I'm not a newb, but I've come across this scenario a few times over the years including recently and I'm not sure the best way to handle it.
The most recent experience went down like this:
Girl invites me into her place after drinks on a first date. I've thoroughly escalated during the date and she's clearly DTF. She goes to the bathroom and comes out with a towel around her waist and the towel falls away as we walk into the bedroom and she's naked from the waist down. We kiss and she sucks my lower lip into her mouth then *bites* it hard. It was really painful, breaking the skin inside my mouth and drawing a bit of blood and something that I'm really not into.
It pissed me off and got me out of the mood really quick.
I think girls might not realize that biting sensitive areas on a man can really hurt, since they can do stuff like punch us in the arm and we're not bothered by it.
What I want to happen is to:
1) Clearly communicate to the girl that in no uncertain terms that that is not okay and that she is never to do it again. Ever.
2) Continue to get physical sexually.
In the past, I've done #1 and it screwed stuff up for #2.
In some ways, I think it might be a huge shit test. Like, let me physically abuse this guy and see if he'll put up with it for the potential of sex or more sex. Or maybe they like pain and are doing to me what turns them on. Or maybe they are just drunk and stupid and don't realize that biting can really hurt (this girl had had a few).
Anybody have similar experiences or advice how to handle scenarios like that?
The most recent experience went down like this:
Girl invites me into her place after drinks on a first date. I've thoroughly escalated during the date and she's clearly DTF. She goes to the bathroom and comes out with a towel around her waist and the towel falls away as we walk into the bedroom and she's naked from the waist down. We kiss and she sucks my lower lip into her mouth then *bites* it hard. It was really painful, breaking the skin inside my mouth and drawing a bit of blood and something that I'm really not into.
It pissed me off and got me out of the mood really quick.
I think girls might not realize that biting sensitive areas on a man can really hurt, since they can do stuff like punch us in the arm and we're not bothered by it.
What I want to happen is to:
1) Clearly communicate to the girl that in no uncertain terms that that is not okay and that she is never to do it again. Ever.
2) Continue to get physical sexually.
In the past, I've done #1 and it screwed stuff up for #2.
In some ways, I think it might be a huge shit test. Like, let me physically abuse this guy and see if he'll put up with it for the potential of sex or more sex. Or maybe they like pain and are doing to me what turns them on. Or maybe they are just drunk and stupid and don't realize that biting can really hurt (this girl had had a few).
Anybody have similar experiences or advice how to handle scenarios like that?