All of the first date threads I see here revolve around getting the girl back to your place to bang, but I'm sure there are plenty of guys who either don't have the logistics for this or simply prefer the long(ish) game. I wanted to create a space to share thoughts on running the ideal first date when the goal is to bang her another day. Some principles I've picked up:
-Venue bouncing is still key, as it keeps things fresh and gives the date a slightly adventurous feel girls love. I find that if I stay in one bar for a long time, the conversation inevitably descends into forced bullshit like work and those boring-as-fuck "getting to know you" questions (e.g. "so what kind of TV shows do you like?"). Unfortunately, it seems every girl I meet takes an hour and a half to finish one drink and I haven't found a way around it. Another obstacle is that it can be hard to find a nice downtown area with multiple venues to hit if you live in the burbs, but at the very least there should be a nearby park you can bounce to after the bar/coffee shop/whatever.
-Physical escalation is a must. These suburban dates can easily take on a very platonic/asexual vibe if you're not careful. Plan your venue bounces such that the last place you're at is somewhere conducive to being physically close--a park bench works just fine--and don't be afraid to make blatant moves. I've seen some guys recommend starting out with inadvertent touches and working your way up, but I've found that suddenly holding a girl's hand or putting your arm around her with no buildup works just fine if you're connecting conversationally.
-According to Heartiste, it's a bad idea to force the kiss close. A kiss is great if you can make it seem like a natural progression, but it's awkward and unpleasant if you do it because you feel like you need to. I can confirm that I have, in fact, banged girls that I didn't kiss on the first date.
Others who don't go for the bang on day 1, please feel free to chime in with your thoughts and experiences.
-Venue bouncing is still key, as it keeps things fresh and gives the date a slightly adventurous feel girls love. I find that if I stay in one bar for a long time, the conversation inevitably descends into forced bullshit like work and those boring-as-fuck "getting to know you" questions (e.g. "so what kind of TV shows do you like?"). Unfortunately, it seems every girl I meet takes an hour and a half to finish one drink and I haven't found a way around it. Another obstacle is that it can be hard to find a nice downtown area with multiple venues to hit if you live in the burbs, but at the very least there should be a nearby park you can bounce to after the bar/coffee shop/whatever.
-Physical escalation is a must. These suburban dates can easily take on a very platonic/asexual vibe if you're not careful. Plan your venue bounces such that the last place you're at is somewhere conducive to being physically close--a park bench works just fine--and don't be afraid to make blatant moves. I've seen some guys recommend starting out with inadvertent touches and working your way up, but I've found that suddenly holding a girl's hand or putting your arm around her with no buildup works just fine if you're connecting conversationally.
-According to Heartiste, it's a bad idea to force the kiss close. A kiss is great if you can make it seem like a natural progression, but it's awkward and unpleasant if you do it because you feel like you need to. I can confirm that I have, in fact, banged girls that I didn't kiss on the first date.
Others who don't go for the bang on day 1, please feel free to chime in with your thoughts and experiences.