Introduction
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Hello my fellow Roosh friends,
I am starting a new thread and leaving the old one (Shaking off the Bad Habits - My 100) behind me because I don't want to carry any old baggage with me and the old thread was mostly negative because I myself was full of negativity at the time. I also don't believe in numbers, or fixed goals, anymore so I dropped the 100. So here we go:
I am undergoing a radical transformation as a human being. A lot of things have changed in the last two months. I am really loving my life now. Everyday is a new opportunity for me.
I have dropped all medication because it made me dull, stupid and ill. I quit my job because I hated it. I no longer jerk off or watch porn, not because I suppress or control the urge but because I've seen the futility of it and the urge went away. I am dressing sharply now and take great care of my appearance. I have become a vegan because I can no longer take the responsibility for killing or torturing a living thing. I have dropped a lot of body fat and am doing a healthy sports routine every day. In the last two months I might have done more new things than in the last five years or so.
Starting out I want to give you guys a little information about myself:
Status
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Gender: Male
Age: 24
Ever kissed a girl: Yes
Ever had a girlfriend: No
Ever had sex: No
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This information will be updated as we go along.
I have lost most of my fears and negative feelings in the last two months. So not being afraid anymore there was the real possibility for an:
Approach
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I was out in the city doing some shopping when it started raining. I went into a bag shop to buy an umbrella. After a few seconds I had found what I needed and went to the counter.
Her: Hi
Me: ... Hi
Her: You already found something, huh?
Me: Yes.
Her: You really need one of those right now.
Me: Yeah, definitely.
Her: Bye.
Me: Have a great day!
She looked cute, was probably around 20 years old, and smiling at me all the time. So when I went home she was kinda stuck in my head so I thought fuck it let's give it a shot. Two hours later I drove to the city again. I was just about to enter the shop again when my heart suddenly starting beating like crazy and I started blushing. I turned around and it took me about an hour roaming the city to calm myself down and realize that whatever will happen to me will only make me grow as a man. I might piss my pants when talking to her but it will be worth it. So I went into the shop just to find her not being there anymore. I asked one of her colleagues who told me she would be working again two days later from 9:30 to 19:00. Driving home I felt fucking great for actually doing this and not being a pussy who doesn't do shit like I was in the past.
So two days later I went there at 9:30. Before entering the shop I took a quick look through the window to see if she'd be there. There was only a girl who didn't look quite as cute as I had remembered. I wondered if it would be her and about the possibility of going into the shop and and asking out the wrong one.
I turned around again and this time it only took me about 15 minutes to get into the right state of mind and I went in:
Me: Hi.... I am not here to buy anything.... Do you want to go out with me tomorrow evening?
Her: I have a boyfriend.
Me: Are you happy with him?
Her: Yes.
Me: May I give you my number in case you two fall out of love?
Her: I don't think so, we've been together for 5 years.
Me: Have a nice day.
What I noticed was as soon as she noticed me she had an ice cold look on her face. Probaly her colleague had informed her about me and she prepared the last two days on how to properly turn me down. I think I made the fault of expecting her to be smiling again or at least be flattered by my approach but she was just cold as fuck with an annoyed "Are you seriously doing this?!" look on her face.
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This was the first time in my life I had ever asked out a women directly. And even though I got turned down I felt 90% great afterwards. I only felt about 10% sad because I had built up this expectation on how she should act on my approach. So next time I will not make any expectations and nothing should interfere with my happiness.
Afterword
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As always I appreciate any advice or feedback on this post. If you think it was too long or boring I will adjust next time. New approaches are on the horizon.
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Hello my fellow Roosh friends,
I am starting a new thread and leaving the old one (Shaking off the Bad Habits - My 100) behind me because I don't want to carry any old baggage with me and the old thread was mostly negative because I myself was full of negativity at the time. I also don't believe in numbers, or fixed goals, anymore so I dropped the 100. So here we go:
I am undergoing a radical transformation as a human being. A lot of things have changed in the last two months. I am really loving my life now. Everyday is a new opportunity for me.
I have dropped all medication because it made me dull, stupid and ill. I quit my job because I hated it. I no longer jerk off or watch porn, not because I suppress or control the urge but because I've seen the futility of it and the urge went away. I am dressing sharply now and take great care of my appearance. I have become a vegan because I can no longer take the responsibility for killing or torturing a living thing. I have dropped a lot of body fat and am doing a healthy sports routine every day. In the last two months I might have done more new things than in the last five years or so.
Starting out I want to give you guys a little information about myself:
Status
------------------------------------------------------------------------
Gender: Male
Age: 24
Ever kissed a girl: Yes
Ever had a girlfriend: No
Ever had sex: No
------------------------------------------------------------------------
This information will be updated as we go along.
I have lost most of my fears and negative feelings in the last two months. So not being afraid anymore there was the real possibility for an:
Approach
------------------------------------------------------------------------
I was out in the city doing some shopping when it started raining. I went into a bag shop to buy an umbrella. After a few seconds I had found what I needed and went to the counter.
Her: Hi
Me: ... Hi
Her: You already found something, huh?
Me: Yes.
Her: You really need one of those right now.
Me: Yeah, definitely.
Her: Bye.
Me: Have a great day!
She looked cute, was probably around 20 years old, and smiling at me all the time. So when I went home she was kinda stuck in my head so I thought fuck it let's give it a shot. Two hours later I drove to the city again. I was just about to enter the shop again when my heart suddenly starting beating like crazy and I started blushing. I turned around and it took me about an hour roaming the city to calm myself down and realize that whatever will happen to me will only make me grow as a man. I might piss my pants when talking to her but it will be worth it. So I went into the shop just to find her not being there anymore. I asked one of her colleagues who told me she would be working again two days later from 9:30 to 19:00. Driving home I felt fucking great for actually doing this and not being a pussy who doesn't do shit like I was in the past.
So two days later I went there at 9:30. Before entering the shop I took a quick look through the window to see if she'd be there. There was only a girl who didn't look quite as cute as I had remembered. I wondered if it would be her and about the possibility of going into the shop and and asking out the wrong one.
I turned around again and this time it only took me about 15 minutes to get into the right state of mind and I went in:
Me: Hi.... I am not here to buy anything.... Do you want to go out with me tomorrow evening?
Her: I have a boyfriend.
Me: Are you happy with him?
Her: Yes.
Me: May I give you my number in case you two fall out of love?
Her: I don't think so, we've been together for 5 years.
Me: Have a nice day.
What I noticed was as soon as she noticed me she had an ice cold look on her face. Probaly her colleague had informed her about me and she prepared the last two days on how to properly turn me down. I think I made the fault of expecting her to be smiling again or at least be flattered by my approach but she was just cold as fuck with an annoyed "Are you seriously doing this?!" look on her face.
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This was the first time in my life I had ever asked out a women directly. And even though I got turned down I felt 90% great afterwards. I only felt about 10% sad because I had built up this expectation on how she should act on my approach. So next time I will not make any expectations and nothing should interfere with my happiness.
Afterword
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As always I appreciate any advice or feedback on this post. If you think it was too long or boring I will adjust next time. New approaches are on the horizon.