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07-18-2016, 12:17 PM
I'm listening to Roosh's Q&A video on YouTube right now.
I strongly agree with his assertion that it is crucial for a man to be part of a tribe. I just don't know how. I'm an old man with no family and my life is full of isolation. I'm not a hermit, I get out to various events and classes, but I'm always an outsider. If the SHTF, I'm screwed, even with the skills and resources I have to offer. If something bad happens to me personally, nobody cares. No matter what, I have to deal with it completely on my own.
So, everything I have tried has failed and I am out of ideas. Suggestions?
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07-18-2016, 12:28 PM
IMO, you have to step outside your comfort zone, reach out to people and build your social circle. You ever have someone call you out of the blue to talk and see what you've been up to and you thought to yourself, this dude must be weird or something, but over time he turns out okay? Well, you need to be that guy. Yes, you may come off weird asking for someones number, messaging them or checking in with them (because as a society, we've been conditioned that way these days), but its absolutely necessary to forge bonds.
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07-18-2016, 12:30 PM
I'm in the same boat really. There is no easy way AFAIK apart from joining male oriented activities or moving to remote places where community counts for something. At least in the US you have the second amendment.
Poster above nails it as well.
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07-18-2016, 01:27 PM
^^ That's a great start! Sounds like myself when I moved to a new city. It will happen, keep exposing yourself to social activities. I would also host dinner party's and invite a select group of folks. We forged a bond and have been tight ever since.
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07-18-2016, 01:45 PM
One thing that might be right up your alley is HAM radio. Its a very welcoming community with regular meet ups and "HAM Fests", a valuable and necessary skill, and it is easy and cheap to get into. A comms guy will be VERY desirable in any number of SHTF scenarios, with your computer background it would be very easy for you to pick up. I can put together a basic how to if you'd like.
Im younger but similar to you in that I have moved around my whole life and I don't have a tribe or roots anywhere. Id rather be something more than a hired gun if SHTF.
Few more suggestions:
-Crossfit
-Church
-Volunteer (volunteer FF/EMT get trained for free most times)
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07-18-2016, 08:23 PM
Op what city or state or area are you?
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07-19-2016, 06:30 PM
The formerly nice city to live in known as Austin. Now overrun with liberals, SJWs & feminists...
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07-20-2016, 11:29 PM
Making tribe at an older age is a bit like quitting the smokes once the cancer has set in.
The only way I could see it happening is by moving to a rural location and making a damn good effort to fit in.
edit: As an older guy your skillset is going to be the only serious asset you bring to the table. Anything you're particularly good at? Keep in mind that tribe isn't "friends", it's "people who will turn up with a shovel and a bag of lime".
The public will judge a man by what he lifts, but those close to him will judge him by what he carries.
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07-21-2016, 12:12 AM
Quote: (07-20-2016 11:29 PM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:
Keep in mind that tribe isn't "friends", it's "people who will turn up with a shovel and a bag of lime".
A friend will help you move. A real friend will help you move a body.
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07-21-2016, 12:47 AM
This is the exact same question I've been asking myself lately. But here's what I wonder, where are the good, potentially loyal men?
I'm in San Jose, and I've gone to the networking events but it seems like everyone is either too foreign to know context of american relationships or too autistic and angry from getting no pussy with deep stab-you-in-the-back beta tendencies.
I'm looking to create tribe but can't find anywhere with the raw material worth investing in and building up for the long haul.
I'm tempted to take my family and move away again to a new country, China maybe? (I've heard Beijing is the new Silicon Valley) or back to Latin America. (foreign wife from MX city)
Start businesses, start jobs, and create long-term social capital investment of like-minded, loyal and hard-working people.
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07-21-2016, 12:56 AM
Have you tried engaging local Roosh V members? Making a thread on the Travel > Meetup page? You seem pretty dedicated to bettering yourself, if you had to go to say Dallas our Houston every now and then, I'm sure there's plenty of like minded individuals.
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07-23-2016, 11:42 AM
Same problem here, although not as bad off as the OP. I find myself the "old guy" at every group meetup I attend. Sometimes I associate with people my age, but that's a great way to fall into the trap of commiserating and you don't want to go down that rabbit hole.
One of my problems is that its hard to find a group of any type which is open and red pill enough to be worth my time. For instance, I'm on a spiritual path these days. Most of the alternative spiritual groups are dominated by SJW's, fat women and people who smoke herb. I really don't want to deal with any of those three, but may have to grit my teeth and put up with them. Chaff tends to get blown away, I have noticed.
I spent 20 years dedicated to a martial art I can no longer compete in due to a medical issue. I never was a "contender", so it's not like I can be the Wise Old Man who shows the young bloods how to do it right. I used to despise the "has-been's" who would show up and talk about what they did in their day. Most of the time they were blowing smoke out of their ass.
So I continue the search. One group which appealed to me seems to be full of slackers. I can't stand organizations who talk big and do nothing. If the group doesn't meet once a week, I 'm not wasting my time on it.
I've been the bull in the china shop before and it never pays off. Several decades ago I was determined to be the savior of a small political movement. The old farts who ran it kicked me out rather than do anything that would have saved the organization. Lesson learned.
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07-23-2016, 12:10 PM
Sounds like you are very social, but not good at creating bonds beyond your social activities.
Once the social event is over, you go your separate ways. You have to create gatherings and meetings beyond your social activities. It seems that your social activities are short term(classes, instructions, rallies) and once they are done, everyone goes their separate ways.
Adonis came up with a good suggestion, Volunteer FF sounds like a sustainable social group. You train together, work together and many go out drinking together.
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07-24-2016, 07:37 AM
Get a boat and invite people on it. There is a cost to a social circle. Sadly, you will not get a social circle for free because you are not female. Once in the boat community everyone with a boat is your friend. Non boat owners will want to ride on your boat. Young girls will not mind stripping down to their bikinis in front of you.
I do not own a boat but I bought a huge floating island for this nearby lazy river. It is one of the biggest floats and most people just have tubes. I made a dozen connections from that just yesterday alone. People left their tubes and climbed into my island.
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07-24-2016, 10:56 AM
There are all kinds of tribes, but the ones which will endure have a way to propagate themselves. Tribes which are based around "adults only" activities will die out unless they continually bring in new recruits. Teh gey is the best example of this and why they are active in the schools and culture.
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07-24-2016, 01:39 PM
I am a bit of an introvert myself but I recognise the importance of having men to count on in times of crisis and it is something I consider vitally important in terms mental well-being. Some times it is luck where you meet a good fellow and when you do make sure you put yourself forward as a trustworthy friend and display your true inner self. What is the point of having a relationship with someone when you keep part of yourself secret in case of upsetting them for I.e. political opinions. All the best
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07-24-2016, 04:32 PM
Rugby. Hands down, the single best thing.