All this talk of "unicorns" is silly and misguided in two ways, which are related to each other, and related to the general male delusions about female nature.
It imagines, first, that all girls and women in the West (and increasingly elsewhere) have been "corrupted" in some almost mystical way that renders them permanently useless as potential mates and mothers of one's children. And it imagines, additionally, that there exist rare creatures -- these so-called "unicorns" -- that by some miracle of character and upbringing have been spared the "corruption". And, interestingly, while such unicorns are supposed to be
quite rare, you only need to scratch a dude a little for him to confess that he's certainly met them -- and as often as not, it just so happens that his current girlfriend/LTR is a certifiable "unicorn" if ever there was one. It is positively astonishing how many irredeemably bad qualities women in general are known to have -- and yet how often the actual female the man is with right at the moment shows no evidence whatsoever of any of these flaws.
I wrote about this before in a thread about the "7 qualities of the future mother of my children", in response to another forum member's enthusiasm about his own "unicorn":
Quote: (11-04-2015 09:15 AM)The Lizard of Oz Wrote:
There are certainly some nice girls out there, and it may be that you found one of them. But when I see a dude being able to go on and on enumerating every single feminine virtue his girl has, with scarcely a single flaw to be found -- she's even really nice on her period! -- and intimating that this catalog of virtues is only the merest tip of the iceberg, I feel pretty sure that he is not viewing her through an entirely objective lens.
I think one of the lessons of this thread is that men are very ready to recognize flaws in women in general -- but when it comes to your girl, at least in the romance stage of the relationship, well, she's different. And that's just how men are. To quote Parlay's timeless wisdom:
Quote: (09-02-2015 06:35 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:
It's natural to get all whipped up on a girl. It's also natural for women to be cum-guzzling gutter whores. To change that you have to fight against nature.
I don't expect this very fundamental part of male nature to change; fighting against nature is mostly futile. But it doesn't hurt to recognize this tendency in both oneself and others and to try to correct for it to the limited extent it's possible.
Too many guys are all too willing to believe that a girl who was (supposedly) a virgin when they met her, who treats them well, does not abuse them often, is affectionate, and gives them decent or even enthusiastic sex -- is some angel sent from the heavens who can do no wrong, a being very different from the wretched common run of womenfolk. And it's hard to blame men for believing this because that is what nature
wants us to believe, having the continuation of the species in mind.
In truth, the differences in women which men imagine to be differences in kind are often only differences in degree, circumstance, and time of life. The same girl who was so sweet, feminine, submissive and passionate in the romance stage of a relationship becomes a nag, a harridan, or even an outright monster as the years wear on and she is restless and bored with her man; and conversely, a girl who seemed like a vapid slut settles down, finds the right guy, and becomes an acceptable or even a good wife and mother. Both things happen, and they cannot always be predicted, even by outside observers who consider themselves astute judges of character -- let alone by men who are involved with these women and whose perceptions of them can be distorted to the point of delusion.
It's best to realize that most women are what they are; almost all of them are, as the great old phrase goes,
no better than they should be. None are "unicorns", but
many can be acceptable mates and mothers under the right circumstances, since this is, after all, what nature has intended them to be. One can do one's best in making a choice and taking all possible precautions, but there is a great deal of pure luck involved and that had better be accepted at the outset. And it's good to fight against the tendency -- as natural as it is -- to believe that the particular girl one happens to be with is some exceedingly rare and unusual creature. For better and for worse, she probably isn't: quite a few others are capable of enacting her -- very exaggerated -- virtues; and she, in turn, is more than capable of enacting their -- only slightly exaggerated -- flaws.
