There's been this weird thing going with me. I'd have girls liking me in social situations, and that's fine. I'd known about Roosh and all since 2011/12 and I believe I used really autistic game then but I only seriously made progress and actually did approaches 1-2 years ago. I'd feel really nervous about it and really horrible they didn't go anywhere. Often times I feel I shouldn't be doing this or disturbing the girls or something. I believe I racked up over a hundred approaches over a long period of time though I don't know if I should count them since mostly they rejected me right off. The reason why I was counting on cold approach is because I'm not good with social situations and it's really unreliable to get "friends"/acquaintances to make things happen. And the times girls do like me I wasn't able to sort logistics to close etc.
After many weeks/months before now I wasn't really approaching much at all. Maybe I'd talk to strange girls but I wasn't really like "gaming" seriously as it felt so overwhelmingly hard to do all the work just to get rejected. Perhaps you've seen one of my threads when I was in a really bad depressive rut. But reading WIA's posts and others really inspired me again. I think a major problem I had was focusing on two things that ultimately barely mattered- how "alpha" or "high value" I was, and "following routines" such as Roosh's bait/GALNUC. To the extent that I was constantly focusing both on how alpha I was and on how good I was running my routines. I realise the concepts have their place but I was highly overrating them as the bedrock of my game, as opposed to guidelines. When I saw game more as manipulating bitches emotions, that's when it started to click.
I've approached 6 or so girls this week and yeah most did reject me but 2 really responded quite well. I think they were impressed with my vibe, one girl asked me to sit next to her on the bus, and asked about shit with my life. The other was in a coffeeshop and I was almost tempted to write her off as not wanting to be disturbed by guys but I did a relatively lame/elderly opener and soon she was facing me, smiling, and we were deep in conversation. In the conversation since I wasn't focusing on how alpha I was or routines I was free to "let go" mentally and really let my "chick brain" come out and talk emotionally and really connect. One of them ended up flaking, but I don't care anymore.
I don't want to sound beta but it feels really good that I made strange girls feel this good, like just because of me and the things I do. Thanks RVF for all you've done for me. I feel that for years I was banging my head against the wall doing cold approach and feeling like it can't really work and I'm spending all this effort for nothing. Now I feel I've broken through and because of cold approach the world is my oyster.
After many weeks/months before now I wasn't really approaching much at all. Maybe I'd talk to strange girls but I wasn't really like "gaming" seriously as it felt so overwhelmingly hard to do all the work just to get rejected. Perhaps you've seen one of my threads when I was in a really bad depressive rut. But reading WIA's posts and others really inspired me again. I think a major problem I had was focusing on two things that ultimately barely mattered- how "alpha" or "high value" I was, and "following routines" such as Roosh's bait/GALNUC. To the extent that I was constantly focusing both on how alpha I was and on how good I was running my routines. I realise the concepts have their place but I was highly overrating them as the bedrock of my game, as opposed to guidelines. When I saw game more as manipulating bitches emotions, that's when it started to click.
I've approached 6 or so girls this week and yeah most did reject me but 2 really responded quite well. I think they were impressed with my vibe, one girl asked me to sit next to her on the bus, and asked about shit with my life. The other was in a coffeeshop and I was almost tempted to write her off as not wanting to be disturbed by guys but I did a relatively lame/elderly opener and soon she was facing me, smiling, and we were deep in conversation. In the conversation since I wasn't focusing on how alpha I was or routines I was free to "let go" mentally and really let my "chick brain" come out and talk emotionally and really connect. One of them ended up flaking, but I don't care anymore.
I don't want to sound beta but it feels really good that I made strange girls feel this good, like just because of me and the things I do. Thanks RVF for all you've done for me. I feel that for years I was banging my head against the wall doing cold approach and feeling like it can't really work and I'm spending all this effort for nothing. Now I feel I've broken through and because of cold approach the world is my oyster.
