I was at my plate's apartment the other night. She's in her early 30s, and what I'd refer to as a "standard issue 6." A little heavier than some guys would go for, but cute face and nice long strawberry-blonde hair.
We met on one of the dating apps; she opened me first. So we were talking about some of the experiences we had. No, she's no saint, I know she got banged out by a few dudes from the site, and probably at least one in the first couple weeks we were dating.
The old trope is that a mentality shift comes over women as they hit their 30s and they go through the "epiphany phase" and start looking to settle down. Funny thing is that apparently a lot of guys have this mentality too, their own "marriage clock" starts ticking. And just like women, they start unicorn-hunting.
So in addition to the guys she nexted, she got nexted by a few guys as well. Some anti-game lines she recalls:
"You know, I dunno, I'm looking for something serious and I just don't know if I'm attracted to you enough and..." (before they even met)
"I mean I like you but I'm just really hung-up on my ex"
Was the latter case a pump and dump? Probably. But the fact is that a pump and dump that leaves a girl feeling bad is simply not good value for the effort. I want more out of life.
So I think a lot of these guys in their early to mid 30s are stuck hard in the "one" mentality. They bang a girl, spend a little time with her, decide for whatever reason she isn't "it", and move on to try to find their unicorn to wife up, whom if they ever did find her they'd fall all over themselves to revert to their beta ways as rapidly as possible.
Meanwhile I'm dating this girl and another girl. From time to time they go into the "So what are we?" talk and I let it remain ambiguous, or tease them, or otherwise deflect. It only happens rarely, because we have a good time together and they don't want to lose me. If you show a girl good value, deflecting that talk and ushering them into a non-monogamous lifestyle with you is really the simplest thing in the world.
I could've nexted this girl after the first time I banged her. I considered it, she's not a "7" by any stretch. But because I'm not constrained by the "square" mindset, I like to think I saw potential where the others did not. She's smart, cooks well, loves rough sex and being dominated in bed, and likes being given tasks to do to feel useful, aka "Kramerica" game as WIA put it. She's a professor, and her academic specialty (writing) has come in useful for my business and she's been willing to help out for nothing. Since we've started dating she's gotten back into working out, and has lost about ten pounds as well. Other guys are starting to check her out more.
She was a girl looking for a "program", but it seems she was having trouble finding someone to give her one.
Seeing her tonight, and then hopefully have a date lined up with a new girl tomorrow. I'll give her a day off - she deserves it.
If you're not running game (or at least trying to like me!), you're leaving solid pussy on the table, and both you and the girl-next-doors of the world are worse off for it. It's as simple as that.
We met on one of the dating apps; she opened me first. So we were talking about some of the experiences we had. No, she's no saint, I know she got banged out by a few dudes from the site, and probably at least one in the first couple weeks we were dating.
The old trope is that a mentality shift comes over women as they hit their 30s and they go through the "epiphany phase" and start looking to settle down. Funny thing is that apparently a lot of guys have this mentality too, their own "marriage clock" starts ticking. And just like women, they start unicorn-hunting.
So in addition to the guys she nexted, she got nexted by a few guys as well. Some anti-game lines she recalls:
"You know, I dunno, I'm looking for something serious and I just don't know if I'm attracted to you enough and..." (before they even met)
"I mean I like you but I'm just really hung-up on my ex"
Was the latter case a pump and dump? Probably. But the fact is that a pump and dump that leaves a girl feeling bad is simply not good value for the effort. I want more out of life.
So I think a lot of these guys in their early to mid 30s are stuck hard in the "one" mentality. They bang a girl, spend a little time with her, decide for whatever reason she isn't "it", and move on to try to find their unicorn to wife up, whom if they ever did find her they'd fall all over themselves to revert to their beta ways as rapidly as possible.
Meanwhile I'm dating this girl and another girl. From time to time they go into the "So what are we?" talk and I let it remain ambiguous, or tease them, or otherwise deflect. It only happens rarely, because we have a good time together and they don't want to lose me. If you show a girl good value, deflecting that talk and ushering them into a non-monogamous lifestyle with you is really the simplest thing in the world.
I could've nexted this girl after the first time I banged her. I considered it, she's not a "7" by any stretch. But because I'm not constrained by the "square" mindset, I like to think I saw potential where the others did not. She's smart, cooks well, loves rough sex and being dominated in bed, and likes being given tasks to do to feel useful, aka "Kramerica" game as WIA put it. She's a professor, and her academic specialty (writing) has come in useful for my business and she's been willing to help out for nothing. Since we've started dating she's gotten back into working out, and has lost about ten pounds as well. Other guys are starting to check her out more.
She was a girl looking for a "program", but it seems she was having trouble finding someone to give her one.
Seeing her tonight, and then hopefully have a date lined up with a new girl tomorrow. I'll give her a day off - she deserves it.
If you're not running game (or at least trying to like me!), you're leaving solid pussy on the table, and both you and the girl-next-doors of the world are worse off for it. It's as simple as that.