Quote: (06-08-2011 06:10 AM)Chase Wrote:
How do you stay hungry - that it automatically pulls you to the gym, to eat right, to approach woman etc. rather than you pushing yourself all the time?
Especially when you have reached your thirties.
Hey man! Bringing the age factor in there is nothing more than a stupid demotivator. The average lifespan in most western, developed countries is 70+. You've got a looooong way to go.
When I first went out to meet women, I dragged my feet through it for a long time too. I didn't want to face the fear and/or put my personality on the line.
Here's the thought process that changed that:
One day I saw a hottie. I was on my way to catch a bus and she was walking the opposite way. Like I always did, I ignored her and went on my way. A few steps later, I stopped. It was a moment of decision: either I approached or I didn't, but there was a sense of finality - as if that decision would forever determine the course of my life where women were concerned.
Every time you have a decision (do I go to the gym, do I approach, etc.), the choice you make is something you'll have to live with for the rest of your life - because our lives are composed of such choices. Imagine what you will think about yourself when you're 50 or 60 when you're in lousy relationships, are outta shape, and have no money. Fear that day and you will have all the motivation you need.
I turned to look back at the girl... she was now about a block away. I looked at the bus stop; I was tired and could be home soon if caught that bus. I RAN, caught up with her 2 blocks further from where I saw her. I got her number; she flaked. Since then approaching has been so much easier. I still have nights where I totally don't want to do anything. But many more of my choices are leading my life in the direction I want than they were before.
Good luck.