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12-21-2015, 03:08 PM
Feldeinsamkeit,
You sound like a very analytical guy. That's okay, so am I. From reading your posts in this thread and others, it seems you way overthink things even after only one failed approach. I think you did fine in this approach today. Under the circumstances and her status, you did the best you could. She just didn't bite.
I'm willing to bet if you replicated this approach 20 more times, probably one girl would actually bite. But you are in danger of giving off desperate vibes, by your own admission that you're desperate to get laid.
Lower your expectations, turn off your analytical brain, and just talk to people. If you happen to be talking with a girl you like, pitch for a coffee regardless of whether she has a boyfriend or not.
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12-21-2015, 03:12 PM
This kind of thing happening during day game with married women or women with boyfriends is common in my opinion. You were attractive enough that she was just enjoying the attention.
If only you knew how bad things really are.
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Daygame: Is there a way to tell if a woman is single before opening her?
12-21-2015, 03:29 PM
I'm also a very analytiCal guy. Very.
I work in sales now and when I started I had to make a lot of cold calls. If I came in on a given day and thought about what I say, I would have not done well at all.
Instead, I followed the DTJD approach. Don't think just dial. Look, you can likely even take a break from approaching in general and spend time to analyze what you did well and what you didn't. However, that analysis is not best utilized before or right after an approach.
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Daygame: Is there a way to tell if a woman is single before opening her?
12-21-2015, 05:08 PM
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Is it, perhaps, the sexually arousing thought for them that a decent-looking guy actually wanted them so badly as to be prepared to lose face in being rejected by them in a cold-approach?
Yes, and I think it's also an ego boost. Even if they are locked down they enjoy knowing they've still "got it" and have decent guys approaching them.
I think you should just take it as a compliment and encouragement to keep going.
If only you knew how bad things really are.
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Daygame: Is there a way to tell if a woman is single before opening her?
12-22-2015, 02:19 AM
No, save for a wedding band, there is no way to tell from the outset.
Also, know that a proportion of girls who convey that they are taken are actually not. Rather, they either do not find you physically attractive enough, or are simply not in the mood, and are lying about it to let you down easy and make you go away. This is a tough game pill to swallow but I mention it because there is a bright side: if you have fixable issues (you are over/underweight, you dress poorly) then you can handle them and turn these prospects around.
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Daygame: Is there a way to tell if a woman is single before opening her?
12-24-2015, 04:05 AM
Feldeinsamkeit, do you have Asperger Syndrome? Serious question.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome