and just ordered 2 hookahs and some drinks ( we had already been drinking before getting to the bar ) and just chilled until the clubs opened. Had plenty of fun there, I had fun with the staff and actually managed to get them to play my playlist on spotify which was pretty hilarious because I had some stupid songs there ( the place was pretty small and not that crowded ). They never asked for ID here, but this wasn't really a " bar " I guess.

After we were done there we were all pretty drunk so we just started walking around and asking strangers where we could find some good nightclubs. Since we were all kinda drunk we were looking for more of a club where we could party. Now, getting into clubs was a completely different animal. We had to try like 2 different clubs before we managed to get in somewhere. We finally got in by going to a club that had a huge line and just all showing our IDs at once so the guard / bouncer didn't really check our ages I guess, I don't know but he just looked at them for like 5 seconds and then let us in. During all of this I tried approaching some girls and asking them where we could find some cool clubs etc. My game probably sucked dick guys I'm not gonna lie but I had loads of fun hehe. I actually met an american chick too who I actually think was pretty into me somehow, she and her friends were going to go to the same club as us but her friends pulled in the other direction and yeah, nothing happened She did ask for my facebook though but unfortunately I don't have FB or IG or any of that.

Once we were in the club though, nothing really happened. My friends managed to get their hands on some cocaine but I said fuck no to that, never going to take any drugs like that. Hardest drug I'll take is weed. Before going out I was nervous about dancing in clubs but I noticed that pretty much everyone has no clue what they are doing when it comes to dancing and most people were sort of bobbing and the people who were really drunk were just going crazy and looking like idiots, but it was all in good fun though.

I realize now reading through this that my formatting sucks cock, sorry guys I'm so fucking tired and I don't bother rewriting everything.