[Vaun]

(11-21-2015 03:24 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(11-20-2015 08:23 PM)Merenguero Wrote:  

I can't agree with any of this. Sex is a way of rewarding a woman for her good behavior. If a woman previously exhibited bad behavior toward you and you decide to bang her it's pretty much game over. If all you care about in the world is getting notches at any and all cost, then by all means, go ahead and bang her. If you truly care that women are well behaved and respectful, ignore her like I do, and move on.

I agree with this to a certain extent as well - but like some have said, who knows wtf was going on. Granted I don't care.

If she flakes last minute, honestly, yeah I'd ignore the bitch.

If it's a few days or the day before, and I see her out later in a few weeks and we lock eye contact I'll say hi.

If she flaked, and I see a her a few days later, I'll probably ignore her.

If it's a girl a I banged and she flaked on me later, I don't give one fuck, I already won and moved on. It's her problem.

You're right we should encourage good and proper behavior from women, NOT reward them when they act bad.

I used to be butt hurt from flakes. Now I dont care. A true flake where she totally ditches you at a bar or restaurant for something you planned? Yes, GTFO.

But if she is just hard to connect with, or wont sit still or commit to a time and place, I dont really care. I look at it like a good connection. If she totally ignores you, then yes, shes not into you. If shes texting you out of the blue sometimes, trying to connect with you in other ways like social media, and showing interest, I look at it like I just made a friend with a possible sex partner down the road.

Maybe she is struggling for some reason with giving it up to you. Are you significantly older, or struck her in such a way its making her think? Like you pulled off an amazing approach to her, like shes never been approached in her life before? She may really want this, and you're not the typical fuckboy hipster pussy shes used to.

If a girl is not stealing my time, money and energy, I dont see her as bad. I see it more as a dance, then a flake. Truly bad girls get nothing again from me. The hard to grasp ones I keep the dance going with now. Sometimes it takes a year or so...

[XPQ22]

(02-13-2016 02:43 PM)Vaun Wrote:  

But if she is just hard to connect with, or wont sit still or commit to a time and place, I dont really care. I look at it like a good connection. If she totally ignores you, then yes, shes not into you. If shes texting you out of the blue sometimes, trying to connect with you in other ways like social media, and showing interest, I look at it like I just made a friend with a possible sex partner down the road.

Got a situation like this unfolding with me right now. Gamed a young girl at a nightclub and she was kinoing me, but I couldn't close. Took the number and hit her up. We texted back and forth a few times, but when I pitched the meet she didn't reply and I thought I was done.

Then a couple days later she pings me. Text a couple times, then she vanishes. Then a few days later, she pings me again. Same deal.

I didn't try pitching the meet a second time. I'm just going to let her ping me and be friendly. I think she's a regular at this spot, so my plan right now is to pull back and then take my best shot to close the next time I run into her in person.

It's a little hard to tell in situations like this if she's just validation-seeking. But it's also possible that she's winding down some other relationship and is looking for candidates.

[Vaun]

(02-13-2016 03:10 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

(02-13-2016 02:43 PM)Vaun Wrote:  

But if she is just hard to connect with, or wont sit still or commit to a time and place, I dont really care. I look at it like a good connection. If she totally ignores you, then yes, shes not into you. If shes texting you out of the blue sometimes, trying to connect with you in other ways like social media, and showing interest, I look at it like I just made a friend with a possible sex partner down the road.

Got a situation like this unfolding with me right now. Gamed a young girl at a nightclub and she was kinoing me, but I couldn't close. Took the number and hit her up. We texted back and forth a few times, but when I pitched the meet she didn't reply and I thought I was done.

Then a couple days later she pings me. Text a couple times, then she vanishes. Then a few days later, she pings me again. Same deal.

I didn't try pitching the meet a second time. I'm just going to let her ping me and be friendly. I think she's a regular at this spot, so my plan right now is to pull back and then take my best shot to close the next time I run into her in person.

But it's a little hard to tell in situations like this if she's just validation-seeking.

It sounds like she likes you. Be receptive, but don't blow it up by "acting alpha" because she is not rushing over to your place. Depending on what you want want, sometimes these things take a while.

[XPQ22]

(02-13-2016 03:12 PM)Vaun Wrote:  

It sounds like she likes you. Be receptive, but don't blow it up by "acting alpha" because she is not rushing over to your place. Depending on what you want want, sometimes these things take a while.

It's weird how sometimes they'll completely ignore the meet pitch, and then wait a while and carry on the interaction as if nothing happened. Seems like sort of a test to judge your neediness.

It's happened to me often enough that I'm recognizing a pattern here.

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(02-13-2016 03:16 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

It's weird how sometimes they'll completely ignore the meet pitch, and then wait a while and carry on the interaction as if nothing happened. Seems like sort of a test to judge your neediness.

It's happened to me often enough that I'm recognizing a pattern here.

The pattern is, there are some women who literally have no concept of time. They live in the eternal now, and so for them, there is no difference between getting right back to you and calling in a year.

It follows then that they have no concept of wasting your time, or their time or anybody else's. It's all now all the time, and yesterday is now and so is tomorrow.

That's why the old ones can't understand when men stop liking them, and younger ones can't understand why they have to do homework and can't just go to a bar at 13.

For those of us who are normal, their mindset regarding time is so alien, that we can't understand it, and we assume that they just suck at something normal, when in reality, it has no meaning for them.

And for them, their way is the normal way, so they can't understand if you get mad when they waste your time. To them, it is like you are flying off the handle for no reason.

Not all women are like this, and almost no men are, but if you are ever having trouble with a chick, ask yourself if maybe she is one of these quasi-faeries, living in between their dimension and ours, and not quite understanding how it all works, and you won't care so much anymore.

Them's differents.