Quote: (11-22-2015 02:58 AM)Merenguero Wrote:
Quote: (11-21-2015 11:13 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Opportunity to get a notch and build your skills.
It's very difficult to change people's behavior.
It's difficult to change your own.
I get the impulse to punish, or to not encourage poor behavior - but diffuse and indirect actions never have the effect that people want them to.
WIA
I'm not being critical here, but where do you draw the line? If a girl starts talking to another guy when you are with her? If a girl puts on twenty pounds? If a girl often makes huge scenes in public? If she does it once? If a girl starts being sarcastic? Talking to you in a disrespectful way? I have the same answer to all these questions and it might surprise people or it might not, and yes, I do know girls who don't do any of these things. Most, if not all of them, have had fathers who were in the picture and are/were solid guys. Coincidence?
1)Talking to another guy
- If i've banged, I don't care.
- If I haven't banged I don't care.
- Plate, don't care
- LTR - shit's gone to pot, and I must have fucked up someplace
2) 20lbs
- only care in the LTR situation
3) Huge Scene
- haven't banged - avoid
- have banged - don't care
- plate - demoted
- ltr - break up, and wonder why I didn't see that bs before
4) One Huge Scene
- see 3
One is all it takes. Chick like that has no emotional control whatsoever, and eventually that shit is going to blow up in your face.
5) Sarcastic
- means nothing in all scenarios.
I don't require a sweet bubbly girl around me at all times, because 99% of the time it's an act. If all her shit is constantly sarcastic,chances of her getting to LTR status with me is low.
6) Disrespectful
- no bang - it depends
- bang - could care less
- plate - demotion
- LTR - important to analyze where this is coming from, but if you've consistently been teaching your girl how to interact with you, take care of you, love you essentially - then if she gets disrespectful you have to withdraw. If it continues you have to let her go.
A player's only tool in most of these situations is his attention.
If she does something to lose a man's attention, the man would be a fool to continue to give it to her.
Game is not for her, it's for him. It's to know what he wants, and have to the strength to push a fat and disrespectful bitch out of his bed. Then go back out there and get him another one.
Keep in mind, that chicks love to test and love to get a rise out of you. Some guys say that you need to react a proper way to keep her respect.
I don't think that's true. I think you should react the way you want to react, but have the strength and will to cut a broad loose.
A dude can modify her environment, set up intermittent rewards, and go through all sorts of psychological strategies to make control his woman - but if he has to do all of that work - who's really in control?
She is.
My take at least.
You're no wet behind the ears newbie, plus you seem to be well versed in my favorite cuisine, how do you handle disrespects
- chicks you've not yet banged
- you have banged
- on your roster, in your harem, in rotation
- long terms
WIA