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Quote: (01-13-2016 10:21 PM)General Stalin Wrote:
I did this exact thing about 8 months ago.
I told her I didn't think we had enough in common and we are just too different and want different things. She cried and wanted to talk about it. Told me she felt like a whore because she slept with me thinking I was going to be a long term partner. That hurt.
All you can really do is be honest like I was. Don't be an asshole or say things that don't need to be said. Just say you want different things. You aren't ready to settle down. Whatever. Simple as that.
Quote: (01-13-2016 10:49 PM)BillyTalented Wrote:
Quote: (01-13-2016 10:21 PM)General Stalin Wrote:
I did this exact thing about 8 months ago.
I told her I didn't think we had enough in common and we are just too different and want different things. She cried and wanted to talk about it. Told me she felt like a whore because she slept with me thinking I was going to be a long term partner. That hurt.
All you can really do is be honest like I was. Don't be an asshole or say things that don't need to be said. Just say you want different things. You aren't ready to settle down. Whatever. Simple as that.
Yeah same thing happened to me a week ago. I'll add that its better you break it off now, earlier the better. If she's a good girl she will make some guy happy and the more time you wait the more you waste her fertile years and your own time.
You feel a lot better after its done but its not easy.
Quote: (01-13-2016 11:23 PM)General Stalin Wrote:
Quote: (01-13-2016 10:49 PM)BillyTalented Wrote:
Quote: (01-13-2016 10:21 PM)General Stalin Wrote:
I did this exact thing about 8 months ago.
I told her I didn't think we had enough in common and we are just too different and want different things. She cried and wanted to talk about it. Told me she felt like a whore because she slept with me thinking I was going to be a long term partner. That hurt.
All you can really do is be honest like I was. Don't be an asshole or say things that don't need to be said. Just say you want different things. You aren't ready to settle down. Whatever. Simple as that.
Yeah same thing happened to me a week ago. I'll add that its better you break it off now, earlier the better. If she's a good girl she will make some guy happy and the more time you wait the more you waste her fertile years and your own time.
You feel a lot better after its done but its not easy.
Actually one of the things she was most upset about when we "talked" was that I didn't let her go sooner.
If I'm being candid, I actually would like to have her back. I mostly broke up with her because I was at a place where I didn't want a LTR at the time... and she was black and I don't like black girls' hair. Aside from that she was wonderful. I'd call her an 8, very feminine, always cooked for me, doing sweet things without asking, always dressed great, just all around great.
Quote: (01-14-2016 01:00 AM)Merenguero Wrote:
The timing of this thread is perfect. I'm in a situation right now and this girl looks good and has been as nice as possible to me since the first minute, so I really don't want to mess things up for the next guy.
One thing I've found works, whether you are a billionaire or a credit card warrior is two words, "I'm poor." It gets into their heads and can change things real quickly. Telling her you just got charged with indecent exposure could also work, although I've never tried that one.
As I mentioned in another thread, if you are doing it right, I think more girls are starting to get attached than in the past. I just think women have fewer options than ever before. Guys say "Enjoy the decline," but as far as I can see things couldn't be better if you are a guy who is doing it right.
Quote: (01-13-2016 11:23 PM)General Stalin Wrote:
If I'm being candid, I actually would like to have her back. I mostly broke up with her because I was at a place where I didn't want a LTR at the time... and she was black and I don't like black girls' hair. Aside from that she was wonderful. I'd call her an 8, very feminine, always cooked for me, doing sweet things without asking, always dressed great, just all around great.
Quote: (01-14-2016 02:03 AM)booshala Wrote:
Similar situation: good girl, nice looking, very sweet but not ready to settle down and I still can't get over the hair.
Quote: (01-14-2016 12:45 AM)kaotic Wrote:
Even better is to make it known up front about what you are:
-you got your own shit going on
-you're busy
-you only see her once a week or son
-you don't text and talk much
-you aren't looking/ready for a relationship
Just with the above alone a girl will fade out, or she'll call you out on it.
Be honest if you do talk to her about it, end on best terms as possible, and don't talk to her again.