For want of a better thread title, I'd like to raise this concept for discussion. My raising it for discussion does not imply I have intention to use any such strategies, or even that I advocate them. The fact of the matter is though, that some men are being successfully deceived, and in light of this others might want to consider more proactive ways to avoid it.
We've recently had a thread about an experienced member who was semi-successfully deceived in a terrible way by a woman (the most terrible way a woman can). This precipitated a discussion about other member's experience with women who can maintain a deceptive facade of innocence, whilst simultaneously slutting it up in secrecy.
As I see it, this is a distributed information problem. Attempting to obtain the "what are you up to" information directly, one-on-one, is basically a game of poker. You can't see what cards the opponent has, so you have to attempt to read it from subtle "tells". It's a battle, and if the women is a more skilled and experienced minx than the man is an experienced rake, he will likely lose.
The core of the problem is this single source of information -- and a very defensive source at that. It's the least reliable, and men risk injecting their egos (she'd never do that to me, my girl's not like that etc), further lowering the reliability.
Ideas for possible protection (or at least some mitigation), outside the hardcore "hire a private detective" stuff:
Thoughts...
We've recently had a thread about an experienced member who was semi-successfully deceived in a terrible way by a woman (the most terrible way a woman can). This precipitated a discussion about other member's experience with women who can maintain a deceptive facade of innocence, whilst simultaneously slutting it up in secrecy.
As I see it, this is a distributed information problem. Attempting to obtain the "what are you up to" information directly, one-on-one, is basically a game of poker. You can't see what cards the opponent has, so you have to attempt to read it from subtle "tells". It's a battle, and if the women is a more skilled and experienced minx than the man is an experienced rake, he will likely lose.
The core of the problem is this single source of information -- and a very defensive source at that. It's the least reliable, and men risk injecting their egos (she'd never do that to me, my girl's not like that etc), further lowering the reliability.
Ideas for possible protection (or at least some mitigation), outside the hardcore "hire a private detective" stuff:
- Widely-dispersed unknown friends. One of the ways a cheating woman can be found out is a third-party mentioning seeing her with another man. The more outside the typical circles the you move in these friends are, the better. A cheating woman will naturally try to avoid being with another man somewhere you could see them, but will lower her guard outside those areas. This wouldn't guard against a super-slut, who goes direct to the house of a tinder match and yet keeps this behaviour hidden, but those are quite rare. Meeting in a neutral public place first is the norm.
- Sending an unknown friend to places a woman claims to be. For example, the woman messages "she's at cafe X with friends", you happen to have a friend she doesn't know of near that cafe, he knows what she looks like and sees if she's there. Could be done occasionally.
- Having unknown friends who are friends with her friends. Perhaps not easily doable, but the more indirect ears to her idle talk the higher chance word of cheating would reach you.
- For internet stuff: more difficult. Would either have to make fake online profiles to scan for her, or get someone else to do it.
Thoughts...
