[Geronimo]

How do I make the girl come alone and not with her friends?

[Vicious]

Ooooook, next stop newbie forum. Way to vast of a topic, you'll want to break it down.

[ANACONDA]

you dont need any extra ordinary move for her to come alone...just tell her that you want her alone....

and she should already know it...if shes interested.

[Geronimo]

I told her that I want to talk to her alone but then she says that it's more 'fun' with her friends around.

[silent_scope]

If she's not trying to be alone with you, then that's a hint that she might not be interested in you like that.

Move on.

[ANACONDA]

(07-24-2011 06:40 AM)silent_scope Wrote:  

If she's not trying to be alone with you, then that's a hint that she might not be interested in you like that.

Move on.

gud one.

[MiXX]

(07-24-2011 06:31 AM)Geronimo Wrote:  

I told her that I want to talk to her alone but then she says that it's more 'fun' with her friends around.

Women who pull this move say this because they are really not attracted to you, and find more fun and comfort in her friends than you. So, this just means you did a lousy job at building ANY attraction and tried to move on to comfort and trust stage which she simply is not ready for. Hence the "protection" of her friends.

However, having a guy orbit her to show her and her friends a good time at his expense is always welcome. These are also known as "attention whores".

I have yet (in my 20+ years of chasing women) to hear of a man getting laid when a girl brings her girlfriends on a first date on purpose.

So, unless you want to be the beta orbiter proving yourself to her and her friends all night long, don't accept. You will do more damage than good.

SOLUTION:


HOLD HER HANDS AS YOU ASK THIS QUESTION. Do not ask it without holding her hands, it sends her a signal of intimacy, and you can measure how attracted she is to you. Look dead in her eyes!

In a playful manner ask her: "How am I suppose to blatantly flirt and passionately make-out with you with your friends around?"

Two things will happen:

1. You just put her on the spot, and the truth wil come out. Her body language will tell you wether or not she is interested in you or not. Pay more attention to how she physically responds to this as oppose to what she actually says. If she immediately pulls her hands away, she is not physically attracted to you, and is not interested.

2. She will say she had no idea you were interested in her that way, giggles and accepts - KISS HER RIGHT HERE THIS VERY MOMENT!!. This second one is unlikely however. I already mentioned that no girl who is initially attracted to you brings her friends around for "fun".


A lot of inexperienced guys make the huge mistake of thinking this will lead to a three-some - WRONG! It won't - it leads to blue balls, and you being placed in the friend zone. You have to already be fucking one of 2 girls for it to lead to a three-some.

Unless she has mentioned to you of being bi-curious, or kissed a girl before, it's not happening - not with the beginner level of game you seem to have at least.

Mixx

[Geronimo]

Great info mixx. Thanks.

[silent_scope]

Yah.. having been in this position recently I should be able to spot it...

Good follow up though Mixx, now I know what to do if it should happen again, with a different chick of course.

Thanks.

[Spike]

i had this problem alot when online dating in the philippines. They always want to meet the first time with her friends in the mall. If you go or coffee that means you have to pay for 3 girls and not one. I always say : we are meeting in a public place so you dont need bodyguards. Works most of the times, if not . Move on !

[Neo]

(07-24-2011 05:09 AM)Geronimo Wrote:  

How do I make the girl come alone and not with her friends?

If she's not willing to come alone she's not really interested. Take it from me, I have in the past met up with a few girls who wanted to bring their friends along on a first date. At the time my thoughts were 'hell at least there's a chance, if I don't show up there will be no chance.' Totally wrong, the truth was I fucked up earlier in the gaming process. I didn't hook up with any of those girls.

[Riker]

Mix if you are already on the date do you grab her hands and say this in front of her friend or friends? You find a way to mini isolate at least for a minute enough to go for it right? I'm asking cause this happened to me not long ago with this girl who emailed me 2 hours before the date saying she was bringing her friend.

[MiXX]

(07-24-2011 07:43 PM)Riker Wrote:  

Mix if you are already on the date do you grab her hands and say this in front of her friend or friends? You find a way to mini isolate at least for a minute enough to go for it right? I'm asking cause this happened to me not long ago with this girl who emailed me 2 hours before the date saying she was bringing her friend.

Nop. I'm saying you do this BEFORE yo meet-up on your date. I trust this is NOT an internet date where the 2 of you are meeting for the very first time in person - right?

Sounds to me like you are talking about a meeting for the very first time if she sent you an e-mail 2hrs before your date. In which case, I agree with the girl wanting to bring the protection of a friend along just this once. E-mail sounds like a very unattached method of communicating, and a sure indicator she is not really attracted enough to you.

However, if you met a girl at a cafe for example, and you insta-date her, and then want to meet up later, then she should not be bringing a friend.


Mixx

[Mrs. Chocolate]

This is weird... Can't see why to do it, but...
Enforce a doble date to isolate the girl a bit.

[ElBorrachoInfamoso]

(07-24-2011 05:09 AM)Geronimo Wrote:  

How do I make the girl come alone and not with her friends?

We need more context. Is this the first date? Have you even seen the girl in person before? Is this the third date?

Like Mixx said, if it's a date set through email and she's never seen you in person before, it's justified, otherwise she's not interested enough OR it's a shit test.

A girl once tried to pull this on me on our third date. I told her, I wasn't going to go and wished her a good time with her friends. She complained and I told her straight out, it was supposed to be a date for us two. I'm not interested in her bringing a third and fourth wheel. It was too late for her to cancel on her friends because they already bought tickets for the wine tasting, so she went with them. That night, I called up one of my other girls and fucked her. On my way back home, the original called me so she could come over. I fucked her that night.



Make the bitch do things on YOUR terms, not hers. Don't let her make your life more difficult. If she's putting up too many barriers, whip your balls out on the table and let her know how things need to be done. You have high standards, and if she doesn't meet them, she can go fuck herself, because you'll be too busy fucking someone else.

[Geronimo]

Actually I met her on holiday. I told her what mixx told me over the telephone and she started laughing and said: "I am not looking for a BF now."
I left it and stopped working on her. Typical attention whore.

[MiXX]

(07-28-2011 02:33 AM)Geronimo Wrote:  

Actually I met her on holiday. I told her what mixx told me over the telephone and she started laughing and said: "I am not looking for a BF now."
I left it and stopped working on her. Typical attention whore.

What exactly did you tell her over the phone?

I told you to tell her something as you hold her hands, and look in her eyes. NOT OVER THE TELEPHONE MAN! I specifically said touching her as you say it was huge!

If she would if responded with "I am not looking for a boyfriend" while you were holding her hands (as I mentioned) you could of immediately responded with "good, cuz I'm not looking to become one" and escalated for the kiss close!



Mixx

[Geronimo]

The problem is that I had to meet her first in order to tell her that in person, and as you know, she only wanted to come with her friends... I told her the same thing but only over the phone...

[MiXX]

(07-28-2011 03:19 PM)Geronimo Wrote:  

.. I told her the same thing but only over the phone...

Then it's not what Mixx told you.

Mixx

[boxwino]

Go with Mixx's advice. It's gold.

If over the phone or there's no close proximity to her, and attraction/comfort are low (most likely the friends are a security blanket) and she invites me to a group thing or wants friends to come, I tend to decline on principal, but understand why she wants to bring her friends or maybe I'll ask if her friend is cute and invite my best friend along, divide and conquer. It's situational.

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[MiXX]

@boxwino - I have to ask.....are those 2 gay dudes in your Avatar? Or Bruce Willis kissing himself?

[boxwino]

(08-02-2011 06:02 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

@boxwino - I have to ask.....are those 2 gay dudes in your Avatar? Or Bruce Willis kissing himself?

Apparently it's the portrait Bruce Willis has hanging above his fireplace. For me it's a perfect example of strong inner game. Ego/Mind secured by a strong inner reality/peace.

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[TheWolfHowls]

I hate that shit...when girls try to do that shit. Back in college, a few EVEN when i said "just me and you" she brought her friend anyways. From then on, i flat out refuse to meetup with them unless its me and her. Since then, none have done it to me BUT if they do it in the future when i show up with her being with a friend...i'm just gonna tell them "Sorry...it was just suppose to be me and you" and i'll walk out. Girls need to understand the message. It annoys the hell out of me. No pity whatsoever.

[Samseau]

(08-02-2011 06:06 PM)boxwino Wrote:  

(08-02-2011 06:02 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

@boxwino - I have to ask.....are those 2 gay dudes in your Avatar? Or Bruce Willis kissing himself?

Apparently it's the portrait Bruce Willis has hanging above his fireplace. For me it's a perfect example of strong inner game. Ego/Mind secured by a strong inner reality/peace.

Link to full size

This isn't strong inner game, this is narcissism.

[boxwino]

Sure if you look at it from the original perspective upon which it was created maybe, I take from art what my wish opinion wise, regardless of original intent or subject.