[fenetre]

I've searched and searched and was unable to come up with a good thread related to how to have good sex that leaves your girl wanting more and you feeling like a chest-thumping beast.

I read AB talk before about making her squirt, fucking her properly, blowing her mind and body. He graciously responded to a request for more information on this via PM and made the suggestion that a thread be opened where we can post advice on how we fuck, reasoning behind it, etc. We should limit this to the methods and leave other commentary elsewhere on the forum.

For me, I always had problems with delayed ejaculation - for years. I'm convinced it was due to excessive porn use and death grip. However, I still find myself thinking that I'm just masturbating with the girl and instead of using my hand, I'm using her pussy.

I now come easily which is a huge achievement for me. I stopped watching porn about 5 months ago and haven't masturbated for 4 months. Since this, my enjoyment of sex has greatly increased. I'm more driven to get pussy and I'm more animalistic when I fuck. I still have a problem with escaping to fantasy when I want to ejaculate, and I kind of zone out into my head in order to come.

Llike most of us on here, I find myself wanting to learn more, to improve the quality of my sex, and to get out of my head as much as possible.

Bosch wrote me the following and I know he won't mind my posting it here because of its use:

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To my mind, you need a knowledge of four things, so would suggest searches along these terms:

1) Female anatomy and sexual response
2) Sexual positions and techniques
3) Ability to control your orgasm
4) Women's psychological and emotional responses to sex

1 is the 'dry' medical textbook type of research. You want to know what happens to a woman during sex and the changes to her body. Kinsey or Masters and Johnson were the pioneers of this kind of thing, there's probably more up to date versions.

For 2, you should be able to find a westernised 'Karma Sutra' or 'The Joy Of Sex' type book easily enough, and I'm sure there's a lot of resources on line.

For 3, this will be Eastern techniques like Tantric Sex and Sexual Meditation, but there are practical Western applications too. Look for how to Delay Orgasm. My most common technique even today is the simple, "pull out and squeeze the penis head while changing positions or using my fingers on her pussy". Learn not to chase the orgasm - most guys learn to masturbate quickly out of fear of getting caught. You can practice Edging Techniques - bringing yourself close during masturbation, then backing off, again and again. Obviously, there's more motivation to do this with a woman.

For 4, read Female Erotica and research into Female Sexual Fantasy. A large part of sex for women is the Emotional framework, so you have to know what excites and arouses women. I used to read Anais Nin, but Female Erotica is a huge genre now, so it shouldn't be hard to find. For the more Clinical Based version, there's a famous work called 'My Secret Garden' by Nancy Friday. It comes from a more sexually-liberated time but I think the instinctual drives are still rock-solid.

The current hardship with sex is getting women out of an increasingly-negative shame mindset about. Once you give them permission to be sexual, emotional creatures the experience becomes more positive for them and, given the current Rape Hysteria, you don't want them feeling negative after the fact.

That's some ideas, but I'd still suggest you ask in the Game section. I'd be curious to see what other guys suggest, particularly with more modern ideas.

Lastly, this isn't Safe For Work, but you need to know how to make a girl reliably-squirt:

http://www.redtube.com/15878

If you pair that with dominant physicality, where you are taking total control over her, giving her pleasure doesn't come across as submissive - you're controlling her orgasm and she's be begging you to both stop and not stop at the same time. Watch just how overwhelmed the girl's body is by sensation, particularly the uncontrolled trembling and spasming.

Pay attention to the hand technique - a mate of mine calls it the 'Spiderman'. If you've ever seen the comic books, its how he squirts webs. That *had* to have been an inside joke by the artists.

This has *blown the minds* of many girls I've been with, who have never experienced that level of intensity with their 3-minute sexual experiences with their previous boyfriends. A lot of women might think they're pissing themselves or otherwise feel deeply-ashamed here: this is where I'm always Daddy, and I'm always in control and praise her for squirting in a deep, reassuring tone, "Good girl, good girl."

Remember, the process should be as fun as it should be intense and pleasurable. That's my natural Taurus instincts to sex coming through - it's why we have a reputation as good lovers.

My mindset with sex is this: I feel sorry for the next guy she sleeps with who has to try and step into my boots.

Humbly yours, fenetre
H/T AnonymousBosch

[Suits]

Here's a helpful diagram.



Also, dupe: thread-38991.html

[General Stalin]

Be passionate and aggressive/animalistic. Things that will make the sex memorable. She wants to feel your power, but she also wants to feel loved.

Make eye contact, hold their head/face passionately, kiss, talk sexy/dirty. Also - pull on her hair at the base of the scalp, hold her neck, hold her body down in general so she feels sort of forced into place. Change positions to keep it interesting. Put your dick in her mouth in between switching positions.

A lot of this is feeling out the girl too. Not all girls want to be "loved" and respond mainly to being manhandled and thrown around.

Basically, don't be boring and don't be beta. Romantic missionary sex where you just stair into her eyes and hold her hair is fucking gay.

Remember though, at the end of the day, have the sex that you want to have. Don't do shit you don't like just because you think she'll like it.

[TravelerKai]

Double dupe

thread-5725.html

[Easy_C]

Fairly good suggestions, although I suggest not googling "sexual techniques and positions" if you're doing noporn-no-fap.

My own favorite tip is to take your thumb and rub the clit like you're trying to roll a pencil erasor under your thumb. Doesn't work for all girls but for ones that love deep pressure it will get them off like you wouldn't believe.


Overall the best resource is Player Supreme's ebook on the topic. It's a bit basic but its a quick read and the techniques are extremely effective.

[AnonymousBosch]

For future reference Fenetre, it's respectful to ask before sharing private communications.

General Stalin Wrote:

A lot of this is feeling out the girl too. Not all girls want to be "loved" and respond mainly to being manhandled and thrown around.

Exactly. Strong dominant masculinity emotionally-overwhelms feminine women.

That's why I think 'My Secret Garden' is such a foundational work for guys to destroy the 'Pretty Little Princess' fantasy of Female Sexuality favoured by Betas and Gammas. Their capacity for depravity far outstrips the male sex. It's far, far more complex than satin sheets and rose petals, which is what guys tend to think girls mean when they say 'romance'. What they want is the dizzy thrill of passion and high emotions even if it overwhelms decorum and decency.

I suspect women are far more thrilled by grandiose displays of sexual attraction, (say, fingering her in a theatre), than grandiose displays of romance, (serenading her in front of her co-workers).

[fenetre]

(07-06-2016 08:41 PM)AnonymousBosch Wrote:  

For future reference Fenetre, it's respectful to ask before sharing private communications.

Apologies, and duly noted.

[AboveAverageJoe]

Practice makes perfect my friend. Women can just tell when you have boned lots of tail. It is like telepathic pre-selection. Fuck more chicks more often and you will get it. Every woman is ultimately different. Some women need a daggering like a jack hammer others not so much. There really is no game plan. Its like someone telling you to do the ABC's on a girls clit with their tongue. That shit is retarded. It aint calligraphy class. Pay attention and women will let you know what they like and what they don't. They will do this physically not neccessarily verbally.

[Ringo]

(07-06-2016 12:30 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  

hold her body down in general so she feels sort of forced into place.

Grappling changed the way I have sex.

A couple of years ago when I had just started I'd practice holds and submissions on girls and found they loved being crammed, mushed, feeling your bodyweight really weigh down and pressure them into constricted positions.

Powefucking has is time and place, but mostly I prefer not being a human jackhammer. This kind of "pressure" fucking really makes up for it in intimacy and intensity. If you're doing it right, even if you go slow they'll be sweating and huffing real quick.

The most basic way of feeling their reaction to this is through the tight/bear hug - she feels warm, protected, but also senses your power.

The most intense - for example - would be fucking them missionary but putting one (or both) of her legs over your shoulder, folding their arms close to their body, pressuring down on them and sort of holding the back of their neck while you bang away. Similar to a baby pose in yoga or a double under pass in BJJ (below) - except her arms should be tightly pressed between her chest and legs.


Choking (air or blood) works great along with these mushing positions. But many girls have an instinctual reaction to not let you squeeze their necks with your fingers.

I found that setting up a sneaky pressure choke actually increases their pleasure - and mine - without running the risk of them not allowing it. They barely notice it's happening, all they know is it feels good.

What you do when you're on top is pressure her neck in between your arm and her arm, like a head and arm/katagatame choke:


It requires some finesse - you don't want to strongarm your way into choking her. But if you ever had this done to you in grappling or otherwise you know that just by getting into the position tightly you can already feel lightheaded from the oxygen being cut out from your brain. That's all you need in order to get the girl feeling nice and spaced out.

If the chick is mounted and has her back to you, kneeling or on all fours, you can use a RNC or variation:


If anyone's interested but has never had experience doing this, I highly recommend it. But for the love of God go easy and feel it out at first. Never, ever crank necks or do sudden movements. Never, ever go too tight or hold for too long - keep your eyes on your partner.

I love doing this stuff because besides the dominance and power aspects (which are plus points both for you and the girl) there's a heavy physical side to it. It's intense. It's different from everything they do day to day. It breaks their mundane trance, drives them to connection with you and being in the moment - and losing themselves in it.

Plus it will keep your submission game sharp as hell.

[General Stalin]

It's fucked up that we have to reference martial arts submission holds when discussing how to get a woman to love you.

[TravelerKai]

Wow Brazilian women must be rough if guys like Ringo can do all of that with them.

[WestIndianArchie]

+1 Ringo