I got a girl's number from online two weeks ago. She is late 20s, sort of sweet and anxious but she's a former stoner, used to date a hard drug addict who even got her arrested once. I'm concerned that any relationship I have with her isn't going to be dramatic enough for her so I'm hoping to compensate by being sexually aggressive. Anyway, she's a huge texting flake, but it's been pretty consistent since she gave me her number so I have no idea what to make of it. It took 12 hours just to set up a first date and I went pure logistics as in Roosh' texting guide (how are you doing? do you want to meet this week? How about coffee Wed at 8?). I swear to god if I didn't read that guide I would have given up two weeks ago. She drives me nuts because I'm used to most girls just randomly ghosting so every time she takes longer than a few hours to respond I figure she's gone forever and then she eventually responds. Could she seriously be shit testing me like this for two weeks straight? On our first date she mentioned one of her girlfriends who used to complain about her being flaky and she referred to her as 'clingy.' So I took this as a quirk of her personality and that I wouldn't push it.
She takes anywhere from 2 hours to a day and a half to respond to a text. I've adapted to start responding every few hours, but I haven't ever taken longer than 8 hours when I was legitimately busy, let alone a day. And I've never texted her twice in a row even though I really wanted to just tell her to be a normal fucking person. Anyway, her dog had been sick (yes, the dog is real, I'm not an idiot) so I asked her on Thursday around 7 PM how she was doing and then she replied Friday at 2 PM with a long message (I know that she has work at this time so it's not a question of her schedule). Since she told me they put her dog down 'the other day', I attributed her not responding on Thursday to her still being upset. So, I responded relatively quickly, re-extending an offer to come by my place this weekend if she wanted to talk about it after she'd already said earlier in the week that she was up for it. She responded a couple hours later with another long message that she would 'absolutely love to see me this weekend' and that she actually didn't want to talk about it because it'd just make her upset. So about an hour later (after my work ended around 5 PM), I suggested she come by tomorrow (Saturday) night and that I'd do my best to distract her. And I have yet to hear back though based on past experience I fully expect her to text me in the morning.
How do I broach this subject? Only explanation I can think of is that she had a date with a different guy right after work or that she's a fucking weirdo and she's waiting to reply until she knows she can make it. ROKs suggests not to call a girl out on flakiness if she's still seeing you unless you're already her bf but this seems pretty egregious to me. I'm contemplating telling her I'm busy tomorrow and rescheduling as a way to show disapproval for her behavior. Right now I'm in a bad mindset because I'm so afraid of appearing beta that I don't want to assert myself.
She takes anywhere from 2 hours to a day and a half to respond to a text. I've adapted to start responding every few hours, but I haven't ever taken longer than 8 hours when I was legitimately busy, let alone a day. And I've never texted her twice in a row even though I really wanted to just tell her to be a normal fucking person. Anyway, her dog had been sick (yes, the dog is real, I'm not an idiot) so I asked her on Thursday around 7 PM how she was doing and then she replied Friday at 2 PM with a long message (I know that she has work at this time so it's not a question of her schedule). Since she told me they put her dog down 'the other day', I attributed her not responding on Thursday to her still being upset. So, I responded relatively quickly, re-extending an offer to come by my place this weekend if she wanted to talk about it after she'd already said earlier in the week that she was up for it. She responded a couple hours later with another long message that she would 'absolutely love to see me this weekend' and that she actually didn't want to talk about it because it'd just make her upset. So about an hour later (after my work ended around 5 PM), I suggested she come by tomorrow (Saturday) night and that I'd do my best to distract her. And I have yet to hear back though based on past experience I fully expect her to text me in the morning.
How do I broach this subject? Only explanation I can think of is that she had a date with a different guy right after work or that she's a fucking weirdo and she's waiting to reply until she knows she can make it. ROKs suggests not to call a girl out on flakiness if she's still seeing you unless you're already her bf but this seems pretty egregious to me. I'm contemplating telling her I'm busy tomorrow and rescheduling as a way to show disapproval for her behavior. Right now I'm in a bad mindset because I'm so afraid of appearing beta that I don't want to assert myself.