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What not to do
Dont use vulgar or explicit sexual language too early.
As I said, a sexual connection must grow gradually (
but when done properly this can happen in a matter of minutes) . Your flirting together must start by being
implied in innuendo, understood through clever wordplay, or as playful banter. Being blunt or heavy handed takes away the mystery and will feel crude.
Example
Wrong: “I would love to see your ass in yoga pants.”
Instead try: “Yoga pants are one of the most important inventions of the new millenium" (smirk)
Or
"You'll have to show me your best crane pose sometime.” (smirk)
It’s all about context.
What to try:
You can use almost anything she says to segue into accusing her of having a dirty mind.
Everybody has a sexual side. In the right context and when they’re comfortable, for girts it’s fun to be “naughty”. It feels taboo and exciting at the same time.
So when she’s challenging or complimenting you, imply that you know she has more sinister intentions. Tell her that you’re on to her sneaky ways or that you’re so surprised by her secret wild side.
“Are you trying to get me drunk? Because it’s working.”
“You’re so hitting on me right now.”
“Awww, you’re trying to flirt with me. That’s adorable.”
“I can’t believe you did that…bad girl.”
She talks about doing something risky or adventurous, “See, I knew you had a naughty side to you.”
This can open up flirting really fast and be a silly game to play. If she enjoys it, she may reply one of two ways: she can run with it and say stuff like, “Oh no, you got me.” or “Well…maybe my mind is wandering just a little.” Or she can pretend to deny it, “What? I’m just a nice, innocent Midwestern girl.” or “Oh no not me, I only think about cute puppies and cupcakes.”
Misconstrue what she was saying or poke fun at her word choice.
This is where you take her statements and pretend like she was saying something more risqué. While accusing her of thinking dirty implies that she was intentional about it, this is more about her accidentally using more sexual language.
Pretend like she was saying something more flirtatious even when she wasn’t. Tease her about saying something that could be seen as sexual. You want her to get into a playful denial about what she was saying or try to explain herself.
“Is that a euphemism for something else?”
“You do realize that ‘delicious peach’ has a completely different meaning in other context, right?”
“Suuuuree you meant that.”
“Mhmm, I know what you were implying with ‘pillow fight’, you can’t fool me.”
Use clever wordplay.
Take the existing sentences and build silly statements from them. Think about related ideas to what’s being said. Exaggerate.
Use sexual innuendo or double entendres.
Find hidden meanings.
Use the element of surprise.
You want to start building your wit like a good comedian would. This is the basis of a lot of my humor and how I can always find something funny or sexual in even the most seemingly mundane. When you do this, every conversation can be hot and heavy but still under the radar.
She says something like, “I’m baking cupcakes — maybe I’ll give you one.”
You say, “So then maybe if I’m lucky I’ll have my cake and eat it, too
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She says, “Careful, I’m a ferocious shark.”
You reply, “So that means you must bite hard.”
She’s talking about learning Spanish. I say, “I can you teach me how to say, ‘PT you are so irresistible.’”
If its on then I like to give her a bold compliment.
It’s stronger to compliment a woman based on her personality rather than physical looks. That said, a more specific or unique compliment on appearance can work well.
It helps to reiterate that you find that quality attractive in her or in general with women. Use words like sexy, cute, or feisty.
Or you can playfully state that she is making you flustered or turned on.
“I find a strong moral compass to be one of the most attractive qualities in a woman.”
“I’m helpless when a woman genuinely smiles like that all the time.”
“You don’t take shit from anyone, that assertiveness is sexy.”
Convey that you’re currently thinking of her in a sexual way. THIS is the key to avoiding the friend zone
Suggesting that you’re thinking naughty thoughts in the moment can be quite a bold turn-on. But again, you want it to be subtle
and after she’s responding well to some light physical contact or suggestive flirting as shown above.
“If you don’t stop teasing me, I can’t promise I’ll keep being such a nice guy.”
“You have no idea what I’m thinking about right now.”
“I have way too many terrible thoughts running through my head.”
“I have to stop myself before I say some bad things.”
Get into sexual conversation.
Talking about sex gets women thinking about sex. And if they’re talking about it with you, who do you think they’re going to start associating it with?
The easiest way to get into sexual conversation is through questions. You get her to open up about her sexual side and she asks you about yours.
By being able to discuss those things in a fun, positive way, you’ll reinforce that she experiences good emotions with you. She feels like you have a healthy view on sex and aren’t judgmental – which only makes her further consider getting intimate with you.
Your initial questions should be less personal and easier for her to answer. As long as she’s continuing to be vulnerable with you, you can get more intimate with your inquiries.
Questions go from lighter to more intimate
How comfortable are you with public affection?
Have you ever gone skinny dipping?
Have you ever had a friend with benefits?
What unexpected place do you love being touched?
What’s your most awkward or embarrassing sexual experience?
How long do you think you could go without sex?
Have you ever been caught having sex?
Do you think porn is harmful or can it open up a person or couple’s sexuality?
See the escalation?
In summary: Verbal escalation is an essential foundation to lay if you want to get into the physical escalation.
Bonus
In college I developed this little routine specifically to get the conversation about sex. I would tell chicks that I actually had multiple personality disorder. When they inevitably would ask me questions the bit would run
something like this:
PT- "Yeah on one end of the spectrum I have a personality named Evan"
Chick- "Oh really? And what is Evan like?"
PT- "Well Evan is like the super sensitive guy who will hold your hand, watch a sunset with you, cuddles and makes slow sweet passionate love to you"
Chick- "Oh yeah? So what's else is in there?"
PT "Well on the other end of my personality spectrum is Mongo"
Chick "Oooh.. what's Mongo like?"
PT "Mongo is pretty much a caveman. He just reaches over and grabs you by the hair like this
(I'd slide my hand up the back of their neck onto the scalp and grab a big handful of hair on the back of their head and tug...even done it to two girls at once) He then drags you into the bedroom, tears your clothes off and proceeds to jungle fuck the shit out of you"
Of course "Mongo" always gets the strongest reaction. After the "OMG's" and laughs inevitably they ask "so which personality are you?"
PT -"Oh I'm just PT but I'm the most important one"
Chick- "Oh yeah, why's that?"
PT - "Cause I'm the one that knows when and decides which of the others needs to comes out to play" (smirk)
I can't count how many times I ran that bit in bars, parties or even from the back seat of a car. I've never failed to get a very positive reaction. It especially works well on two sets and I converted a few threesomes from it