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"The price of being a man is eternal vigilance." - Kareem-Abdul Jabar
Quote: (07-04-2011 09:24 PM)blurb Wrote:
Roissy wrote a blog entry a while back that Game, compressed in its most simplest form, is just a trait that women lust most in a man: Unshakeable Supreme Confidence.
Think about it. It has been said that women are biologically programmed to go after "alpha traits" and "alpha behavior." Where did this come from? Well, one of my hypotheses is that thousands of years ago when most humans organized themselves into primitive tribes, the men hunted and the women gathered. However, men might not always be successful in catching their prey. Men might get mauled by a wild animal, get lost, or get killed. So, when a man comes back to the tribe and single-handedly brings back a huge wild pig, you better bet he's going to feel pretty confident. His behavior might also change. He might become cocky and think to himself, "Yeah, I just killed a wild animal for dinner. I'm the man." He might walk upright, look women straight in the eye and NOT CARE what other women think of him because he knows that he did something great that no other guy in the tribe did. He's going to walk with swagger and style. In summary, the women see the man as higher status and one distinguishing characteristic that he has that no other man in the tribe has that day is the man's confidence (a.k.a. "alpha behavior")
So, what do YOU have that gives you confidence? It can be anything. Being well-read. Playing a musical instrument. Being in a band. Winning the spelling bee. Speaking multiple languages. Being able to leg press 500 kg. Telling funny jokes. Narrating a personal experience that excites a woman's emotions.
It's easier to gain confidence when you already have something to be confident in.
No matter how lame or how stupid it sounds, find something you're good at and be proud of it. It's better to be proud of something than nothing.
Find your niche and be the best at it.
"For every male endeavor, there is a groupie--except WOW."
Too many men today (especially young men), when handed free time, idly spend their time on video games, movies, tv, and all other kinds of worthless garbage because at the end of a long work-day, they're barely able to lift a finger to pick up a book and just want to "chill."
Roosh has written that the two most important things that compose tight game is:
1) Being cool.
2) Being interesting.
How can you be cool and intersting when all you do is play video games and watch football?
Quote: (06-30-2017 12:54 AM)captain_shane Wrote:
Final thoughts. Stop comparing yourself to other people. You will never win that game. Some guy will always be better looking, funnier, richer, taller, have more notches. Only compete with yourself. Become the best version of you that you can be.
Quote: (06-30-2017 03:38 PM)Darkwing Buck Wrote:
Actually become good at shit that matters. Learn a martial art, make more money, get in great shape, build something, write, take amazing photos, paint, etc.
CONFIDENCE comes from COMPETENCE.
A confident man walks around with an airs about him because he KNOWS he can back his shit up. Weaklings aren't confident cuz they KNOW they'll get wrecked.
To get over being inferior, become superior.
Quote: (06-30-2017 04:43 PM)XXL Wrote:
^ this.
In the meantime of becoming competent you need to have some blind faith in yourself and belief that you are on a good path.
There is nothing else
Quote: (07-01-2011 04:27 AM)Excelsior Wrote:
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That isn't real confidence.
True confidence will never derive simply from a man's attempts to interact with women, nevermind their consistent rejections of him. Women will never build you up-only you can do that.
If you want to build this true confidence, you'll invest in yourself. Go to the gym and forge your body into something respectable. Try to eat a little better and drink less. Build a career and set a foundation for a stable financial future for yourself. Find a hobby/passion of yours and master it for its own sake and not for a shot to get a piece of ass.
Quote: (07-01-2011 04:17 AM)pitt Wrote:
...The more you start fucking (i dont mean sleeping with one new girl every month, i mean real sleeping around), the more your confidence will increase. You will then only set for the best girls and you will only fuck the best girls. Its a natural process, it would be good if you had someone to help you out.
Quote: (07-01-2011 04:17 AM)pitt Wrote:
I hanged out with this guy 24/7 for one year and he was an approaching machine, he would approach without fear, sometimes i was shocked how confident he was, he would just approach anywhere. Guess what, after months of us hanging out together, who became even more confident? ME, to the point where he thought he couldnt compete against me anymore, although he also pulled tons of girls, but i became even more confident, i would even approach a girl with her all family and chat up all of them.
Quote: (07-01-2011 04:17 AM)pitt Wrote:
I advise you to try work out everyday if you can, it will reduce your anxiety and it will make you more sociable and you will have more courage to approach. Dont be scaried to be neglected, everybody gets no´s, and i mean everybody. But put it this way, in the last two months i probably approached more than 100 girls but i only remembered 2 refusing to give me their numbers. Thats an impressive record.
Quote: (07-02-2011 10:16 AM)Gmac Wrote:
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"Either you improve yourself"
OR
"Improve your game"
What most people are missing is these two are one and the same.
Quote: (07-01-2011 04:27 AM)Excelsior Wrote:Thanks for that post.
Quote: (07-01-2011 03:28 AM)Jersey Wrote:
Just go out and do it. Fail miserably. There's a million girls out there, so use the first 1,000 to fail on - and then you'll be ready for the other 999,000. And the truth is, once you become numb to failure, confidence is pretty much what's left.
That isn't real confidence.
True confidence will never derive simply from a man's attempts to interact with women, nevermind their consistent rejections of him. Women will never build you up-only you can do that.
If you want to build this true confidence, you'll invest in yourself. Go to the gym and forge your body into something respectable. Try to eat a little better and drink less. Build a career and set a foundation for a stable financial future for yourself. Find a hobby/passion of yours and master it for its own sake and not for a shot to get a piece of ass.
And, most importantly of all, get it into your head that women aren't really intrinsically worth the effort that so many guys are willing to put in for them.
Take them off of the pedestal.