Okay sorry for the intentionally cheesy and beta thread title, and move this to the newbie forum if need be. Today was a minor victory in game, sometimes we need minor victories to lead to the greater victories that we strive for.
I feel like a complete newbie again, it's funny how when you hit it off with a girl that you genuinely like, even a game hardened warrior who's seen it all can feel like a post-beta newbie finding game and getting a number from a hottie for the first time.
So I live in a small town where I tend to see a lot of familiar faces over time, essentially I have a good idea who some of the hottest girls in town are, and every now and then I see a girl that becomes the apple of my eye, that I half-jokingly refer to as my "dream girl."
I have crossed paths with my dream girl on a few occasions, but due to anxiety, nervousness, or what I perceived to be bad logistics I always held back and never went in to spit proper game.
Today after I had brunch I was cruising to check out the farmers market, when I passed by a clothing store, there was a dope v-neck with a drawing of a lion's face on the front, I went in to check it out, and then realized that my "dream girl" was working behind the counter and there was no one else in the store.
I asked her about the shirt, but they didn't have my size, I knew it was my opportunity to get some conversation going, and told her I liked her necklace and she mentioned how she had gotten it in Mexico, which she'd just gotten back from. I segued into how I'd travel for two months in Mexico, and we connected on that, then talked about our love of travel and where we both wanted to go to next.
Here's where the beta nice guy move came in, at some point in the conversation she mentioned how she was stuck at work and really wanted to get a coffee or espresso. I made a joke about how she need to make friends with baristas at the coffee shop down the street, so they will deliver her coffee. She said that would be amazing, in which I told her that I was headed to the farmers market and there was a coffee stand there, and that I would bring her a coffee on the way back.
She was like "no, I feel bad, you don't have to do that", and I realized I was treading too much on beta territory, so I was like "it's all good", motioned that my car was parked just past the shop, and told her "it's not like I'm making a special trip just for you, it's on my way back". She offered to pay and I told her I'd get the money when I came back.
I was getting really good vibes and it seemed like the coffee move scored me some points, she seemed genuinely appreciative and was feeling the "nice guy vibe". I made sure to chill at the farmers market and talk to a few homies long enough so that it would instill a bit of doubt whether I was coming back and didn't want to seem too eager.
When I got her coffee and came back she seemed really stoked to see me, fortunately the store was still empty and we picked up right where we left off and got into a really good conversation where we talked about ourselves, got past most superficial shit, and I felt like there was a pretty real connection, more so than talking to a woman in a loud bar where everyone is drunk.
After another 20-30 minutes of good conversation, I excused myself and told her I had a Thai kickboxing class to go to, and told her that she "seemed really cool" and asked if I could have her number. She did kind of hesitate for a split second before agreeing to give it to me, but seemed pretty enthusiastic overall.
I know I'm totally pedestalizing this chick which is often a great pitfall most guys fall into, and one that I have suffered from frequently in the past. Still it's really hard not to get excited when you meet one who checks all the boxes for what you like and what does it for you. This girl is at least an eight minimum, I'd say a nine... 5 ft 7 in., brunette, 23 years old, super tight body, gorgeous model caliber face, very nice ass and titties.
As much as I'm stoked on her though, I know in the back of my head that if she's "my dream girl" that means she's probably about 100+ other guys dream girl too. In this town sixes have the pick of the litter, so this chick is really at the top of the totem pole when it comes to her sexual value and the abundance of guys she can choose from.
I'm sort of hoping for the best with a half expectation that she'll either have a dude already, or that she'll flake one way or another by ignoring my text, flaking on meeting up, etc., etc.
Still after struggling being on a dry spell and in a funk, and getting probably one of the hottest girls in town's phone number after a really long good conversation is a minor win. I feel like even if it doesn't come through I got a nice jump start to my mojo and my vibe.
The takeaway from today as far as game goes is don't be a bitch, take advantage and approach when the opportunity presents itself. Day game has advantages in that if you do get a conversation going, neither person is drunk, and you can have more of a coherent meaningful conversation. Nice guy game can work well when you maintain the right frame, especially during day game, whereas nighttime a cocky funny vibe may be more necessary for the venue.
Finally I've been hitting the gym hard lately, maybe I'm getting a bump from my physique, I was rocking a very form fitting tank top today, that probably didn't hurt. Last night some bros hit me up for dinner right after I got out the gym, went to the brewery straight from the gym, did't shower or nothing, but was looking swole in a tight tank top, I got eye fucked and smiled at hard by another gorgeous girl sitting at a table by the exit, to the point where my two homies commented on it. I guess if you got muscles may as well show them off.
I feel like a complete newbie again, it's funny how when you hit it off with a girl that you genuinely like, even a game hardened warrior who's seen it all can feel like a post-beta newbie finding game and getting a number from a hottie for the first time.
So I live in a small town where I tend to see a lot of familiar faces over time, essentially I have a good idea who some of the hottest girls in town are, and every now and then I see a girl that becomes the apple of my eye, that I half-jokingly refer to as my "dream girl."
I have crossed paths with my dream girl on a few occasions, but due to anxiety, nervousness, or what I perceived to be bad logistics I always held back and never went in to spit proper game.
Today after I had brunch I was cruising to check out the farmers market, when I passed by a clothing store, there was a dope v-neck with a drawing of a lion's face on the front, I went in to check it out, and then realized that my "dream girl" was working behind the counter and there was no one else in the store.
I asked her about the shirt, but they didn't have my size, I knew it was my opportunity to get some conversation going, and told her I liked her necklace and she mentioned how she had gotten it in Mexico, which she'd just gotten back from. I segued into how I'd travel for two months in Mexico, and we connected on that, then talked about our love of travel and where we both wanted to go to next.
Here's where the beta nice guy move came in, at some point in the conversation she mentioned how she was stuck at work and really wanted to get a coffee or espresso. I made a joke about how she need to make friends with baristas at the coffee shop down the street, so they will deliver her coffee. She said that would be amazing, in which I told her that I was headed to the farmers market and there was a coffee stand there, and that I would bring her a coffee on the way back.
She was like "no, I feel bad, you don't have to do that", and I realized I was treading too much on beta territory, so I was like "it's all good", motioned that my car was parked just past the shop, and told her "it's not like I'm making a special trip just for you, it's on my way back". She offered to pay and I told her I'd get the money when I came back.
I was getting really good vibes and it seemed like the coffee move scored me some points, she seemed genuinely appreciative and was feeling the "nice guy vibe". I made sure to chill at the farmers market and talk to a few homies long enough so that it would instill a bit of doubt whether I was coming back and didn't want to seem too eager.
When I got her coffee and came back she seemed really stoked to see me, fortunately the store was still empty and we picked up right where we left off and got into a really good conversation where we talked about ourselves, got past most superficial shit, and I felt like there was a pretty real connection, more so than talking to a woman in a loud bar where everyone is drunk.
After another 20-30 minutes of good conversation, I excused myself and told her I had a Thai kickboxing class to go to, and told her that she "seemed really cool" and asked if I could have her number. She did kind of hesitate for a split second before agreeing to give it to me, but seemed pretty enthusiastic overall.
I know I'm totally pedestalizing this chick which is often a great pitfall most guys fall into, and one that I have suffered from frequently in the past. Still it's really hard not to get excited when you meet one who checks all the boxes for what you like and what does it for you. This girl is at least an eight minimum, I'd say a nine... 5 ft 7 in., brunette, 23 years old, super tight body, gorgeous model caliber face, very nice ass and titties.
As much as I'm stoked on her though, I know in the back of my head that if she's "my dream girl" that means she's probably about 100+ other guys dream girl too. In this town sixes have the pick of the litter, so this chick is really at the top of the totem pole when it comes to her sexual value and the abundance of guys she can choose from.
I'm sort of hoping for the best with a half expectation that she'll either have a dude already, or that she'll flake one way or another by ignoring my text, flaking on meeting up, etc., etc.
Still after struggling being on a dry spell and in a funk, and getting probably one of the hottest girls in town's phone number after a really long good conversation is a minor win. I feel like even if it doesn't come through I got a nice jump start to my mojo and my vibe.
The takeaway from today as far as game goes is don't be a bitch, take advantage and approach when the opportunity presents itself. Day game has advantages in that if you do get a conversation going, neither person is drunk, and you can have more of a coherent meaningful conversation. Nice guy game can work well when you maintain the right frame, especially during day game, whereas nighttime a cocky funny vibe may be more necessary for the venue.
Finally I've been hitting the gym hard lately, maybe I'm getting a bump from my physique, I was rocking a very form fitting tank top today, that probably didn't hurt. Last night some bros hit me up for dinner right after I got out the gym, went to the brewery straight from the gym, did't shower or nothing, but was looking swole in a tight tank top, I got eye fucked and smiled at hard by another gorgeous girl sitting at a table by the exit, to the point where my two homies commented on it. I guess if you got muscles may as well show them off.