Quote: (03-19-2016 10:45 PM)The_e_man Wrote:
Hello lads, you may remember from my recent thread about my main girl in my harem getting an abortion.
This thread is about the same girl in question and I would like to get this clear: my interest in her was dying down WELL BEFORE we even found out she was pregnant.
Anyways, I would like to know how to break things off with her while causing as little emotional pain to her as possible. She is an amazing girl. Incredibly loyal and loving. Cooks, cleans, does my laundry, wants to spend every waking moment with me, the whole nine yards. She ultimately wants to get married with me and settle down with me for good. I, on the other hand, have other plans in mind. I want to live the playboy lifestyle for at the very least a few more years (I'm 22 years old). I'd like to focus more on building myself as a man, improving my health, building up my finances, and going out and fucking NEW beautiful women.
She has never wronged me. She is the opposite of any type of woman that you would normally think of. So affectionate and caring. Always thinking about me and going to the mall to buy me random gifts even if she doesn't have much money.
It is because of this that I don't want to see her hurt. In a perfect fairytale world, she will find an amazing guy and they will settle down and live happily ever after. And I wish her nothing but pure happiness. But me being in an exclusive relationship with her is not what I want. I am not in that phase of my life yet. There is so much I still want to do. There are many other women that I still want to bed.
One possible suggestion I thought of was going no-contact; "ripping the bandaid off." But I fear that this option will devastate her and not give her any proper closure.
On the other end of the spectrum, I can give her "the talk" and tell her everything upfront. But I fear that this will devastate her as well.
Another idea is to slowly and gradually cut contact with her over time. Slowly start seeing her less and less. Maybe start slowly giving her stuff back that she left at my apartment.
I apologize for the wall of text. I don't have many red-pill friends in my life and the ones that I am friends with are young and inexperienced like myself. I would like to hear some words of wisdom from any of you gentlemen that have been in my position in the past. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
Cheers.
Asking how to break up with someone without hurting them is like asking how to swim without getting wet. If they care about you they're going to be hurt. The question you probably should be asking instead is:
"What's the most drama and guilt free way I can break up with my girlfriend?" The answer to that is going to vary from person to person. But if she's a stage 5 clinger, emotional, or prone to "acting out" in public or private; then I'd do the following:
1.) Find a new side chick that passes your boner test and then some. You want to be distracted with new pussy; not sitting at home alone pining after your old ball and chain.
2.) Discreetly get all of your stuff that you want to keep out of her house.
3.) Gather up all of her stuff at your place. I mean
everything. If a woman decides to go full psycho after you break up she'll use the fact that you have her old hair brush to try and harass you. Up to and including calling the police to your house to demand it back.
4.) Write a generic breakup letter, or just copy one on line. Let her know: you're a great girl, I'm not ready for a serious commitment, I need to work on me, blah blah blah. Include that you think it's better for both of you to go no contact for 6 weeks so you both can reflect. Of course you should have no intention of ever talking to her again. But it's a way to soften the blow so she won't show up at your house right after she reads the letter. If she makes it though 6 weeks of NC it's unlikely that she'll go to extreme lengths to get in touch with you after that. If she doesn't make it past the 6 week mark then you can use your NC rule as an excuse not to talk to her. Also include a part in the letter that says if there are any other items that she wants to exchange then she should contact your mutual friend. And you'll drop those items off with that friend to give to her.
5.) Go though her social media and find all the pictures of her that you hate. No matter how cute a girl is there are about to be a few. Pics that she looks fat in, that show her with her annoying friend that pisses you off, etc. Save them to a folder along with an extensive list of reasons you broke up with her; things she did that pissed you off. People tend to look at the past with rose colored classes. You'll want something that will keep you honest and remind you of why you broke up with her in the first place.
6.) Drop the letter and all of her stuff at her place. Block her in your phone and on all social media. Lay low for a while.
If use this method of course she'll call you a coward. But women you break up with trash your reputation to their friends anyway so no loss there. Also who cares if some chick you'll never see again thinks badly of you. She'll be pissed at you either way but at least this way you avoid the drama.
Of course you have to be 100% sure of your choice before doing this. There is no going back; which is the point. Personally I think you're doing the right thing. You don't want to be tied down, and women rarely get abortions twice in a row. Especially for a man that they want to lock down. You just put your life savings on the spin of a roulette wheel and won big. Now is the time to cash in your chips and run for the hills.
