[DonnyGately]

Watch Netflix and chill >>>>> sitting in a dark cinema being quiet.

If she's not going to come straight over, that's when you have a couple of drinks at a bar first and then bring her back to show off your pad, watch that movie, show her your vacation photos, keep drinking, etc.

A more advance move is have her come over before the drinks, tell her to come by before you head out so you can 'finish up some work' before she arrives, then give her the 2-minute tour and bounce [unless she wants to stay of course!]

[Donkey_Riding]

(05-30-2015 05:26 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:  

Meetup #3 should be getting drunk and banging. It should be a booty call.
Meetup #4 should be a date
Meetup #5 should be a booty call
Meetup #6

(05-30-2015 05:26 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:  

How I handle all my girls, starting with whenever it is we first bang:

Day 1: Bang
Day 2: Follow up on bang, suggest meeting up again sometime
Day 7: Text her, suggest meeting up the following week
Day 14: Date + rebang
Day 15: Follow up on bang, suggest meeting up again sometime

Rinse & Repeat. I keep a MINIMUM of 1 week between all meetups. Ideally I keep 2 weeks between bangs, and after the 3rd meet, I keep around 3 weeks or more in between bangs.

Great post. I have a couple of points to add.

First, your method of alternating fuck meetups with dates is quite similar to GLL's advice on retention of fuckbuddies, which is basically to limit contact, meet only occasionally, and do a "boyfriendish gesture" once every 2 or 3 meetups. I have also found this method to be quite effective.

In my experience, there are two kinds of girls:
1) Girls that thrive off these occasional "boyfriendish" gestures and, ultimately, would want something more (although they ultimately realize and accept that that probably isn't happening, even if they won't admit it to themselves). These girls are chasing you while you give them a bit here and there, leaving them wanting more. Since they're chasing you, you can get courtship gestures like gifts, meals, baking.
2) Girls that are completely cool with being in it just for the sex. They've bought into the strict fuckbuddy frame.

The second category of girls will actually keep fucking you for months without requiring any boyfriendish gestures to retain them at all. These are girls where literally every meetup is them coming over to my place to fuck, and I can openly mention other girls I'm seeing without them becoming the least bit jealous (for girls of the other type it's don't ask, don't tell, as you say).

Girls in the first category will, in my experience, often try to define the relationship eventually, and may eventually break it off when you don't give them anything more.

Girls in the second category will never try to define the relationship, but they are more likely to randomly ghost on you (sometimes because they get a boyfriend).

[capote]

Would this work with slightly older women (early 30s) who are looking for a relationship? I have a candidate who refused to come home the first time (got a heavy make-out though) but seems down for the second time. She flat out mentioned she's not interested only in sex and that she has a guy who takes care of just that. In this case I want to join her team lol.

[Noir]

Ceremonial bump.

[SpursFan741]

Some questions to fellow players out here:

I was banging another chick last night and she slept over. However , at 5 AM , an old fuckbuddy ( I'm a bit ambiguous with her, I already ignore her for 1 week and half and she thinks we have a relationship but I never admitted It and I was somewhat ambiguous and said we are still friends now but I keep it open for the future, which I don't, I just wanted to keep her in my harem) knocks completely drunk on my door ( she's a desperate black western chick ) while I was still in my small studio with another girl, who I love to keep in my harem. I go outside because she kept knocking and I tell her to fuck off and If she's not disappearing in 5 minutes, I'd Call the cops and I told her I don't want have anything to do with her. She shouted: I thought you loved me. She stays there for 10 minutes and kept knocking, I go back outside , give her her a last aggressive warning and then she leaves. I then said something to this girl who was with me that she is an absolute psycho and that I should have called the cops and that she was an old psycho friend of me. I fucked the girl that was staying over again in the morning and she seemed to have no problems with it.

How will I avoid this in the future? That some fuckbuddy still loves you, even you let her know she's just a friend, shows up in the middle of the night or day and be so needy. Even I drop her as FB, she still can come to my place..

And did I lose frame? And how can I improve in the future?

[RedPillUK]

I would probably not be able to control my anger if ANYONE knocked on my door at 5am without a good reason.

Edit: You could also live somewhere with a front gate to get in and your place a long way away from it.

[Jetset]

(09-03-2018 08:02 AM)SpursFan741 Wrote:  

How will I avoid this in the future? That some fuckbuddy still loves you, even you let her know she's just a friend, shows up in the middle of the night or day and be so needy. Even I drop her as FB, she still can come to my place..

I once asked on a thread about choosing the best player pad which feature, out of a list of five, was the best for making your place ideal for game.

One poster suggested that the doorman is best because it helps to keep drama away from your door.

Another poster said that the doorman is best because if your plate doesn't like your place, you can just have your doorman throw her out.

Get a doorman.

[don_quixote]

I agree with the basic premise of the thread, but it's needlessly complicated.

Simply have multiple girlfriends, and a calendar app to keep track of them. Treat each one as a real girlfriend even if she is just an FB to you.

Also, the girls shalt never know of each other (except in the most basic dread-inducing situations as required).

Keep it simple, stupid.

[MY DETROIT PLAYAS]

@SpursFan741 - Get rid of the ambiguity

Problem #1 'She thinks you are in a relationship'

Problem #2 Showing up unannounced shows blatant disrespect

Never lie to hold a woman in place. This is the fallout for such a move

[Anchor]

Just stumbled on this thread and it's gold. But I'm curious why there aren't more replies. Isn't having a harem like this the ideal for most of the men here? The OP has laid it all out. Perhaps the word "harem" puts people off, but the principle is simply having multiple, ongoing women in your life, none of whom you are lying to. Any questions?