First of all, I already read the other thread about monogamy/polygamy, but it left me with a sense of incompleteness.
I'm genuinly interested in your arguments guys (more the "why" than the actual answer: monogamy or polygamy), as I wanna know beforehand what to pursue. If I don't and meet a special girl, we all know she will then push her agenda and it's not necessarily the same as mine.
Before listing some arguments, I wanna share some personnal experiences/thoughts:
-A friend of mine (who's a player-very tight game) started a relationship with a girl. They both like to seduce a lot but at first, they were monogamous. They are not anymore although they still are boyfriend/girlfriend. They have sex with other people (not necessarly together) and seem more at peace now. Funny thing is that they still are together more than half of the time, they don't fight a lot anymore and my friend told me that "now that I can go elsewhere, i don't want to do it too much".
-If you look closely the History, no men in power was really monogamous. Sure they seem like it, but they always had mistresses, etc. So like all the rest of the societal crap, is monogamy just a tool not to control the population (i.e. not have a depletion of women, because if every men has 2 women, well it's not possible). So in our individual case, should we really strive for monogamy?
-I do have a non-exclusive relationship with a girl. Sex is great, she's clever and interesting but I'm not feeling any love and neither does she. We both talk about dating and meeting other people and I'm not even feeling a hint of jealousy. Yet to be fair, she hasn't slept with anyone since me (and I believe her. No I'm not naive but the arguments are too numerous. Funny thing is that I'm the one sometime to push her to experiment more, since I'm only her #3)
Now about the arguments:
-Being a player accustomed to go talk to the girl, is it possible to close this door one day for good?
-Monogamy in a way is an assurance that our partner won't go elsewhere. But we have to realize and accept that nothing is certain in life. She still can cheat on you and divorce is easy now (and bad for men financials).
-Is the root of all that just jealousy? Jealous little insecure beta who want to be reassured. We, in the other hand, don't need that and like always when you don't chase, it comes to you. In this case, it would mean that this would demonstrate your high value and keep the girl(s) hooked
-Like all good things, if you consume too much, you become bored/disinterested, so it can applied to chasing women too
Additionally, if we rule out monogamy, what do you think is possible/the best for players like us to look for:
A) Have a "primal" wive/girlfriend. She's monogamous, you're not. But the other girls you see are just for sex, no real feeling.
B) Option A, but your primal has the same right as you
C) You look for several wives/girlfriends, no sex outside of the group
D) Option C, but sex outside of the group is allowed
I think I'm going for B. I will have to work a bit on my jealousy, but am sufficiently secure in myself. Besides with that, it's impossible to cheat and hurt the other partner (you or her) since it's allowed. The several girls on one roof seem risky : too much drama probably. Besides if you wanna have kids someday it would be weird IMO, the child would need the support from both his parents, not be shared with the other wife's kid. as for D, the cohesion of the group seem really thin.
I'm extremly interested in your experiences guys, especially if you're libertine for example, please do comment!!
I'm genuinly interested in your arguments guys (more the "why" than the actual answer: monogamy or polygamy), as I wanna know beforehand what to pursue. If I don't and meet a special girl, we all know she will then push her agenda and it's not necessarily the same as mine.
Before listing some arguments, I wanna share some personnal experiences/thoughts:
-A friend of mine (who's a player-very tight game) started a relationship with a girl. They both like to seduce a lot but at first, they were monogamous. They are not anymore although they still are boyfriend/girlfriend. They have sex with other people (not necessarly together) and seem more at peace now. Funny thing is that they still are together more than half of the time, they don't fight a lot anymore and my friend told me that "now that I can go elsewhere, i don't want to do it too much".
-If you look closely the History, no men in power was really monogamous. Sure they seem like it, but they always had mistresses, etc. So like all the rest of the societal crap, is monogamy just a tool not to control the population (i.e. not have a depletion of women, because if every men has 2 women, well it's not possible). So in our individual case, should we really strive for monogamy?
-I do have a non-exclusive relationship with a girl. Sex is great, she's clever and interesting but I'm not feeling any love and neither does she. We both talk about dating and meeting other people and I'm not even feeling a hint of jealousy. Yet to be fair, she hasn't slept with anyone since me (and I believe her. No I'm not naive but the arguments are too numerous. Funny thing is that I'm the one sometime to push her to experiment more, since I'm only her #3)
Now about the arguments:
-Being a player accustomed to go talk to the girl, is it possible to close this door one day for good?
-Monogamy in a way is an assurance that our partner won't go elsewhere. But we have to realize and accept that nothing is certain in life. She still can cheat on you and divorce is easy now (and bad for men financials).
-Is the root of all that just jealousy? Jealous little insecure beta who want to be reassured. We, in the other hand, don't need that and like always when you don't chase, it comes to you. In this case, it would mean that this would demonstrate your high value and keep the girl(s) hooked
-Like all good things, if you consume too much, you become bored/disinterested, so it can applied to chasing women too
Additionally, if we rule out monogamy, what do you think is possible/the best for players like us to look for:
A) Have a "primal" wive/girlfriend. She's monogamous, you're not. But the other girls you see are just for sex, no real feeling.
B) Option A, but your primal has the same right as you
C) You look for several wives/girlfriends, no sex outside of the group
D) Option C, but sex outside of the group is allowed
I think I'm going for B. I will have to work a bit on my jealousy, but am sufficiently secure in myself. Besides with that, it's impossible to cheat and hurt the other partner (you or her) since it's allowed. The several girls on one roof seem risky : too much drama probably. Besides if you wanna have kids someday it would be weird IMO, the child would need the support from both his parents, not be shared with the other wife's kid. as for D, the cohesion of the group seem really thin.
I'm extremly interested in your experiences guys, especially if you're libertine for example, please do comment!!
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